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Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 8:29:50 AM

AlderTheKitty

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[(note) for the purpose of this post i will use the terms top for dom, domme, master, mistress, lord, lady and madam and bottom for the submissive end of things]

We all want the dream relationship.

For many Bottoms it's the rich Top who take us to his or her castle, manson or hidden estate what have you. Giving us all the little quarks we've longd for. Pampering us with love and care with a large enclosed property where we can play nakid out side and now one would know.

Most of us won't find this some will search for a long time before we find someone who makes us happy.

The keys i have found to happy ness are

Understanding
Respect
Trust
Cooperation

With out these going both ways a reliation ship is doomed to fail.

Every thing else is meaning less.

Now if yourd a New Bottom you may think you have to give your self to every top in the room. Doing this is called being a whore not a Bottom infact most events with rules like this tend to be a meat market.

More important them going to your first party and starting your first kinky romance right of the bat is to make friends. going to a social munch is a great way to do this my local munch is exilent and i am glad to be apart of it. The friends i have made have taught me that i am a rare gem and only worth of the best just like every other bottom on this planet. More important then play is a support system so that when yu stay having relationships you have someone you can go to for help if things go wrong.

Lastly never try and make love happen it will fail just let things happen and they will you have to make sure that something good can happen but don't try and force it go out make friends with simmilar intrests and enjoy your self you'll find someone when the time is right

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 9:30:24 AM

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Alder, nicely said, even if you need a spell check.

I think you'd be interested in reading about archetypes, since you seem to have a feel for some of the major ones.

http://myss.com/Archs.asp

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 12:10:46 PM

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Nicely said.

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 4:36:25 PM

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very nicely said

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 8:26:24 PM

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Thank you if you keep track of leather compitions master fire you might know of an aquaintance of mine Jayne Shmid (probly not spelled right) She was the canadian leather woman for a while and a vary passionate AIDS activist in my area.

Most of the people i assosiate with are Black Rose DM qaulifyed and the majority of the regulars at me munch are DM's. It's these highly inteligent people what i have learned to stand up for my self and it is through a domme who i have been speaking to for almost a year now thaught me to value my self.

I am 19 have a high IQ and am a vary unique submissive as i am diognosed with mild autism this causes some barriors but i have learned to deal with some of them thanks to my friends.

One thing that hurts me to see is youths trying to get into the lifestyle finding only people who prey on them. this saddens me

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/24/2006 8:55:23 PM

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I just want to say that playing outside is not all it's cracked up to be. There are bugs out there!

However in addition to the qualities you noted I would include having the same morals and above all a huge amount of self knowledge. Until a person knows himself well, knows what they need and what they cannot abide, then any possible relationship will be hit or miss. You can't search for Mr Right until you know who is Mr Right for you.

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/25/2006 12:48:37 AM

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::::writing on the black board "i will not hijack this thread... i will not highjack this thread...::::

(all the while stiffling a gigglefit at celeste's bug comment)

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RE: Some wisdom i have learned. - 10/26/2006 10:03:32 AM

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Self knowlage would fall under understanding.

When i first realised i liked bdsm like maybe age 13. I thought I could only be a submissive if i let my self be abused and I only had worth if a Domme gave it to me. I have since then learned that I only have worth to a Domme if I have it for my self first.

The thing i want to get across is that no one has the Right to abuse you for any reason. Ask any top woth his or her weight and they will say that a Bottom is only worth any thing if their submission must be earned. You chose who you Bottom tomake sure they are worthy of your gift to them.

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