soulreaver67
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Babygirl (Quivver), Look-- begging is something that can be enjoyed greatly by the Dom and the sub. To some degree it's humiliating... you are having to vocalize your 'secret cravings' or 'neediness' in rude and uncouth terms ("...please Master, may your sloppy-sexed fucktoy cum for you?..."). That sort of thing. However, what you really need to be asking is-- Does he just like hearing you beg in ever more humiliating ways, as proof you really want "it", or Is he training you with denial? If you don't like denial, tell him that, or talk to him about it. If he only intends to deny you a little while in order to build your need, that's one things. If he's trying to train you by only allowing you gratification when you succeed at something or please him, as a reward, that's somewhat different. If he just likes to hear you beg, and thinks that that is all there is to it, then that is entirely another thing. --- I love to listen to a girl beg, while she kneels in front of me with her legs spread wide, thrusting her sex at me. To see her shiver, to see hear heat and need... mmmmmmmmm...... love it. Or on the phone, while she spanks her pussy hard so I can hear it. But she and I both know it's leading somewhere, usually to great pleasure from her. The only pleasure *I* derive from this lifestyle, is in her pleasure. That's it. If she isn't getting everything she can dream of out of the relationship-- then I'm not doing my job. I will *never* judge her. I will *never* be upset with her. I will *respect* her always. I will *trust* her. I will never truly *hurt* her. And I am always willing to discuss. I have no ego to bruise. If I fail, I'm man enough to admit it and learn by it and correct it. You must be willing to communicate, and the key to true communication is to not get emotionally upset while talking. Communications Rule #1-- Whoever realizes, during the course of a discussion that's becoming heated/upsetting, that things will be said that aren't meant, that our language is not a perfect facilitator of our thoughts, and that just getting the words out is important even if imperfect, immediately takes on the greater responsibility of stabilizing the communication. If that means having someone holler and bitch and swear at you-- you take it. They don't necessarily mean it, but they need to unload enough emotion, that their logical brain starts to enter the conversation again. ---- Sugar, if you would like more personal discussion on this issue, you can YIM me at [email protected] any time. I appear invisible, but it's on. I'll respond when I can. What you tell me stays with me. I promise. SoulReaver "You are my Angel of Death, my SoulReaver."-- The Guardian
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