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SlaveAkasha -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 11:11:21 AM)

I had this just the other day, but mine went away by the next day.  If it doesn't, I would for sure get some help for it. 
 
I am scared now to do it again, I admit that.  Master says he will be very careful, but I admit the fear is still there for me. 
 
I am determined not to let one bad experience ruin the pleasure that can come from it in the future.  I hope that you won't either, just always use LUBE, LUBE, LUBE.  There is no such thing as too much of it.
 
Akasha



young12serve -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 2:46:19 PM)

Hey all.

To try to answer all your questions. I am not planning to see her again. Hell no, lol. Who would? She knew I was a virgin, and really I've seen movies about safe anal sex. Usually it takes some time foreplay, warming up and it starts slow. It's not just 'shove it up there', not matter how submissve someone is.
The good news is that I am feeling a bit better. I've had one stool with no blood on it, then next one had blood on it again. Latest one had no blood..... according to the pattern, next one should have blood, but I hope not. The fact that I already had two normal ones is a good sign, right?



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 2:50:57 PM)

Now let this be a lesson to you.. You now know first hand what it is like to be "raped".



Rayne58 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 7:16:58 PM)

quote:

I am scared now to do it again, I admit that. Master says he will be very careful, but I admit the fear is still there for me.


I had a bad experience with anal when I was first married, he "accidentally" slipped it in the wrong hole [8|][:(] All I remember of it is excruciating pain and bleeding off and on for the next 3 days. Absolutely NO one got near my butt again for over 20 years.

I met someone then who showed me how good it could be when it is done right (not Master).

Master and I have only done it a handful of times when we first got together, mainly because of His health problems. I'm not so scared of it now but still get apprehensive....and now He's talking about getting some Viagra so we can try it again. I need a lot of reassurance and foreplay and need to be highly aroused before I'm relaxed enough. It's been over two years since we had full anal, although He has used His fingers and a slim toy. I enjoy the sensations but have never had an orgasm that way. My fear is all in my mind and is something I have to work through.........[&o]



substeve10 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/14/2006 4:15:26 PM)

Wow, being new to the lifestyle I have to say how impressed I am by what I have read. I have suffered from an anal tear too but not through anal play, it followed an accident when I had a blood loss and had to suffer the consequences of taking iron sulphate tablets (if you've been there you know what I mean :-)
I am now hoping to start a new life with a mistress whom I admire very much but am concerned about any possible anal play. It gives me great confidence to hear so much good advice from other dommes on this site, you all seem to be so caring and that is very reassuring, thank you!



michaelGA2 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/14/2006 4:17:07 PM)

this will never happen to me as i have major reservations about the whole issue.



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/14/2006 4:53:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

this will never happen to me as i have major reservations about the whole issue.


Reservations? I didn't know you had to make reservations for anal play.  [sm=confused.gif]



SirLordTrainer -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/14/2006 5:56:12 PM)

LMFFAO!!!!!



Tenebrious -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 5:16:23 AM)

Michael, party of two?

Michael, party of two?

:P



michaelGA2 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 5:18:50 AM)

ROTFLMAO....sorry folks, the place is booked and the reservations have all been cancelled...LOL



Aileen68 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 6:35:21 AM)

Ok...this is a little off topic, but your nic actually caught my eye.
I read it as  young "12" (as in inches) to serve.  Silly me...fanning myself.

And sorry that your ass hurts.

edited to add that you have a VERY expressive pic.



MstrssScarlet -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 12:54:56 PM)

As everyone else has stated, it's really a shame that you had this terrible experience with something that can be a lot of fun.  I usually start with one finger (lots of lube) and then slowly stretch the area until I can get a second finger in.  I gently and SLOWLY continue to stretch the area until I can almost fit a third finger in.  While I'm doing this, I'm wearing a strapon with my smallest attachment.  At this point I take my fingers out and gently slide in the strapon.  At this point you need plenty of feedback from the "strapee".  Sometimes it helps to stop for a few minutes if the muscles begin to clench up again.  The most important thing is to learn to "relax into it".   And of course, the mantra for anyone participating in anal play  lube, lube, lube. 
Important questions she should have asked and taken into account:  Is this your first time?  When was the last time you did it?  (If it's been a while, you basically have to start over)  What was the size of the strapon (or toy) used last time?
I am indeed aware that going too fast can end up with an internal tear.  There are few things scarier than internal bleeding.  The advice for aftercare you've received so far is pretty good.  I would agree 100 percent with the people who have told you to get to the hospital if you continue to have any bleeding.
I certainy hope this experience hasn't completely turned you off.  Perhaps you can find someone in your area that's more experienced and patient.
Mistress Scarlet



MstrssScarlet -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:03:18 PM)

Sorry, but I forgot to mention....SLIGHT bleeding afterward does sometimes occur.  However, it should only occur immediately after play and stop shortly after that (usually within the hour).
Mistress Scarlet



michaelGA2 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:07:34 PM)

what is the big thrill of usin a strap-on on a guy anyway?



Lashra -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:11:05 PM)

Its a very powerful feeling for the Domme and alot of men love it. Just like most women like being taken from behind and having their hair yanked on AKA riding the pony, so do alot of men.[;)] In fact I don't know many who don't like it who have experienced it. Most can have an orgasm while having it done too.

~Lashra



michaelGA2 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:12:09 PM)

doesn't sound like something i would be interested in.



Lashra -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:17:55 PM)

You never know until you try it. Butt, to each their own.[:D]

~Lashra



michaelGA2 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:20:51 PM)

sounds too much like having sex with a guy, and i don't play that game...sorry.



MstrssScarlet -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/15/2006 1:34:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Its a very powerful feeling for the Domme and alot of men love it. Just like most women like being taken from behind and having their hair yanked on AKA riding the pony, so do alot of men.[;)] In fact I don't know many who don't like it who have experienced it. Most can have an orgasm while having it done too.

~Lashra



Bingo!  And if you can manage to take them from the front, the rush is even greater.  My experience anyway.
As for orgasms, that's a definite yes as well.  As it moves in and out, the strapon is massaging the prostate gland which is very arrousing for most men.
Mistress Scarlet



Bearlee -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/16/2006 9:13:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong


And Bear.. LUBE???  What kinda masochist are you?? Is EVERYBODY here just a wannabe?? All talk and no submission????
 
Am I the only REAL one here?? Hello?? Helllooooo?
 
 
(y'all  know I'm kidding.. right?)  



LOL... okay, know you were kidding; but just wanted to point out I meantioned not likeing the 'deadening cream'... LOTS of (regular) lube is a very good thing!
 
bearlee



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