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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/14/2006 2:17:08 PM

zbabe888

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WOW! Thank you all for your WONDERFUL and INSIGHTFUL posts! I got worried in the begining threads that this was going to be a discussion of semantics. I tried to word my original post in a manner that would simply open up the "what you feel about it" vein. To clarify my current Daddy Dom is a sadist and I am a masochist so it works well - it was that in the past Doms were ONLY into pain limits and that wasn't fullfilling to ME (I KNOW that others crave that!)

LuckyAlb - Thanks for the threads
Wildnwikd - Would LOVE to hear more about your opinion! There seems to be even fewer disussions about the "Daddy" having tits!
Charismagirl - I too have trouble obeying as well as I'd like to be able to. I find the warmth of patience helpful in getting over that hump and developing more trust.
Adaddysgirl - "things like loved, cherished, adored, proctected, safe, secure." These too are the feelings I have been experiencing that seem to heat me up more than I ever expected was possible.
Argentopal - Thank you so much for baring your soul for us! It will help others identify that mystical need in themselves that they can't put their finger on. Certainly had me nodding and saying "Yes, I understand." I am a little jealous too that you have found this in a life partner for yourself! Congrats on that.
gypsysoul - I felt the exact same way although I have nothing in my past to blame it on. Just seemed very "role playerish" when I saw it in action before. So I'd assume if the word Daddy came up I just said "NO" and walked the other way.

When he says to me "my little pet",
the hair stands tall on the back of my neck.
When he says to me "my little whore",
I get a feeling I never felt before.
To kneel before him naked and sad,
Brings me closer to the dreams I've had.
He lifts me tall and lets me know,
He's never going to let me go.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/17/2006 5:36:46 PM

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For me the two quotes below sum up very well my relationship with my Daddy. He is the only person who has ever given me unconditional love and acceptance. When I thank him (as I often do) for taking care of me, keeping me safe, happy, and comfortable, he says, "That's my job." The way he says it is like it's just a given that he'll always be there for me.

(Although I can sometimes work myself into a frenzy of worry imagining a time when he won't be. I have to force myself to live in the moment and stop worrying about things that may never happen for many many (many (I hope!)) years.)

Soquili's Girl

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MsOpal
I would have said before that I trusted him totally, but this is just so much more. When a child has a good father-daughter relationship the little girl does not wake up each day and say to herself ... "Do I trust my Daddy to love me today? Do I trust him to take the best care of me that he can? Do I trust hom to not harm me?" They do not need to ask these questions, they just KNOW, it is innate, it is always there. It is being so safe, so loved, so protected that there is never any question about it. It is comfort, security, love at the most base levels. For me, for us, our Daddy-little girl is about that trust.

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

That being said, there are some words i could use to describe my feelings in those relationships, things like loved, cherished, adored, proctected, safe, secure.

In my entire life, i never felt i could find a partner who could truly love me unconditionally (such as a parent does)....but i did find that in those relationships. i also had the feeling i would never be 'deserted'...and that was just such a good feeling

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/18/2006 1:05:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoquilisGirl

For me the two quotes below sum up very well my relationship with my Daddy. He is the only person who has ever given me unconditional love and acceptance. When I thank him (as I often do) for taking care of me, keeping me safe, happy, and comfortable, he says, "That's my job." The way he says it is like it's just a given that he'll always be there for me.

i used to thank my daddy too....just because i wanted him to know how lucky i felt with the way he treated me. Great, isn't it?

(Although I can sometimes work myself into a frenzy of worry imagining a time when he won't be. I have to force myself to live in the moment and stop worrying about things that may never happen for many many (many (I hope!)) years.)

Oh, i used to do the same thing! It was just too scary to think about though

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/18/2006 10:01:07 AM

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To me this defines DADDY / MASTER

DADDY = Someone who is like a normal daddy in my son's life. YES i scold [punish] my son when he is naughty BUT i also reward him when he is obediant... LIKE A NORMAL NON BSDM DAD IS TO A SON...
The son has RIGHTS

MASTER = The SLAVE to me means one that has no rights.
Much like the SLAVES of old when the south had SLAVES in their fields and the SLAVES of olden times had no rights. If the MASTER decides they are to be the doormat THEN they must serve as the doormat or get brutally punnished...

