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Nigousan -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/16/2006 9:22:11 AM)

BMEzine.com is a wonderful site about body modifications at all levels (from ear piercings and stretching to scarification and branding).

Check it out, it helps when a piercing isn't playing as nice as it should.




MistressTexas -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/18/2006 3:55:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

How did you get nasty evil pussy infections from a bellybutton piercing?

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ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

The only piercing I've ever had a scar from ins my belly button. However its been pierced 7 times, ripped out twice and have nasty evil pussy infections twice.



*sigh* allow me to clarify oh lordly one :P     Puss-y. As in the grammatically incorrect adjective for infections that excrete puss. Icky. [:D]




MistressTexas -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/18/2006 4:06:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

*snip* Yes, I was a stripper and he made me quit, but it was really for my own good (if any of you have ever been in that scene you will understand).  *snip*


Ummm I've been in the scene, I am in the scene, I have good friends in the scene, and when it comes down to it, I think I have a couple cousins in the scene. Strangely enough, none of us are drugg addled, broke, destroying ourselves, broken inside, or any of the other "stripper stereotypes." Although one or two of my friends do have the awful stripper implants, which I'm campaigning to get them to change or remove. If you were being smart and safe, it sounds like he had no reason to make you quit other than "I don't want my woman dancing naked for other men." I left out the ug ug part, but I'm sure y'all get the gist. Please sweetie, look at this from an outsiders point of view.




Iskander -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/18/2006 4:27:24 AM)

I don't get the gist... I also fail to see how an outsiders point of view matters to anyones relationship...
Who cares what his reasons were, she obviously had a good reason to accept his reasons...
What they are are irrelevant to us... They want to make it work and realise that sometimes in relationships some non-essentials can be sacrificed for the greater good...
That shows maturity in my opinion...

Iskander...





siamsa24 -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/18/2006 5:26:55 AM)

Let's just say that the stripping scene around here is a little different then most (being the poorest city in the country may have something to do with it, but I really don't know).  He had very specific reasons for wanting me to quit and they did not have anything to do with me dancing naked (in fact, he never even brought that up).  As for what the reasons were, I would really rather not share them on a public forum.




Lordandmaster -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/19/2006 6:30:17 PM)

I'm actually relieved to hear the explanation.  All ya had to say was PURULENT.  Woulda understoodya loud and clear.

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ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

How did you get nasty evil pussy infections from a bellybutton piercing?

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

The only piercing I've ever had a scar from ins my belly button. However its been pierced 7 times, ripped out twice and have nasty evil pussy infections twice.



*sigh* allow me to clarify oh lordly one :P     Puss-y. As in the grammatically incorrect adjective for infections that excrete puss. Icky. [:D]




deepthroatexpert -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (10/21/2006 7:41:07 AM)

When i was younger i had 2 tongue piercings, got them by my ex dom. I got rid of them when i was about 18. In some way have the urge as well. Just like you do. 3 ago i took a tongue piercing again, and being very happy with it now. Now thinking of my next piericng or maybe tatoo. GOod luck! x




SirGordonslil -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/11/2006 4:23:01 PM)

[:)]if you had piercings when you met then obviously he had no problem with them till you got to know each other and were able to discuss them.. i think honnesty is the key, if its what you like then be honnest, and accept his honnesty in return then develop a compramise <spell check> but like i said, if you had them when you met and there wasnt a problem then i cant see why there is now. but thats just me lol.. i love piercings, but tend to get bored with things quickly so removed some.[:D]




medievalwench -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/11/2006 4:41:28 PM)

i am lucky in that my Master likes my piercings and even asked me to get some of them,(septum and nipples). When it came to tattoos He was fine with the first five and then initally said no to my having the fifth, but after discussion He agreed to my having it and now likes it. i just had to approach Him at a time when He was in the mood for discussion - i have to be careful when i bring up anything as He can sometimes say no just because of His mood at the time - as He has clinical depression i know it can be difficult to communicate at times.
sorry if i can't really offer any useful advice, as a sub i do consider that i have some say over what i do with my body, but i do tend to do what Master wants 99.9% of the time - like neing naked at all times when in the house unless we have guests, (which is not fun at the moment as its pretty cold), if i were a slave that would be different, but i am not ready for that and maybe never will be.




Caitriona -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/11/2006 5:47:12 PM)

I am also fortunate in the fact that My Lord allows me to modify my body as I choose.  About a year after we married, I pierced my nose and have two more tattoos that will be done ASAP.  He has helped me when asked for input (mostly on placement).

I would suggest you speak to your fiance about this and see if you can compromise since it appears to be very important to you. 

