LadyBeckett
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As much as we love to have fun, and Oh My My! we do! We care about what is going on with the children. What they see, how much they are exposed to, etc. I see it woven throughout the threads here. Someone is concerned about her profile being seen, and someone else mentions the children. Someone in another thread mentions children in the lifestyle and actually said something about "disciplining mommy". Oh come onnnn! The truth is that we all have questions and concerns about the children.
There are those of us who actually have children, and I thought I might start a thread where we could share some of our experience(s) in handling, educating, etc, when it comes to the lifestyle and the internet.
The one thing I didn't do when it came to the internet, was put a computer in the "bedroom". So when my daughter has online time, it is in "view". In addition to that she has her own log on which is preset with parental controls.
Children are naturally curious and drawn to those things that are considered "taboo". I grew up in the lifestyle and around nudity, so that wasn't a big deal to me, but I recall a good friend of mine showing me a picture of a nude male that she had procured somehow and how she had slipped it out of her book (all "I spy" like) with eyes bright and cheeks flushed, proud of her little prize. "This is what mennnnnn have" she breathed, as she pointed to his flaccid penis, her eyes wide as saucers. I looked at her with that "yeah...and???" expression.
My daughter has grown up much the same way I did. Although with some modifications. When my daughter was born there were several events in our world. John Wayne Gayce (sp?) who said, "Show me a 3 year old who doesn't know about sex, and I'll show you my next victim.", and quite frankly, that terrified me. Children don't need to know everything, of course. But they do need to know who to trust, who they can depend on, who they can talk to, run to, ask questions and get answers. And We need to stay informed. We need to keep up with what children are talking about. My daughter came in one day (she was playing with some children outside) and asked, "Mama, is it true that when men have sex with women they take their clothes off and then kill them?". I answered no, of course. She said "thanks" and went back outside, slamming the door, naturally, and I heard her announce, "Mama said 'no'" and they resumed play.
Of course now her question are more complex and adult in nature. She is more curious about the lifestyle. She asked about male chastity devices the other day. I took the time to explain that to her and took her to a site so she could see them. She is not sexually active, by choice.
I suggested the cb2000 option for her dates (I am a mother!) but she rejected it. 
She also rejected the handcuff idea  ,
and the 42 page contract idea  ,
and the first two dates at home with Mama idea  ,
and the Mama going on the date idea  .
So what that leaves us with is communicating with our children, interacting with our children, listening to them, believing they are listening to us, establishing and building that trust in the relationship.
< Message edited by LadyBeckett -- 4/29/2004 7:31:41 AM >
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"Submissive boys yearn to fall into their proper place, so the rest of their life will." ~ Lady Beckett
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