BUT then that is me... DADDY / MASTER to the GUYS ONLY

BTW.... It is nice to see others in here others from the fair city called
SYRACUSE, NY = USA

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/18/2006 4:50:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: JustIn2You

To me this defines DADDY / MASTER

DADDY = Someone who is like a normal daddy in my son's life. YES i scold [punish] my son when he is naughty BUT i also reward him when he is obediant... LIKE A NORMAL NON BSDM DAD IS TO A SON...
The son has RIGHTS

MASTER = The SLAVE to me means one that has no rights.
Much like the SLAVES of old when the south had SLAVES in their fields and the SLAVES of olden times had no rights. If the MASTER decides they are to be the doormat THEN they must serve as the doormat or get brutally punnished...

BUT then that is me... DADDY / MASTER to the GUYS ONLY

BTW.... It is nice to see others in here others from the fair city called
SYRACUSE, NY = USA

Hey, from the 'Cuse!

Okay, so i am curious here. If a Daddy allows the son rights...but the Master allows the slave no rights....how do you blend the two? Just curious

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/18/2006 8:17:05 PM

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As a Master/Daddy myself I think I may be able to answer that . the Daddy in me allows her to have rights as long as they fall within the guidelines of the Master that I am ..

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/19/2006 12:56:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

As a Master/Daddy myself I think I may be able to answer that . the Daddy in me allows her to have rights as long as they fall within the guidelines of the Master that I am ..

Well, that was short and sweet...lol.

So....when i first started talking with my first Daddy, he told me what he would expect from me in a relationship and basically asked me if i felt i was capable of that. It just so happened that what he expected was pretty much what i expected too.....so that was not a problem.

At the same time, because i was still fairly new to the l/s, he left the door open that if something arose that i did not feel i could do, i could talk to him about it. He really seemed like a reasonable guy and although it never came up, i think he would have really taken into consideration something i brought up as a hard limit.

i did feel like i had rights....but only if something was very important to me....and although it was never really said, i would be free to leave should i find a hard limit that was not acceptable to him. There was never really a doubt who allowed the rights....but there was always that understanding too.

Most slaves have only the rights their Master allows. So is that different than what is allowed your lil girl?

JustIn2You said his boy had rights, but the slave did not. Is that really just the same as having only the rights the Master allows?

Sorry, but i'm just confused

Daddysgirl

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/19/2006 7:01:19 AM

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it is very similar ... in effect the girls I talk with understand that the door is open for them at anytime . they can either follow my rules or move on .... but if they stay they will be treated as both a lil girl and a slave to me ........

They will do chores based on my needs around the house . they will service my sexual needs as I want them .. without question. If it is something that really can't or won't do because they feel its a hard limit then yes . we will discuss it . thats kinda where the Daddy part comes in . I will show them guidance as to why they should do it . but in the same tone they are humans and have theright to walk out and say this isn't for me. They will also service my Sadism as best as they can ... now not every woman can handle that so I know we need to push every so steadily towards that .. and I feel sometimes my Daddy side shows when we are pushing.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/20/2006 8:36:07 PM

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I have a LOT I could say about the daddydom dynamic. It might work better if you sent me a message on collarme. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have.

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RE: Daddy Doms - 11/21/2006 6:13:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

it is very similar ... in effect the girls I talk with understand that the door is open for them at anytime . they can either follow my rules or move on .... but if they stay they will be treated as both a lil girl and a slave to me ........

They will do chores based on my needs around the house . they will service my sexual needs as I want them .. without question. If it is something that really can't or won't do because they feel its a hard limit then yes . we will discuss it . thats kinda where the Daddy part comes in . I will show them guidance as to why they should do it . but in the same tone they are humans and have theright to walk out and say this isn't for me. They will also service my Sadism as best as they can ... now not every woman can handle that so I know we need to push every so steadily towards that .. and I feel sometimes my Daddy side shows when we are pushing.

When i first got into the Daddy/girl dynamic, it was not real popular amongst the 'M/s crowd'. Actually, most of the Daddy Doms seemed more involved in Domestic Discipline type of stuff. i am seeing though that the D/g dynamic is becoming more acceptable and i am seeing more Daddy/Masters now.

i do not read female profiles here but i am wondering....do you see a lot of lil girl/slaves on here?

Edited to add: Do you find yourself identifying more with the Master role or Daddy role...or are they pretty much equal?

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