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lilyophelia -> RE: Two Dommes wrote to me. I'm impressed! (10/15/2006 11:56:41 PM)
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Okay, this is so off topic, but is the picture from Fushigi Yuugi? Is that Tomahome (sp?) and Miaka? If so, i think it's a very cute profile pic ^^
Moving on...separations. You know, i broke up with my very first love, after five years, and it was traumatic and awful, and very sad. i believed, for all of our troubles, that we would always be together...in a forever sort of way. These days, i could never imagine myself with her. Instead of struggling to be happy, i have to struggle to find reasons to be unhappy (and i'm not allowed to actually try to be sad, so...). What i'm saying, i guess, is that sometimes break-ups and separations are neccessary, because they open the door to the next, and hopefully better, experience. If you've learned a lot from your service to this last Individual, you'll hopefully be able to apply it to another relationship, making it even better.
And...there is always the chance that you and your previous Domme will work things out, after a bit of time away from each other. Sometimes, a bit of distance can put everything back into persepective. i had this experience just a bit ago, when my Miss was away for a whole month, and we could hardly speak. It was awful and terrible, and i wanted to just fall apart...but mid-way through it, i could see all these things that i couldn't see before, and we talked through them, and now our relationship is so much deeper and more workable than it was before She left. Maybe the same will happen for you.
If you really love Her, and She has left the door in anyway open, then just reaffirm your devotion to Her, even with nothing in return. If it's honest, and sincere, and you strive to address the problems that your specific relationship/arrangement had previously, i can't imagine Her not being touched by all the effort. It might take weeks or months, or longer...and She might never look at you again, but that kind of introspective searching and self-improvement will make you absolutely beautiful to your next Owner/Dominant.
One of the most beautiful and sacred times in my life occured when i was single, and very alone. Of course i was sad, but i grew so much, and i had so much time to devote to just adoring life. If you have to move on, fight the temptation to jump into a rebound relationship. Flirt a bit, scene casually, have good friends, or just spend time alone for a while...when you're ready, you'll find the place where you belong. ^^
Good luck, and lots of encouraging huggles,
lily
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