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schoolgirl19bi -> discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:42:08 PM)
I am a fairly young sub and i'm starting a new relationship with a master who is new to this and we were wondering if anyone had any suggestions for collaring me so that it is discreet (i am still in school) yet still obviously a collar (so somewhat restrictive, but comfy). Any suggestions?

sub4hire -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:47:21 PM)
A collar is anything you want it to be. A locket. Bracelet. Chain. Could be a key. Anything the two of you share with the symbolism attached. There are no rules. Most assume the lifestyle is leather and chains. It actually isn't. I rarely see that at parties. People using play collars, I'd have to say the one I see the most is a plain leather choker. Yet, these same people do not wear them on a daily basis. Going to school, work and such. Just choose something that means something to the both of you. Only you are the one who needs to know the true meaning behind it.

Darthbetta -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:50:09 PM)
Basic: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&category=10999&item=4960686050&rd=1 or VERY FANCY: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&category=11313&item=4956561381&rd=1&ssPageName=WD1V

FangsNfeet -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:50:12 PM)
send a private message to proud sub and she'll jerk out the old thread on this topic for ya for she's just that sweet and able to spend time helping you find that thread. Otherwise, look on the net with the Search Topic "Collars." I'm sure you and your master will find something that you'll like. In the meantime, go back a few pages on the Ask a Master and General Discussion. Also, don't forget about our Clothes, Apparel, and Gear in the All Forums. Check it out, it's good.

schoolgirl19bi -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:50:44 PM)
i agree that its not all about whips and chains and leather, but all the same we would like me to have a collar that i can wear at all times as he is out of the country a lot.

domtimothy46176 -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 3:58:29 PM)
I bought my girl a collar from eternitycollars.com. I love the look and the feel and it can easily pass as a nilla necklace. Timothy

proudsub -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 4:22:06 PM)
quote: send a private message to proud sub and she'll jerk out the old thread on this No need for private message. If you browse under "artisans" and "scene related links" you will find a lot of members here make jewelry. Also here's another thread on it: bondage collars

SirTyson -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 5:10:57 PM)
As sub4hire said, it can be anything you want it to be, a locket, bracelet, anklet, etc. There are also people or companies who makes collars that look like jewelry and know one would know the difference. One thing I usually have a sub wear as a collar in her 9-5 life is a lace chocker. They come in different colors and can be accesorized with most outfits.

perverseangelic -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 6:07:07 PM)
I generally wear a dog choke chain (small size links) with a smaller ring connecting the two end rings. It looks like a "punk rock" necklace, which works for me, and I've never had any problems at school or at work.

velvetvixen -> RE: discreet collars (1/24/2005 6:22:57 PM)
I have a leather and metal collar that Master had made for me. The links are oval shaped. What I wear everyday is a diamond and gold pendant that matches the link. You can wear whatever you want to wear and call it a collar. Your "mental" collar is the one that really matters.

Cyis75 -> RE: discreet collars (1/25/2005 11:51:42 AM)
For cases needing discretion I've never seen any problems with chains. My kitty before moving in wore a simply silver chain that had a heart-shaped lock holding it on that she wore 24/7. Depending on if more discretion was needed she could spin it around so that the lock was at the back of her neck and hidden by her hair so no one was the wiser. She and I knew what it meant and that's what ultimately mattered. It could also be as simple as a necklace with a unique or special locket or ornament on it. I've seen some that have a kneeling submissive on various sites. It looks mundane enough and those that recognize it will know what it is and those that don't it can be take as a unique necklace. The real matter, atleast in my situation, is that it is simply a symbol and can really be whatever works for you. Currently my kitty has a leather collar but she doesn't wear it all the time, mostly when we're at a more formal event. However she does wear the diamond solitare engagement ring around her finger always and has told me on more than one occassion the collar is always bound around her heart whether she wears a collar or not.

firefey -> RE: discreet collars (1/27/2005 12:30:23 AM)
i have to second the sugestion of etenity collars. they are really beauiful, and don't look like a collar to the casual observer. they also lock in place seamlessly, and you can even hang a charm or pendant that has special meaning to both of you.

