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How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 1:32:52 PM

Lashra

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Scene: Your at a munch and in walks a stunning woman who catches your eye. She's lived in the area, been into the lifestyle for numerous years but only recently joined the area *scene*. The two of you get to talking, not only is she good looking and hot, but she is also intelligent and very much a Domme. Over the course of the conversation you find that the two of you have alot in common and there is chemistry. Before she leaves for the night she gives you her phone number and whispers into your ear "I'd love to get to know you better. Perhaps even tie you naked to my bed and do wicked things to your body."

If this happened to you how would you react? Would you be insulted? flattered? tongue tied or would your legs turn to jelly and you could only nod?

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 1:43:57 PM

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Hmmmm depends on how good the conversation was. In general I'd think she was going a bit too fast for my tastes, but would give it time to see what developed.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 1:56:27 PM

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I tend to reply with the hand gesture of two fists butting up against each other, and then a finger snap with an associated DAMN.

Basicly telling them while the thought of sexual relations is flattering and interesting the idea of butting heads just makes it not a good fit Damn curse the luck.

I use the same type of response to gay men who hit on me, and when I find a lesbian woman who akes my loins hot.

Damn it another joke played by mother nature putting us in incompattable bodies/ genders/ orientations.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 5:51:14 PM

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Thanks, I enjoyed our conversation however I'm straight. Good luck.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 6:03:36 PM

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Okay! I happen to be a male sub, so it could not be a more welcome offer. Do I need to pay you, or is it free?

Then I would proceed to hump her leg, cum, lick it off, and go on my merry way.

Yours,

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 6:05:35 PM

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I tell her to kneel! ;)

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 6:09:52 PM

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Its along the lines of Sorry sweetie, you had me until "tie you up".
Same thing if I am approached by a Dom, which hapens on occasion.
However, if they were interesting enough, I might point them in the direction of an unowned sub I might know. Maybe that'll make 2 people happy, why not?

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 9:33:59 PM

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Well, let's see....... I'm going to my first public outing in forever on Thursday. I have my doubts, but I'll try to approach with an open mind.

A 'really' open mind would consider the question above. Except for the fact it simply isn't going to happen.

If it does, you'll be the first to know.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 9:41:24 PM

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I think it all depends on the chemistry. If there's an intense chemistry it's amazing what we might be open to. Personally I never say "never"....what's life without the excitement of possibility? er.....wouldn't that be rather vanilla?

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 9:47:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Scene: Your at a munch and in walks a stunning woman who catches your eye. She's lived in the area, been into the lifestyle for numerous years but only recently joined the area *scene*. The two of you get to talking, not only is she good looking and hot, but she is also intelligent and very much a Domme. Over the course of the conversation you find that the two of you have alot in common and there is chemistry. Before she leaves for the night she gives you her phone number and whispers into your ear "I'd love to get to know you better. Perhaps even tie you naked to my bed and do wicked things to your body."

If this happened to you how would you react?

That's easy... I'd pinch myself to wake up.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 9:47:58 PM

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with my luck...i would wake up before anything interesting occured...LOL

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 10:01:31 PM

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I have had the good fortune of being surrounded by potent women my entire professional life. One might even refer to them as non kink dommes... Knowing where one stands in another's eyes is a clarity that exists only as an intimacy between them. I find that dommes just have a deeper menu... so...I would simply smile and embrace the moment.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/10/2006 10:57:27 PM

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This seems such an odd question in this forum. I can't wait to see some more of the Masters answering it. I asked Himself this question and he kind of stared at me and commented that he wouldn't have chemistry with a domme, but if they got along that well he'd probably be willing to go over to her house and tie her to the bed.

Maybe he misunderstood the question. ::chuckles::

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 3:30:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Scene: Your at a munch and in walks a stunning woman who catches your eye. She's lived in the area, been into the lifestyle for numerous years but only recently joined the area *scene*. The two of you get to talking, not only is she good looking and hot, but she is also intelligent and very much a Domme. Over the course of the conversation you find that the two of you have alot in common and there is chemistry. Before she leaves for the night she gives you her phone number and whispers into your ear "I'd love to get to know you better. Perhaps even tie you naked to my bed and do wicked things to your body."

If this happened to you how would you react? Would you be insulted? flattered? tongue tied or would your legs turn to jelly and you could only nod?

~Lashra

I'm trying to envision mutual "chemistry" with a woman who has the "wrong" eyes. I've been to plenty of munches and met several Dommes I'd generally describe as attractive females but that's where my interest ends....

But to continue the hypothetical, the easy part is that I wouldn't be jelly legged or tongue-tied because I'm simply not attracted to dominant women, vanilla or D/s oriented. Ergo, they have no power over me.

