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RavenMuse -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 5:49:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyIce

This thread is rather amusing.
A collared submissive should not speaking to other Doms without permission.


Put your own under whatever rules you wish sweetie... don't try telling others what protocols to use with Their own property! How They must excersise Their control of the girl They Own.

Though with Mine, she already HAS permission... generic, for respectful and friendly folks regardless of what lable or gender. I deal with the rest... but then *I* have a girl I can trust!



KeirasSecret -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 5:52:45 AM)

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When a Dominant who enjoys the challenge of winning a sub away from someone else (and there are many out there) sees something like that, they interpret it as "I am not completely content with my current situation and might consider you if the offer is right"


You've got this right. I was told by one Dominant that my being on this site alone was a sign that I was looking. At first this upset me, but then I realized he was right; I was looking, just not what he thought I was looking for (which is what I told him). *smiles*

Be well,



RavenMuse -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 6:01:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

If it is so obviously causing distress for her Dom, then it IS her problem.  If your Dominant was upset by the replies you got, even if you were adept at handling them yourself, you wouldnt consider makng a change to your profile to save him the stress?


Hmmmm we are seeing this rather diffrently.

If something, ANYthing in My girls profile caused Me stress or displeasure... it wouldn't be HER problem.... she is MINE, the problem is MINE, I would simply change it...le problème a résolu



LeatherBentOne -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 6:27:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kollin

Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin


I don't have a problem with things like this.  I feel that if my sub can or wants to be taken, there's nothing I can do but count my losses, hope the door doesn't hit her on her way out, and move on. 

I tend to be a low-drama Domme.  Takes way too much negative energy.  I'll spend my time gloating over a red bum anyday, than worrying about what might happen tomorrow.

LBO



smilezz -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 6:32:46 AM)

There is this really nifty lil' thing up on the right hand of your screen, it's a big o' "X"......click on it.  POOF!  person that's a problem is gone!   Viola! problem solved.




BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 6:39:44 AM)

"If her sense of owned is the same as your sense of owned....there really isn't anything to worry about. One can't steal that which refuses to be stolen. "

There you go 
one short sentence she has solved it all...be well WILLIAM

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sweetnurseBBW -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 6:44:37 AM)

It is the internet, there will always be those that do not show respect. Im sure your sub knows where the block button is. Ignore it. I get offers from those that cannot read all the time. I ignore it. It isn't worth my time. Master knows I am his and I know I am his. No worries.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 7:19:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyIce
This thread is rather amusing.
A collared submissive should not speaking to other Doms without permission.

Well I guess if she's talking to other doms, then she has permission.

And if she doesn't have permission, there are already problems in the existing relationship.



SimplyMichael -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 7:59:18 AM)

I got around this after several people would talk to my submissive or she would be cornered and feel pressure to talk.  We had been discussing piercing and body modification and so I surprised her.  I had her tongue cut out.

Kinda sucks for oral but sure keeps the bitch from talking

In case you are reading this and can't tell, that is sarcasm.

If it has a hole in it, men are going to talk to it.  If you ain't man/woman enough to deal with that, hang up your spurs because you are too insecure to be controlling another.



angaothsi -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 9:18:06 AM)

LOL, SimplyMichael, too funny



LadyHugs -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 9:37:28 AM)

Dear kollin, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
You cannot steal a slave and or submissive.  The slave/submissive must be willing to go.
 
Perhaps if you trust your submissive enough, they can respond to these individuals in a like manner and then put them on Block and or Ignore.
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



susie -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 10:19:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyIce

This thread is rather amusing.
A collared submissive should not speaking to other Doms without permission.


I have never asked my Master for permission to speak to others on here be it Dom or sub. He is aware that I chat and post here but does not have any issue with that at all. Perhaps that is because of that one important thing "TRUST" Or perhaps he is just secure enough about our relationship not to have to consider who I chat to. I am also adult enough to stand up for myself and tell people that I am not interested in them. They soon get the message. Any that don't I ignore.



Miraculix -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (1/29/2007 12:34:06 PM)

If you love something,
set it free.
If is stays with you,
it is yours.
If it flies away,
it never was...



Lucius -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (2/25/2007 3:39:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I go about this in a different way. I play mind games with the idiots. Why complain when you can screw with their heads.


Since I'm unowned you could send them my way. But somehow I have a feeling they aren't looking for someone my age or size........ Might be an interesting mind game though! LOLOL


I can't speak for the idiots in question.

But I checked out your profile and neither your age nor your size bothers Me. I wish you were closer to Me geographically, though.

Then again, as I said, I can't speak for these men who persist in writing to already owned slaves.

Or who write to avowed lesbians.

Or who write to women who clearly state certain parameters in their profiles, when they are just as clearly outside those parameters - too old, too young, too far away, or otherwise unsuitable according to what is in the profile or journal. I see a lot of complaints about these things, and I see these as different manifestations of the same underlying stupidity.

To answer the original question; well, that's already been covered by a lot of other people already. Lots of good suggestions, and I can't think of any that haven't been mentioned at least once. I don't know why these men are doing this, or what they think they'd be gaining - if she's that easily swiped, they won't be able to hold her either.

Just remember, their behavior is a reflection on THEM. It has nothing to do with how devoted Your slave is to You, or with Your personal qualities in any way. You could be a God among Dominants, she could be as faithful as Penelope, and they'd still be doing what they're doing. Whatever You DO decide to do about it, don't let them bother You. They're just not worth the stress.

Lucius Alexander

House of the Palindromedary



azzmaster -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (2/25/2007 4:09:30 PM)

i sometimes send messages to owned slaves but i make it clear that i m not hittin on em, i usually just want to comment on something in their profile or pic, no reason to make friends, that just seems like a sneaky way of gettin next to em. i would wonder if ur sub is trying to make u jealous, i get email from people that don't interest me and i simply don't reply



Sinergy -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (2/25/2007 7:06:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyIce

This thread is rather amusing.
A collared submissive should not speaking to other Doms without permission.


Put your own under whatever rules you wish sweetie... don't try telling others what protocols to use with Their own property! How They must excersise Their control of the girl They Own.

Though with Mine, she already HAS permission... generic, for respectful and friendly folks regardless of what lable or gender. I deal with the rest... but then *I* have a girl I can trust!


Well put, RavenMuse.

juliaoceania is a big girl and can handle herself.  I dont live in fear that somebody is going to steal her away.

Except when she needs me to handle her.

Just me, etc.

Sinergy



azzmaster -> RE: 'Stealing' Subs (2/26/2007 12:28:47 AM)

leatherbentone u have an excellent attitude. tho we may own someone the truth is people still make their own choices about who 2 submit to, and y trip? life is 2 short



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