desoutter
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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub Even though feminism has changed a lot in areas like the workplace, to me it still seems that when it comes to sex and relationships in the vanilla world, even in Western society men are still dominant and women are still submissive. The people that are different are probably like this for very similar reasons that people become gay or lesbian. This necessitates a scene for, and provides definitions for, Dommes and male Subs. What makes a Dom different from a boyfriend/husband, and a female Sub different from a girlfriend/wife? Is it just that you are explicit about what vanilla chemistry seems to be about? Do you have a theory like mine that provides for a difference? Do you disagree with what I said about the vanilla world? Female Subs will probably also have interesting ideas on this subject, and anyone else should feel free to comment too. I have to say - I do not agree with any part of the above - Im not angry or anything - just stating my opinion... I travel quite a bit and there may be some truth to your statement above, in some parts of the world - (example in Malaysia, when a woman brought my tea to me, in the hotel lobby, she always kept her head lower than mine... even if I was sitting) strange... However in the states I have seen both, equally - relationships where woman are the dominant and men are quite submissive (vanilla world). Men who are dominant and woman submissive. On the whole I feel woman have a place in the world - as equals - more now than ever before... (this statement is not too offensive I hope) Also - I feel - people do not "become" gay or lesbian.... you either are... or you arent... Also - there is NO difference between a Dom and a husband/boyfriend... I know many Doms who are boyfriends and husbands... and many woman are Doms / wives / girlfriends.... I think your missing a few pieces of the puzzle here... Noone 'becomes' what they are not... I am not a rocket engineer because I dont have the smarts.... I just dont want to design rockets... I am a Dom, not because I want to be - I just am... A human being is what it is... it doesnt change, it doesnt become what it is not meant to become... this isnt just objectification either... human beings are animals / period. Sophisticated I'll grant you but we are still just animals in the kingdom... what drives an animal? - I need to eat... I need to sleep... I need to reproduce... As an animal you either survive... or you die... Now in our society - a lot of these needs are givin to us... I need to eat - NO PROBLEM... I need to reproduce - NO PROBLEM... when everything is done for you, one tends to become a little sidetracked... what to do with all this time on my hands when Im not hunting or looking for a way to survive? basketball stock trader work at the local Target go clubbing BDSM rocket scientist hey - however you define your life is entirely up to you - you know who you are better than anyone else... but in the immortal words of Robert Johnson... "dust my broom..." Holy cow! Now that was some professional rambling... desoutter
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