As for being flattered or insulted, I'd more than likely just be suspicious of her motives because she wouldn't be getting any submissive vibes from me. Every Domme I've ever met has been polite, respectful and, probably because of my physical size, even wary when meeting for the first time. The few who do know me might run your scenario as a flirt/joke etc just as I'm always light-heartedly bossing my female vanilla friends about to get a reaction....

Sorry, but if a Domme wants to get that close and personal with me, it'll be her who does as she's told....

Focus.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 4:40:53 AM

Lashra

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The reason I asked this question is because we Dommes have been asked how we handle Dom's approaching us. I thought we'd try the reverse and see what replies would be posted.

If it were me I'd have to tell her, sorry but I have to run things in my relationships and in my playtime. Its just the way that I'm wired.

~Lashra

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 7:54:11 AM

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Well... that "tie you up" comment isn't going to be accepted very well... the post had promise up to that.

I would have to say that if this took place that a few things might have been going on...

1) The person that this beautiful dominant woman was speaking to gave off vibes that she perceived as that they would enjoy being tied up by her & she tested the waters by tossing out the comment..

2) She was just joking around.

3) She is arrogant & crossed a line.

I've been in this position... I'm approached by & I've approached plenty of men who identify themselves as dominant. I've often picked up on vibes that were the direct opposite as to the role they promoted. Even with this said... I would never be so brash as to suggest something like this unless the door was completely opened up for that line. (such as example 1 or 2 )

I also agree with LA... first conversation... someone is moving pretty fast. Not something I would do or respond to in a positive manner if done to me.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 8:11:05 AM

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 8:19:39 AM

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At the moment she said that I'd probably laugh, then the next day I'd call her up. But that's just me being a slut; I'd also make it perfectly clear that my mind is not wired to submit.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 9:06:58 AM

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quote:

Lashra - Scene: Your at a munch and in walks a stunning woman who catches your eye. [SNIP] ... Before she leaves for the night she gives you her phone number and whispers into your ear "I'd love to get to know you better. Perhaps even tie you naked to my bed and do wicked things to your body. [SNIP] ... If this happened to you how would you react? Would you be insulted? flattered? tongue tied or would your legs turn to jelly and you could only nod? [SNIP] ... If it were me I'd have to tell her, sorry but I have to run things in my relationships and in my playtime. Its just the way that I'm wired.

I have been reading the replies to Lashra's "dilemma" with some interest because this happened to Me.* Not the exact same scenario, but a while ago, while I was not engaged in a primary D/s or M/s relationship, a fairly well known local Domme who I'd met at scene events and cooresponded with online approached Me. She said she wanted to explore kink and sexual areas that were new to her. She was/is a pretty well confirmed Top, and identifies primarily (tho not exclusively--lucky Me!) as Lesbian. I am a pretty well confirmed hetero Top. So you would wonder what would happen in such a relationship, besides the two of us glaring at eachother and arguing over who tied up whom?

In fact, what happened was a fun, illuminating, albeit brief fling with a lot of friendship, introspection, learning and a tremendous amount of kink. It started out based on curiousity and lust (not bad things) and it grew into a friendship with occasional bouts of "drama". It ended physically when she moved away to take a teaching job, and it ended emotionally as we found other primary partners. But I have to say that it also ended in part because both of us were acutely aware that "this" wasn't what we really wanted in our lives. All was not always rosy -- we argued more than I like in a relationship, over time spent together, emotional committments and other relationship stuff. Yes, there was a lot of tension over "who's gonna be on Top", but in fact I think that tension added to the relationship. The areas where we argued were not over kink or orientation, but more over committment in the relationship and such.

So what would I do in Lashra's situation? If I wasn't otherwise committed, I'd probably say "Yes, but lets see who gets tied up as the evening progresses!" and yes, I'd be very flattered, too.

(And NO, I'm not gonna tell you who won out on "Who's on Top". A gentleman doesn't disclose such things.)

E.

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*Please forgive that -- sounds like a "Penthouse Letter" (I never thought this would happen to me, but one Thursday evening in the laundromat the Swedish Midget Submissive Bikini Team walked in and said they needed help finding their respective g-spots...) But I digress.

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RE: How Do You Handle Being Approached by a Domme? - 10/11/2006 11:46:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Scene: Your at a munch and in walks a stunning woman who catches your eye. She's lived in the area, been into the lifestyle for numerous years but only recently joined the area *scene*. The two of you get to talking, not only is she good looking and hot, but she is also intelligent and very much a Domme. Over the course of the conversation you find that the two of you have alot in common and there is chemistry. Before she leaves for the night she gives you her phone number and whispers into your ear "I'd love to get to know you better. Perhaps even tie you naked to my bed and do wicked things to your body."

If this happened to you how would you react? Would you be insulted? flattered? tongue tied or would your legs turn to jelly and you could only nod?

I have always been flattered and amused when this has happened, even if not quite in the scenario you describe above.

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