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RE: when do you switch - 11/16/2006 9:39:59 AM

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I have trouble 'switching gears' mid-scene, and there is quite a pause if someone else switches on me while I sort out just what is going on! - though I tend to feel more comfortable in the sub role in any event - just that every now and then there is a 'Dom' itch.

So, I feel better in one role all the way through. But that is CERTAINLY not true for all switches! And I think some enjoy the spontinaity of the power game.

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RE: when do you switch - 11/16/2006 10:13:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: fergus

I have trouble 'switching gears' mid-scene, and there is quite a pause if someone else switches on me while I sort out just what is going on

Are you sure your not blonde fergus? or is "switchably challenged" the politically correct term....

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RE: when do you switch - 11/17/2006 4:30:43 AM

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I have switched from bottom to top during a scene, specially when I have been able to untie my self which I always try to do. That is the untying.

Somtimes I join my Misterss as a top when playing with her other sub. Also when I'm subbing to my Mistress she releases me from my bonds and directs me to top her other sub and then put me in my bonds again.

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RE: when do you switch - 1/2/2007 8:02:56 AM

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Oooops!!!!

I like to switch without informing my partner!!!! for the moment!!!!
I prefer let her/him to

of what and how it happened!!!!!
and I'm

her or him !!!! and make hard nipple pinching

!!!!
Try to do it....the momentof switching is the best sex satisfaction I've ever had.

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RE: when do you switch - 1/15/2007 12:11:42 AM

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I've been in only one ongoing relationship with a fellow switch and the way it worked was generally whoever had the greatest *need* to be in a particular position determined where we resided for the day, evening, or even the week. Sometimes..a lot of the time we related simply as "equals" and at other times either one of us could be cruel and sadistic towards the other..it confused the hell out of most people we knew, but was extremely rewarding for the both of us. and yes we did switch midscene..usually it would escalate to a full-out wrestling match..some of my hottest memories to this day...

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RE: when do you switch - 1/15/2007 6:03:05 PM

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Only in my fantasy life since I haven't met a man to whom I feel I could safely relinquish total control. Part of me believes that he has to have mastered both sides so that I know that he understands the conflict in my head and can leverage that in any way he chooses. I want to believe that he wants me to grow and learn and will not put me through paces that don't lead to that end. I would prefer to find someone who likes the play the way I do - sensually, teasingly, with joy and relish in the fun it should be. My fear is that my imagination has run away for far too long and such an experience doesn't exist.

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RE: when do you switch - 1/20/2007 3:54:14 AM

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I can do both.

I can be a bottom or a top then switch, altho i don't like going top to bottom as much as bottom to top.

&I can also keep a role through a scene.

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RE: when do you switch - 1/20/2007 10:21:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JulesBloke

Hello all,

tell me do the switches here prefer to stay in a role for a scene....have a agreed time to switch or switch back and forth as either feels inclined?

Julian

I prefer to stay in role for a scene. Switching in between isn't a preference, although
I wouldn't be averse to turning the tables in some kind of power struggle. Just not every time.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/19/2007 2:17:18 PM

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Hunh. All very interesting answers, reflecting the many degrees of switchdom, I suppose. I shall try to answer as best I can, though I've never actually planned out a scene with anyone beforehand...

With my last girlfriend, we engaged in some light bondage play (she enjoyed being tied up). She would attempt to escape, and could turn the tables on me rather easily (it's hard to be too dominate when you are very ticklish, not tying your partner down too tightly, and she enjoys seeing you laugh...). I would usually end up wrestling her down, and tying her up again, before touching and tasting her (we were both virgins, and wanted to stay that way, so all foreplay, no main event, so to speak).

I don't know what motivated her to attempt to 'top from the bottom', if I'm using the terminology correctly, as she stopped speaking to me suddenly, before I could raise any suggestions about going deeper into our play. I do know I enjoyed the 'power struggle' (at least within a relationship that wasn't really based on domination or submission) as it just seemed to make things more exciting. But then, that's just me, I suppose.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/19/2007 10:18:43 PM

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i've had a partner that tried the whole switching halfway through the scene. It never worked. I could never tell if she wanted to switch or if she wanted to simply resist and be roughly chastised. Roles are clearly defined before anything happens, though "clearly" defining can be as simple as her rolling over on me and pinning my hands down. No need for words.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/20/2007 2:16:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: JulesBloke

Hello all,

tell me do the switches here prefer to stay in a role for a scene....have a agreed time to switch or switch back and forth as either feels inclined?

Julian

I don't switch with one partner at all.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/20/2007 2:45:51 PM

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We take turns generally, but it can be an awful lot of fun to "turn the tables" on someone in mid scene. I find that only happens when the dynamic is right. There's no thinking it out, sometimes it just happens

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RE: when do you switch - 2/20/2007 6:04:44 PM

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I'm with another switch, and having no set rules or dynamic, we switch whenever we feel like it.

Whatever floats our boat at that particular point in time, and seeing as we're vanilla first, there's no possibility at this point in time fore either of us to feel any kind of weirdness when we switch because there has never been a set dynamic of one topping the other more or either one of us being the set Dom/me in the relationship.

We're open to exploring anything and everything we can think of, with no predispositions about what it's supposed to be. It just is.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/22/2007 10:01:31 PM

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Never within a scene; in fact, I find it difficult to play both as a top and a bottom with the same individual; to me, the constant battle for supremacy runs as an undercurrent in play, and distracts me.

Instead, I prefer to submit to my husband, who does nto bottom ever; and play as a top when the mood strikes me with other people. Other people rarely pull my submissive strings.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/28/2007 11:51:18 AM

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I switch whenever i'm caught off guard, and someone catches it. I then have to fight to regain my position making each scene a constant struggle. I all depends how you play and who you play with. If you attempt to 2 d/s or 2 switches in a scene its a contant power struggle those what I strive for.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/28/2007 3:51:41 PM

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My favorite way of switching is to act as an interface between a dominant and submissives. Example and my favorite: I am in the role of head housekeeper of household holding a Victorian Tea. I make sure the Lords and Ladies are happy and get what they need. I take any punishment for faults in my management which includes the other help. I then walk through those kitchen doors and I'm in charge and I deal with any infractions such as an imprudent maid who has joined in the lady's conversation. Or a boi who has been slow to answer the door. I wield a mean spoon.

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RE: when do you switch - 2/28/2007 3:56:02 PM

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quote:

There seems to be a majority than prefers not to switch with a single party, while I have no trouble at all with it.

WyrdRich, I think it is a rare skill to be able to switch mid scene. Like you I can do it as I illustrate in my prior post.

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RE: when do you switch - 3/1/2007 2:59:49 PM

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I never switch during sessions. I'm either booked as a sub or a Domme.

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