Best of luck.




perverseangelic -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/11/2006 9:22:52 PM)

I didnt' read all the replies, I appologize, but since the situation resonates with me I wanted to reply. My Parnter isn't really a fan of tattooing or peircing either, and it's something I very much like, and which makes me feel connected to my body. Anyway, while he doesn't -hate- tattoos or peircings, he's not really enamoured with them, and this has caused some conflict with us.

Anyway, with us, I finally decided that it was important enough for me to ask for authority over it back from my Parnter. It didn't actually come to that, because right when I'd asked we had the situation with his family occur, and we ended our dynamic for a while anyway. ~sigh~

I guess what I'm saying is that for me, claiming and marking my body is very important in my sense of self. It helps me to keep a hold of who I am, despite the stuff that's going on around me. I think that if it's important to you, you should have a discussion with your partner and explain where you stand, and that he should be willing to accept you as who you are, tattoos included. I think sometimes it's about showing our partners we aren't changing ourselves because we think there's something -wrong-. My Parnter thought that I modified because I felt inferior. It's taken a while to explain that I do it becuase it helps my outsides look like my insides feel.




siamsa24 -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/12/2006 4:55:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

I think sometimes it's about showing our partners we aren't changing ourselves because we think there's something -wrong-. My Parnter thought that I modified because I felt inferior. It's taken a while to explain that I do it becuase it helps my outsides look like my insides feel.



This is one of the best descriptions I have heard, they exactly describe how I feel.  I will bring these up to him.
We did sit down and discuss it (multiple times) and he agreed.  The compromise? His friend (and mine) will be doing the tattoo and his wife will be doing the piercing.  He trusts our friend not to make it too flashy and showy and trusts his wife not to mess up the piercings.  This may seem small, but it was very important to him. 




perverseangelic -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/12/2006 11:07:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: siamsa24
This is one of the best descriptions I have heard, they exactly describe how I feel.  I will bring these up to him.
We did sit down and discuss it (multiple times) and he agreed.  The compromise? His friend (and mine) will be doing the tattoo and his wife will be doing the piercing.  He trusts our friend not to make it too flashy and showy and trusts his wife not to mess up the piercings.  This may seem small, but it was very important to him. 



I'm glad it resonated with you. It took me a long time to figure out how to verbalize.

And I totally understand what you're saying. My Partner needs to see what I want, and the size I want, so we can make sure it isn't gonna be over the top. I admit, if I were doing this on my own it'd be totally out there. He grounds me.




medievalwench -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/13/2006 7:22:16 AM)

Re: scarring, my navel and eyebrow have scarred quite noticeably, but it was due to my lack of knowledge as i did not know at the time to remove a piercing the moment i notice it is migrating, also my eyebrow has been pierced repeatedly so it was worse that it would have been.
My other piercings have healed well though, and my 3 week old nipple piercings are doing well, though i initially had rings in them and noticed they were moving too much so had to change them carefully to bars, (since i know a lot about bod mods now i was able to do it myself under advice from my piercer).





CandleInTheWind -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/14/2006 8:35:54 PM)

hmmmm
thinking of getting married and letting extra holes and pretty pictures added to your pretty body  coming between the two of you...perhaps  just give the entire situationa good long thought.

I have a questions or two...why is the man of your life opposed to you adding decorations to your body?
are these decorations more important that his wishes??

I was invovled with somoene that felt that ladies with tattoosa nd extra piercings cheapened her.  His opinion was that a Good lady does look like (his words now) a "biker chick"




princessrn -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/15/2006 6:36:31 AM)

i kinda agree  with SlaveAkasha  
but i have always in any lifestyle i been in( D/s & vanilla)  asked the other half for there input veiws and reasons for things ... asking some one who knows you well normaly gets the better result  there reasons for not agreeing and disliking some thing want to  plan  and the reasoning behide this so its clear in my head  our" wants" arent always are "needs"  damit that means i cant have the sports car !!!! lol 




Kalira -> RE: Tattoos and piercings (11/15/2006 6:41:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

quote:

ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

I think sometimes it's about showing our partners we aren't changing ourselves because we think there's something -wrong-. My Parnter thought that I modified because I felt inferior. It's taken a while to explain that I do it becuase it helps my outsides look like my insides feel.



This is one of the best descriptions I have heard, they exactly describe how I feel.  I will bring these up to him.
We did sit down and discuss it (multiple times) and he agreed.  The compromise? His friend (and mine) will be doing the tattoo and his wife will be doing the piercing.  He trusts our friend not to make it too flashy and showy and trusts his wife not to mess up the piercings.  This may seem small, but it was very important to him. 


/claps wildly

I am glad to hear that the two of you came to a compromise on this. That is so great.




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