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Love and BDSM (the unfettered heart) - 1/28/2005 9:57:43 AM   
LovingStrength


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The Unfettered Heart

I am forever awed by the power of the heart. Not in the physical sense. I speak of the poetic, the metaphysical, the part that you can feel so deep in your chest, when you are feeling a great love for someone, or a great throbbing pain, that takes your breath away, when that love is somehow broken. Left in shards strewn about your soul. Leaving you in a fog, or thick slow syrup. A place that makes no sense. Where you can no longer think straight, nor wrap your brain around anything tangible. Where all your hopes and dreams where wrapped up in that one love, and fed by the hearts blood. You feel empty, and so alone, and it feels as though you will never find your way back to sanity.

I wonder how something so strong, as the heart, can be so blinded, so foolish, so vulnerable to the influence of someone's agenda, schemes, soul, and, yes, even someone's heart. How it can betray itself so willingly, without any regard for its host. Leaving that soul, naked, and raw. I wonder how it can so readily believe a lie, even when it knows it is being lied to. How it can let its most fervent dreams be shattered, in the blink of an eye, by hearing only one sentence.

I wonder how a strong, seemingly wise, experienced, Dominant male like myself, can still fall prey to my own heart. Allow it to make me a fool. A mushy pool of tears and lost dreams. Been there, done that. Yet still, even at this time in my life, I still have not learned, that I have no control over it. And I guess I should hope, never will.

It is so hard to be wise, step lightly. Stay unfettered by cynicism, yet still able to love. I see no other avenues.

I imagine, unless my heart has died, or grown completely cold,(which would leave me worthless to myself or anyone else)that I will always, in someway, be ruled, by my own heart. And possibly again, betrayed by it. If I am to stay human, and a viable person, I guess that is the chance I will have to take.

You might think being a strong Dom, that these lil problems, such as the heart, should be of little consequence. That I, as a Master, do not ever have to worry about such things. You are mistaken! Unless you and your lil one are only into hard core Master/slavery, Sadistic/ masochistic part of the lifestyle, and have no need of such emotions as love.(which I doubt)Your heart in this lifestyle is the most important thing you have going. As a DaddyDom, it is even more so. Because it is with exposing my heart to my lil one, that I can nurture her. Lead her upon our mutual path. Find her trust. And hopefully become one.




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RE: Love and BDSM (the unfettered heart) - 1/28/2005 10:13:01 AM   
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LovingStrength,

keep it that way - you get my whole encouragement

Love is the greatest power - may sometimes not seen.

but like You told, Your heart let You be lively and let You feel empathy.

to be real - to be human - its a great strength !




as long as we do not get the logic of love - of the heart / as long there is hope and the strive to improve about humanity.......
how sad would the world be we were able to find the logic in?

would we count numbers in knowledge what kind of result we get?

the passion is laying in the unknown.....



love to You and blessings

petra
(white snowflake in the ghetto)




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RE: Love and BDSM (the unfettered heart) - 1/28/2005 4:49:22 PM   
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As a submissive, and little grrl, i can completely understand and feel for you. Sometimes i think it would all be easier if i didn't want to include love with my lifestyle. If i could just enjoy the physical aspects of being with someone without putting my heart on the line then maybe i would be better off. But it's not me.

So i keep trying.

I don't want to give up.

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RE: Love and BDSM (the unfettered heart) - 1/28/2005 6:14:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LovingStrength
when you are feeling a great love for someone, or a great throbbing pain, that takes your breath away, when that love is somehow broken. Left in shards strewn about your soul. Leaving you in a fog. Where you can no longer think straight, nor wrap your brain around anything tangible.

I wonder how something so strong, as the heart, can be so blinded, so foolish, so vulnerable to the influence of someone's agenda, schemes, soul, and, yes, even someone's heart. How it can betray itself so willingly, without any regard for its host. Leaving that soul, naked, and raw.

I wonder how a strong, seemingly wise, experienced, Dominant male like myself, can still fall prey to my own heart. Allow it to make me a fool. A mushy pool of tears and lost dreams. Been there, done that. Yet still, even at this time in my life, I still have not learned, that I have no control over it. And I guess I should hope, never will.

It is so hard to be wise, step lightly. Stay unfettered by cynicism, yet still able to love. I see no other avenues.

I loved reading this, because I know exactly what you mean, in carrying the burden of being strong/Dominant (sometimes thought of as unable to hurt as deeply), yet being so open to the enormous vulnerability of love.

You also know, as those of us who feel this way do, that we're unwilling to lose our ability to trust/love another, because than life loses it's meaning.

Nikki Giovanni wrote "As lack of marriage lowers divorce rate, lack of life prevents death, the unwillingness to try is worse than any failure."

To me the courage to touch and love another human being, and the inherent willingness to risk loss, requires the ultimate in strength. M

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RE: Love and BDSM (the unfettered heart) - 1/28/2005 8:37:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LovingStrength
It is so hard to be wise, step lightly. Stay unfettered by cynicism, yet still able to love. I see no other avenues...


..."but that's why mankind alone among the mammals, learns to cry." (N. Giovanni)...

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