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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
it is this slave's position that personal preferences are fine, but crossing the line to negative assumption based on stereotyping shows a lack of respect for others and their differences, which, not suprisingly, is also the OP's chief complaint...pot, kettle, black indeed.

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Let me make note that while, yes, i am an exhibitionist of sorts (just discovering this side of me), so yes, i do seek the attention it brings, i don't tell people that i find them disgusting or repulsive. i keep my feelings to myself, so as not to offend. In fact, this post is the first time i've ever made written or verbal acknowledgment of my feelings about being overweight.
Perhaps i do rate myself a little higher in my head than people who are very overweight. To me, it's a matter of health. i am very proud of being healthy, and find it repulsive that people can let themselves get so unhealthy.
i personally feel i don't flaunt my body any more than others do, including large people. i don't like seeing fat naked bodies, but i look the other way.
i think my big problem is that while i look the other way and just avoid what i don't like, they insult me, calling me vain and telling me to stop flaunting my body. i don't tell them what they should do, so why should they tell me? What is the problem people have that they can't just look the other way and let people enjoy who they are?
i agree, DiurnalVampire, that they can have their opinions of me, but do they have to fling them in my face? They aren't friends; they are people at the club. i was verbally and emotionally all through childhood, and to a lesser extent even now (my mother), and their insults hurt me a lot more than they probably realize because of my past. i probably shouldn't care, but it hurts a lot.

Thanks for your responses all. i really am trying to understand this, both their reasons and my feelings.

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But i have been told to stop being so vain and flaunting my body by some people, all of them overweight. Is this just their insecurity about their weight, or is there something wrong with me being proud of my small frame?

You be as proud as you want, but I would suggest that you drop the attitude before someone smacks you in your bratty mouth, as you might find that offends you.

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Oh, and the reason I don't personally find skinny girls attractive? No bloody boobs or butt. If you ain't got anything to grope, then get the hell away from me.

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I enjoy looking at a thin attractive women with perfect hair and makeup but you will never catch me waking up with one because they are no fucking fun and no fun to fuck.

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I enjoy looking at a thin attractive women with perfect hair and makeup but you will never catch me waking up with one because they are no fucking fun and no fun to fuck.

*laughs* My dominant jokes that he dates me because one of us has to have padding or else our hips would bruise during sex.

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ORIGINAL: stef

He wasn't saying skinny girls were disgusting, he was simply stating a personal preference.  Even the mentally infirm should be able to see the difference between the two.

~stef

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Finally, i think i worded my opinion wrong. i think it's not the overweight factor that is bothering me about people, but the uncaring obesity. When someone is obviously stuffing themselves at every meal, not exercising/watching tv all day long, and not caring that they look like terrible, it disgusts me. Thinking more closely on it, i realize that my opinions came off as 'If you're overweight, i can't stand you.' i'm sorry it came off as this. i know and am friends with people who are overweight. Some of them, they are that way because of a medical condition, as you kindly pointed out, juliaoceania and beautyImurDaddy. Diabetes, Cushing's Disease, and other conditions are very sad, i think, and i understand the way it can take away from your ability to lose weight or keep it from sneaking up on them. But people who have medical problems, it's obvious that despite their size, they take care of themselves (except for this one person i met who decided that because she couldn't control her weight, she'd let herself go and didn't care about how she looked anymore). They watch their weight best they can, exercise as much as able, and i can definitely tell they care for themselves by their clean, up-kept appearance. am i still turned off by their weight? Yes, but not to the point that i wouldn't socialize with them, and not to the point that i wouldn't be friends with them (this, i think, would go for anyone who is overweight but obviously takes care of themselves).. i don't take it out them, certainly, and i -never- express disgust or offend them about it (Lashra, i think the person who had the AUDACITY to come up to you and ask you 'how could you let yourself get so big?'...it shocked me that anyone could do that. It really did, because that's just horribly, horribly rude, and as you told them, tactless. you go, girl, for standing up to their total lack of couth. i am not one of those people; i would NEVER approach someone and point out their size. i wouldn't assume that it was because they are sloppy in their eating or exercise habits, nor would i want to offend them by pointing out something that they may very well be extremely sensitive about).

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Oh, and the reason I don't personally find skinny girls attractive? No bloody boobs or butt. If you ain't got anything to grope, then get the hell away from me.

Thats a vain comment. Blktallfulfig and the others I hope your going to flame aquaticsub as she is saying bad things about skinny people. Some skinny people have problems about putting on weight. Some ladies try very hard to put on weight. Its just a big a problem for them as the people who cant lose weight due to illness.

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ORIGINAL: stef

He wasn't saying skinny girls were disgusting, he was simply stating a personal preference.  Even the mentally infirm should be able to see the difference between the two.

Well its my personnal preference that obese people disgust me. According to you that is ok now.

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So I want apologies from everyone in this thead.

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Btw I have severe Asthma and its just an excuse not to exercise. Swimming is a very good exercise that is actually recommanded for asthmatics as its safer. Even severe asthmatics. So please don't use Asthama as an excuse..