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sexual performance as a slave/sub - 4/30/2004 3:30:19 AM

slaveofKat

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In our new lifestyle as slave/mistress, most of the time while at home I'm either completely naked or wearing only silk boxers, and everything I have is right there for Mistress to see all of the time. What I'm finding is that Sometimes, when it comes to actual intercourse, I get what might be called performance anxiety, or might be something totally different. I'm sexually aroused mentally and emotionally, but sometimes "junior" isn't right there too, and when it does get hard, I ejaculate very soon afterwards. This has never been an issue before, and I'm wondering if it has to do with performance anxiety, or if it is me subconsciously retaining the one area of control that I do have over my Mistress, the ability to have me inside her. I was just wondering if anyone else has ever had this happen? I'm 42, and maybe its just my age, not as much of a "stud" as I used to be, maybe time for Viagra??
I want to please Mistress, maybe I'm focusing too much on pleasing her? My tongue is getting a lot more action, heh.....

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RE: sexual performance as a slave/sub - 4/30/2004 4:24:33 AM

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My suggestion take with a grain of salt, for it will involve my fetish.

If you soldier ain't saluting lock him in the brig.

Seriously, chastity Is good for that. After two weeks you damn well bet he'd be ready for action.

The premature ejaculation seems like a tougher issue but isn't. The first time in a couple weeks (or days M'Lady) will be fast. After you recover (Times vary) the second time will be longer.

If that fails she can leave the device on and make you use a strap-on.

(I'm joking, but not joking: cuckolding yourself might be hard on your psyche.)

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RE: sexual performance as a slave/sub - 4/30/2004 12:36:33 PM

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i would really like to help you, but um. . . . . . i've never had that problem. IMO ~ i would think it is more of an anxiety thing then a viagra thing. Oh and i don't think being 42 has anything to do with it. But then again, what do i know?! i do wonder however if you have discussed this with your Mistress and what her take is on it?

May i suggest some relaxation techniques might help.

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RE: sexual performance as a slave/sub - 5/1/2004 6:08:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveofKat

In our new lifestyle as slave/mistress, most of the time while at home I'm either completely naked or wearing only silk boxers, and everything I have is right there for Mistress to see all of the time. What I'm finding is that Sometimes, when it comes to actual intercourse, I get what might be called performance anxiety, or might be something totally different. I'm sexually aroused mentally and emotionally, but sometimes "junior" isn't right there too, and when it does get hard, I ejaculate very soon afterwards. This has never been an issue before, and I'm wondering if it has to do with performance anxiety, or if it is me subconsciously retaining the one area of control that I do have over my Mistress, the ability to have me inside her. I was just wondering if anyone else has ever had this happen? I'm 42, and maybe its just my age, not as much of a "stud" as I used to be, maybe time for Viagra??
I want to please Mistress, maybe I'm focusing too much on pleasing her? My tongue is getting a lot more action, heh.....

I believe it has nothing to do with your age but more to do with your mind. I recommend seeing a sexologist or one who specializes in sexual issues.

I hope your situation will be resolved soon so that you may have a happy and fulfilling relationship with your partner.

ZM

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RE: sexual performance as a slave/sub - 5/1/2004 6:11:00 AM

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Oh and one more thing. Since yours is a BDSM relationship, you may want to go to a search engine and type in "kink aware professionals." Unfortunately, I do not have the link or I would post it here. These are professionals who are, for the most part, familiar with the lifestyle and can probably help you with your situation.

My best to you and yours,
ZM

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