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RE: Why is it? - 11/14/2006 6:38:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: 23TampaMsub

I am a resonably bright guy. I dont just approach a Domme unless I feel there something that I identify with in there profile. I am also very polite and try to follow proper protocol. I am not one of these guys who writes a onoe sentence message hoping to get a response. I make sure that I completely introduce myself. Yet it seems I cant be taken seriously.

Do you heed her parameters if she states them?

Do you sign your name?

Do you send a form letter that's obviously clipped from a profile or been sent out to multiple dominas rather than writing something specific to HER profile?

These are three points that are generally give-aways to me if a guy is just randomly sending out messages to get a bite (aka trolling.)

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RE: Why is it? - 11/14/2006 6:44:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: 23TampaMsub

I am a resonably bright guy. I dont just approach a Domme unless I feel there something that I identify with in there profile. I am also very polite and try to follow proper protocol. I am not one of these guys who writes a onoe sentence message hoping to get a response. I make sure that I completely introduce myself. Yet it seems I cant be taken seriously.

Here's some quick points:
-- Your photos are, well, I'm sorry to say, pretty darned awful. How about finding a friend to help you take a pic in some light, perhaps with something more than a scowl on your face?
-- Your profile doesn't really say much other than you're frustrated, waiting for someone to take you under their wing and that you want to learn. Um, great.....but......what about YOU?
-- What are you doing to market yourself other than sitting on Collarme? You're old enough to be attending munches, BDSM events and the like. Are you doing that, or are you expecting that your little CM profile is going to be the be-all, end-all to your search? (Some really do.....I'm not being funny by asking this!)

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RE: Why is it? - 11/14/2006 6:45:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: fergus

Advice: stop approaching Dommes. Instead of trying to approach a Domme, approach a person who happens to be a Domme. Treat everyone as if they are a unique and wonderful individual deserving of respect and basic human dignity. Expect to be treated the same as well!

Understand that each person has unique life situations that will somehow 'ruin' a 'perfect' image. Realize that everyone makes mistakes, or sometimes has busy lives, or sometimes just flakes. Forgive them for these traits. Expect to be forgiven for your own.

fergus

Yanno neighbor, you're a pretty darned awesome guy. This is some spectacular advice you've given this fellow :-)

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RE: Why is it? - 11/14/2006 5:43:42 PM

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