MizSuz
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Samanthalynne, I very much agree with the poster who suggested that you take some time and do some reconciling within yourself about who you are and what you want in your life. Nobody outside of you can make you feel something until you are ready to do so. If you feel bad about wanting to be dominated it would be a good idea to spend some time examining why it leaves you feeling bad. The answer is going to be inside you, not inside a dominant. As for whether there are "gentle" masters and dominants who are not "sadists," the answer is yes, they are out there. My own experience with this sort of gentleman leads me to believe that they are a type who will be interested in a submissive who has learned that their answers are inside of themself (as described in paragraph one); and often they have interest in helping the submissive find the answers that are within. But there is, in my opinion, no one else on the face of the planet who can make you feel ok until you are ready to do so. At least not for more than mere moments. Have you been to munches and met people real-time? How long have you been interested in bdsm? What have you done to learn about different ways domination and submission can come together? Have you read? If so, what? When you got upset and posted the generalization that bdsm is sick, was that the first experience you've had online in a BDSM capacity?
< Message edited by MizSuz -- 4/26/2004 7:55:15 PM >
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