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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 5:20:56 AM

becca333

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Why do all the fakes bother? How do they get the time and energy to maintain all the lies?

To the OP - assume everyone is lying all the time. Then when you meet the ones who aren't, it'll be a nice surprise. Don't take anyone or anything seriously. And don't let all the flaming bother you - it's just part of the charm of this place.

And don't expect to instantly hook up with someone - it takes time, and this isn't the best place to go fishing. But it's a great education.

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 7:11:28 AM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333

To the OP - assume everyone is lying all the time. Then when you meet the ones who aren't, it'll be a nice surprise. Don't take anyone or anything seriously. And don't let all the flaming bother you - it's just part of the charm of this place.

I actually do the opposite. I start off assuming everyone is being honest and then let them dig their own hole of lies while I sit and watch......and laugh my ass off cuz they still think I am believing it. The funny thing is that it becomes obvious very quickly. shrugging.......it's cheap entertainment.......

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 10/15/2006 7:12:24 AM >

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 8:49:26 AM

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Maybe it was her sister???

Hmmmmmmmm maybe send picture when yours arrives I'll send you pictures ;)

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 2:42:46 PM

Mavis

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yanno, i must be really weird.   i really haven't had a problem with fakes.

i've been online since 1990, my first service was Delphi.   and my first post was all capped "AM I ONLINE?   CAN YOU SEE ME?" on an irc channel, i believe.   i "progressed" to Prodigy, then landed a job with AOL in 1993. (real pay! not chat guide volunteer)    So if anyone could have run up some serious fake-time, i would think i should have. Maybe i'm not diligent enough.

What i have found are people that want completely diffeent things out of online discussions, a lot that want to play a personna they can't face in real life, a lot who see the world very differently from the way i do, and a lot who see it as a quick way to a green card in the land of plenty. Bless them, if i lived in some of those places, i might do the exact same thing. (Although i wonder if every computer sold in Nigeria comes pre-loaded with AOL, and the browser has Alt.com, AdultFriendFinder and CastleRelam.com bookmarked?)

i have enjoyed most of my discussions, and a lot of friends, i will never know if they are really 45 year old mothers of 4, or 60 year old cross dressers... and you know what? Unless i was wanting to have an offline relationship with those people, it doesn't matter. i've enjoyed the conversations.

Connecting with someone who isn't who you think that are is no different from a married women who finds out at 70 that her husband never really believed in the church, although they made mass faithfully for 45 years. Because she didn't know he didn't believe, but he acted like he did, was her life conducted any differently? Probably not. Online isn't the only place we interact with people who don't know who they are.
Read http://www.midlifewivesclub.com/ <---- scarey shit! but quite helpful.

The only time it matters is when you're trying to engage in a fully rounded relationship, and that should include offline interactions. But even then, it's no more guarenteed that person knows who they are offline than they do when they're online.   <shrug>

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 3:13:24 PM

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lol It just gets me upset cause i am here for real i am not fake i woulnd be puting a profile up if i didnt want to do it, and just screwing around with people who really want to learn.

You have to take the good with the bad. Sometimes you have to sift through the dirt to find the treasure. yes, there are fakes on this site. There on fakes online in general and any other BDSM site you go to you will encounter much of the same. If you are going to run and hide and change your name and profile every time you encounter a fake then you are going to be running forever and your going to miss out on the good. If you want something real and you "have" to have it right now then I suggest that you start looking for munches and other like minded people in your area and get out and get to know people and learn.

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 3:31:56 PM

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Mavis, I am so with you on this and you expressed it beautifully. I'm pretty much an internet junkie, and I can have different kinds of interactions on line than off. One kind of interaction isn't better than the other. They are just different.

As for fakes, there's so many other things that could be happening besides outright faking, that I simply suspend judgement and go with the flow of the interaction if theres nothing in it that sets off an alarm or bothers me. If it stops being productive (ie: I'm no longer having fun, I'm not getting any new insights, I lose the flow, I'm not learning anything) I stop interacting.

The way I see it, as I read other peoples writing, I get basic images of people but they're MY images, not theirs. In other words, I am constructing them in my imagination as I converse. I don't know what kind of impression the other person is getting from my typing at them, and they may be conjuring up an image in their mind that is very different from the real me. In which case, I could be considered the faker.

Basically, if you want something real, make it real as soon as possible, meet off line and get that reality check.

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RE: FAKES - 10/15/2006 4:15:04 PM

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Dear UTS-

Relax- it's a tough crowd, but here's a kicker- they are real<g>.

I have encountered an amazing array of fakes, phonies, the mad, sad and just plain bad in my few years here.

I have also met some wonderful, real, beautiful people who have enriched my world just by existing, and though nothing has stuck, so far, I have had a lovely romance or two.

Calm, down, and hang in there. It's not as easy as saying 'I want' and having it delivered.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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