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feeling come with life changes - 11/9/2006 2:47:35 AM

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greetings

i am having a major life change my twin is moving with her husband i wrote another post and this is what i meant to say i am a domme i know who and what i am but when something major comes up i look to you men the master or doms i want to just turn myself over to you and it is only at these times. why is this and this is a major thing i will live alone and i am ok but why am i like this now. written with respect to you all i am serious.

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/9/2006 4:02:31 AM

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greetings

i am having a major life change my twin is moving with her husband i wrote another post and this is what i meant to say i am a domme i know who and what i am but when something major comes up i look to you men the master or doms i want to just turn myself over to you and it is only at these times. why is this and this is a major thing i will live alone and i am ok but why am i like this now. written with respect to you all i am serious.

mons

Nobody can really know for sure - but using a bit of "pop psychology", perhaps in times of change and stress, you miss your Father or an important male figure who made you feel safe as a child. That translates today into "finding a Man" when you feel stressed or unsafe. This is, of course, pure speculation, to really know, you'd need to go to a trained therapist.

Good luck with your sister.

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/9/2006 4:26:56 AM

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The serious part of my post:

Change is hard for most people. Although I'm not a twin myself I know some and they are very connected maybe more so than other types of siblings, so your feelings of anguish over separation from her is most likely very natural. Take care.

The non-serious part of my post:

Why do you turn to Men for answers? Well that's easy, cause they are the Lords of the Universe

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/9/2006 7:50:25 AM

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There's all sorts of reasons why you might turn to men. Did you rely on your father a lot to help you through rough times as a kid...or wish you had a father to help? Perhaps your mother wasn't as strong as you thought she should be...and thought that he having a mate would help.

Somewhere in there, you've decided that you're not strong enough...so you turn to what embodies strength to help you.

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/10/2006 2:46:55 AM

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thank you all have it right my father was not there when i needed him at all i over the feeling but i still like to talk with dominant males as friend thank you all for you answer and my twin well she is with her husband and he hates me for no reason

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/10/2006 6:11:22 AM

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thank you all have it right my father was not there when i needed him at all i over the feeling but i still like to talk with dominant males as friend thank you all for you answer and my twin well she is with her husband and he hates me for no reason

mons

It sounds like the space by both the move and the hostile husband is a very hard thing for you to take. Are there ways you can keep a good connection with her despite the distance?

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/10/2006 12:47:14 PM

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I am a twin and I can not stand my twins hubby the feeling is mutual. He does all he can to undermine our closeness. My father and my brothers are very controlling. I have always felt that men have the answers to most problems. I can only guess it is due to my families controlling nature, over the years I learned to give in to their desires. Whenever I am faced with difficult decisions even though I ask my Gf, I still ask the guys and will listen to them over the gals more. It is the rememberence of the controlling of my male family during my growing years. I just feel more secure with a male opion to check out.

I hope this helps Mons sorry about your twin I know how that hurts. a part of you is missing, but you know u did nothing wrong,

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/11/2006 4:37:33 AM

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i can see if i did something wrong or well i hug him he is a black male my father my brother and many other have beaten me and my father tried to murder my mother in front of us and i thought he would be a brother i never had someone i could trust but i never done anything to him for him to act this way it hurts me so much i feel sick my twin is like swtiches me off and acts as if i am not even here i never done one thing to him i do not lie but he hates me it hurt so they will live someeplace else i am not welcome at all i would never let any man treat her bad never, but it does not matter she let him say things talks bad about me. but i guess we are very different i am not just a sister i am a twin oh how strange things have turn what do i do now all suggestion are very welcome i was speaking to a wonderful dom as a friend and i made a mistake i thought he was a sub for a momnet and wrote him a letter like "you better write faster i did not mean it i hope he reads this and sees thank you all this is so hard i will not

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/11/2006 8:18:16 PM

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i would say that when you feel a lack of control in your life from circumstances beyond your control that instead of fighting to regain some form of control like the domme side of you normally would you just want to shut down, give up all control and let someone take over...maybe that's why you want to run to a Dom...why you run to a male Dom...well do you normally have bi/les tendencies? maybe you choose a man simply because you like cock. i doubt the answer is as simple as what daddy did or did not do.

as for your twin problem...based on personal experiences in my life...talk to your twin about her husbands behaviour and try to either figure out a way to get the respect your relation to her demands, or how to avoid him as much as possible.

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RE: feeling come with life changes - 11/12/2006 2:32:18 AM

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greeting litlemisub

no i did not run to a dom for his cock i do not engage in sexual intercourse with my males or no males i would come for comfort for strenght they have someone to talk to it not sexual at all it is the need to have someone strong who is willing just to talk withme a cock is no all in all. that is only one part of a male i would welcome someone who could speak to me as one dominant to another. now missub you mind is ok i undertstand as a sub is your way to what you want , thank you for answering my letter
take care

mons ( thank you all ofr answering )

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