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Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/20/2006 4:11:39 AM

SWSYD

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This is just curiosity - who here only switches on some things but not on others- maybe you'll switch on bondage but not when it comes to pain - maybe you'll switch on both these but vacuuming the house in high heels is always your partners job and never yours? Idle curiousity only but were all different so will be interested in the responses.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/20/2006 4:24:53 AM

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Hmm, I switch on everything.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/20/2006 4:28:49 AM

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I do tend to have extremes that run though out my life. I run hot at the top or in the hospital very low. I do as I like which others never know that. It does come with a price with such a need for speed and adventure. I tend to play both roles in everything I do ~others view this as passion which is admired at times or looked down upon, by others......but never bored or boring.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/20/2006 4:16:18 PM

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I switch only with pain play. Otherwise I am a Dom.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/21/2006 8:40:12 AM

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I switch dependent upon who I am with. With some I am all domme, with the select few I am sub. If I am with another switch then we just go with the flow and usually take turns! I don't have any specific "activity" to switch on, it's all about the other person and their dynamic.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/22/2006 10:22:45 PM

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Having spent most of my adult life in relationships with women, I never played switch...altho the first love of my life lived with a prostitute in Viet Nam. Her specialty was bdsm, in particular bondage. Once we got past the fucking everywhere and anytime, he started bringing in bdsm. So, I bottomed for six years. He topped. For some reason, once I started sleeping with women, I topped. They bottomed. Throughout the years, I spent a lot of time playing "teacher" because I found most lesbians not into a lot a scenes (altho I managed to find a handful)...then last year I met a guy who tripped every trigger of my bdsm past and I found myself bottoming again....quite enjoyable and I think it was due to his knowledge of bdsm and his style being very similar to mine in topping.
I guess what I'm trying to say is I'll bottom when its the right triggers.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/22/2006 11:27:50 PM

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The great thing about being a switch is the ability to have either a sub, a dom, or another switch for a partner. If both are switches, they can simply take turns. If a switch is with a dom, the dom can allow the switch to dominate as a reward for good behavior. If the switch is with a sub, the switch can order the sub to dominate.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/23/2006 7:03:21 AM

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For me it's all about the chemistry with the person and my mood.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/23/2006 4:34:12 PM

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There aren't specific activities for my sub or domme roles per se, which is to say that there aren't activities I restrict to one role or another. I do tend to engage more in punishment/reward behaviour shaping as a Domme. That isn't usually the way my Master plays with me. I enjoy pain, both giving and receiving. I enjoy a lot of household work as a sub, but do not generally order that type of task when I'm in charge. As others have already mentioned, when I'm with another switch we tend to find the flow together and take turns.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 10/23/2006 8:46:29 PM

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quote:

This is just curiosity - who here only switches on some things but not on others- maybe you'll switch on bondage but not when it comes to pain - maybe you'll switch on both these but vacuuming the house in high heels is always your partners job and never yours? Idle curiousity only but were all different so will be interested in the responses.

I don't switch with activities. I switch with people. Most people, I top. To one person, I submit. I suppose I could bottom to a few others, but most dominants I know seem to be afraid to top me, which only makes me want to strap 'em down and inflict pain upon their flesh.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 11/15/2006 11:25:47 PM

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We seem to be very compatable with resepct to the physical activities we switch on.....

He would never fair well with with being tied up....and i have no desire to tie him up. All floggers, crops and whips are to be used on me.... heck i can't even manage the use of a fly swatter.....(i would not fair well as a full time top).

I never really considered myself a switch till i met him. And likewise, he was all Dom till he met me. We seemed to have brought out the best of both worlds in each other.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 11/16/2006 12:12:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SWSYD

This is just curiosity - who here only switches on some things but not on others- maybe you'll switch on bondage but not when it comes to pain - maybe you'll switch on both these but vacuuming the house in high heels is always your partners job and never yours? Idle curiousity only but were all different so will be interested in the responses.

I only switch on BDSM activites.. (and the sky's the limit on those.. I'm willing to have anything done to me that I'm doing to someone else) but I never switch on M/s.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 11/16/2006 7:47:05 AM

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I CAN switch on any activity, but there are some I prefer not to.

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RE: Do you switch on only some activities? - 11/16/2006 8:12:05 AM

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For me being dom or sub to another depends most upon our mutual charisma, how my power is affected by that of another. If we feed each other dominance from me to the other(s), that is sweet. If we feed each other dominance from others to me, that is also good. With multiple partners it is possible to be sub to some and dom to others at the same time.
There certainly are often different limits and different interests I have as a dominant than I have as a submissive. Thus there can be things which are not limits when I am dom but are not agreed if I am the submissive.

Of course your mileage may vary!

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