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sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 10:13:11 AM

xbutterflyx

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Hello..I have a question. I am so very confused about something my Sir said to me..I have yet to ask him about it. I asked him why didn't he allow me to do things for him..i.e. do housework..etc..He told me that he sees me as a sexual slave and not a service slave. Will someone please give me their opinion about this statement? Does it mean I am just his slut and not worthy of any other type of service to him? I am his slut..grins. But would like to do more for him. I feel upset about this..should I be??
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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 10:15:06 AM

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Not worthy? It's less stuff you have to do, don't complain. Find other ways to enhance the sexual service you provide.

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 11:23:44 AM

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He told me that he sees me as a sexual slave and not a service slave.

There's another spin on this -- he may see himself as a bedroom top and isn't interested in domming you beyond that, but calling you a sexual slave twists it around to make it your issue. That would be fine if you were just interested in being a bedroom submissive, but from what we've got here it sounds like you want more than that; this could be a mismatch.

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 11:29:17 AM

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Each will draw their own lie.
Personally I lieve the line gets drawn in cases such as yours because the idea of recieving service (ther than sexual) squicks some people.
Some people have trouble with letting the D/s aspects of their sexual nature extend into the rest of their lives. For many it's the "All men/ (women) are created equal" and to treat someone as a servant seems to run contrary to that ideal.

The difference for me seems to be in the comfort level the reciever of service has with recieving various types of service.

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 11:34:05 AM

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I'm surprised that you've made it to the point of being committed as your slave and JUST NOW deciding exactly what that means to you both.

Apparently for him it means he wants to use you sexually and apply your services to him in a sexual arena, but does not want your services elsewise.

I think you two need to sit down and talk about all this- you don't have to be a service submissive to be helpful around the house and he needs to be given an opportunity to explain exactly how he values you.

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 1:30:28 PM

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Maybe he just doesnt want you going through his stuff.. Do you live together or apart? Some people have privacy issues... best way to find out though is to ask Him.

Good luck to you !

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 2:57:06 PM

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Have you asked him? Perhaps it's not that you're not worthy of doing other service, but simply that he doesn't want you to.

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RE: sexual or service slave..what is the difference?? - 10/13/2006 7:39:17 PM

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Lucky girl! You can come do my housework if you want, lol.

I would imagine that he feels that he would prefer your time together not to be spent in scrubbing floors but in play. This assumes you don't live together and that he's been thinking about your encounters when apart, planning things he wants to try etc. If you want to do stuff for him without taking away from your together time, prepare things in advance. Bake him cookies to take with him. Offer to take his ripped shorts home and mend them in your spare time. That sort of thing. This way you could be helping and still be totally available when together.

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