Domjeremy -> RE: discreet collars (2/2/2005 5:59:16 AM)
Another thing to keep in mind is a collar is a symbol between the two of you. It is perfectly acceptable to wear a nice silver necklace with a locket of your Masters picture or maybe a necklace with an s on it. These are things you could get from any jewlery store and you would understand the meaning of it without raising question. Hope you find what you like

DarkQuin -> RE: discreet collars (2/2/2005 9:07:42 AM)
I would suggest getting a ring, name bracelet, a locket and chain or some other piece of jewelry for the everyday reminder of the special that you and your master share and a kinky collar for those times when you are with like-minded people, alone, and when you are in your master's presence. I suggest the latter, because the feel and weight of a leather and steel collar can not be replaced by vanilla ornamentation. You will know exactly what I mean when feel your body moved by the leather collar's ring at the base of your throat by your master's hand as he brings you to his lips. Quin P.S When you are connected to something by a length of chain or rope, keep a length of it in hand, because you never know when you may unexpectedly run out of it. Things that can such events are the chain being stepped on by another person, it getting caught on something, the person holding the other end moving away while you are in motion(yes we are sadistic bastards), and the chain being shortened or lengthed without your knowledge(ditto). It is much more elegant when a slave carries her chain and doesn't just drag it all along behind her.

BeachMystress -> RE: discreet collars (2/5/2005 12:06:26 AM)
You might want to look at the Screw Down chain collars on http://www.bondagecollars.com/collar.htm They are made with regular necklace chain (you can choose the type of chain) and either a hex screw closure or a tamper resistant snake eye screw closure. I will be collaring my sub and I'll be getting one of these as his daily collar. We both like the fact that the snake eye screws use a spanner that isn't readily available, thus making the collar a bit more secure. While a physical collar is only the representation of the emotional bond, having it tamper resistant does help the mental mindset. Now.. collaring isn't something to be done quickly or lightly. It isn't going steady with someone. It is more the equivalent of engagement or marriage. It is a commitment. I know it seems like a romantic idea, but resist collaring just for the sake of saying you belong to someone. Here are some links for you to read on collaring.. Collar Caution http://www.frugaldomme.com/etiquette/dometiq7.htm Collaring http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/sub_collars.php3 Collaring Cermony http://www.castlerealm.com/library/collar.shtml Collars http://cuffs.com/submission/collar2.html Collars http://www.explore-sex.com/sex_and_romance/C/Collar_(BDSM).html Collars Explained http://www.erotic-bdsm.net/Articles/The_Collar.html Collars and Traditions http://www.castlerealm.com/library/morecollars.shtml The Collar of Consideration http://www.steel-door.com/Consideration_Collar.html The Formal Collar http://www.steel-door.com/Formal_Collar.html The Training Collar http://www.steel-door.com/Training_Collar.html Good luck and happiness :-)

nella -> RE: discreet collars (2/6/2005 7:28:11 AM)
Here is a resepie for making a werry simple collar that can pass as a neclace: You will need: Several thin leter thongs, aboute 3 milimeters or some wide, or winder if you want the design bigger. Silver clasps a pendant you like. Braid the leather thongs unthil you have a braided band that fit snugly around your neck. Atatch the silver clasps. You can wear it like this or use a tiny jewlery ring to atatch a pendant. The result is a bit special neclace, that can even look a bit new age like whit the right pendant.

Ravensallure -> RE: discreet collars (2/6/2005 4:06:37 PM)
my Master bought me a collar from eternity collars as they are passable as a "normal pice of jewelry" this has been very useful as i am a student and soon to be training as a teacher Master Raven's slave allure xxx

Kinkypupper -> RE: discreet collars (2/6/2005 5:55:11 PM)
a "coller" can be a piercing or a metel hoop around ones neck or a simple ankle bracelet. As long as the wearer "KNOWS" what it is there for that is all that matters. In the current fashion however there is no reason not to wear a very visible steel coller that is locked on ones neck.

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