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angelique510 -> RE: BDSM portrayal in Movies (7/23/2007 8:10:06 PM)
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I have to see "The Secretary" at some point. It seems to be the one of the first things anyone mentions when talking about BDSM. From the bit I have seen and heard of it, it seems to me to focus more on the kink/ physical aspects. It could be because most people do focus primarily on that aspect of things. Again, I have yet to see the movie, so I could be wrong. I also want to see "The Pet", but from the previews, I think it may take a wrong turn somehwhere near Albuquerque. Quite possibly because the director had a sociopolitical statement to make and wanted to show the evils of slavery.
I saw "9 1/2 Weeks" shortly after it came out. I think I was 15 or so. I found it very hot and very intriguing. It did help to lead me in the direction of this lifestyle. After 20ish years, though it's still hot, I find "9 1/2 Weeks" paints a picture of the bad and damaging flavor of D/s. "The Story of O" was very good indeed. But you have to look past the kink and the sex to get to the heart of the matter. Though I love the story (the book - not the movies, they changed too much of the story and ruined the purity of the M/s relationship) I felt I had to wade through too much physicallity to get to the D/s.
Call me wierd, and maybe I see D/s in a very different way than most.
Recently I saw "My Fair Lady" again. That to me is a wonderful example of the D/s, M/s dynamic. Professor Henry Higgens was a damned sexy bastard. He saw the potential that was in Eliza. Even Eliza herself could see nothing more than what she was at present, a "filthy gutter snipe", barely one step above a beggar in the street selling flowers. He said he could turn her into a "lady in a flower shop." He took her and taught her, molded her into what he believed a proper lady should be. He forced her bad habits out of her, taught her poise and confindence and turned her into a prize to behold. He exceeded all expectations when people thought she was not just a lady, but a queen. Granted, she was kicking and screaming the whole way, plotting his murder and she hated him. And he thought of her as a mere object, and the task of grooming her was just to prove he could win a bet. But as she grew into her womanhood, a very deep and pasionate love for him grew. And when he saw the exceptional woman he had helped her become, he treasured and loved her too.
Then there are the old standbys of movieland. The sexiest man ever on film, John Wayne, and the beautiful Maureen O'Hara. My favorite is "The Quiet Man" but in all of them, the theme is the same. Both of them unhappy. Him because his woman did not honor and obey him the way a woman should, and her because she could not respect her husband and love him fully. When he finally stepped up to his place a man, and by force if necissary, put her in her place, all was bliss. He got what he wanted, and she got what she needed. I've often said we wouldn't need any marriage counseling - just force couples to watch old John Wayne movies.
For the classic of classics - you cannot find a better D/s story that Shakespeare's "The Taming of the Shrew" You just can't get better than that.
I grant you, some floggings and ass slappings and the like are fun, and I do feel it between my thighs and enjoy it. Maybe I look too deeply. Maybe that is what BDSM is really all about. But if that is all a man does, he is merely an assistant in my masturbation. Now if he has the qualities of Higgens, John Wayne, and Petrichio, if he makes me into a better woman because he is such a great man that he requires a great woman, then, and only then, can he be called a master.
Respectfully,
Angelique
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