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Top things you look for in male subs

physically attractive

2% (1)

intelligent

28% (13)

emotionally supportive

13% (6)

funny/ witty

8% (4)

financially stable and/or generous

0% (0)

open minded

10% (5)

loyal

17% (8)

immediately available

0% (0)

what's a male sub? Hey, what IS all this "BDSM" stuff anyway?

2% (1)

I am a man wanting to see the poll results!

17% (8)

Total Votes : 46

(last vote on : 11/25/2006 6:55:13 PM)
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Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 8:25:46 PM

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I created this poll in response to the "hot" male subs thread.

What is your single top priority in a male sub? (yes, I know it is hard to choose just one)

Please feel free to answer honestly, even if you intend to post something different! After all, the voting itself is anonymous.

Men: If you are a man who wants to see the poll results, please vote for the last choice as a 'blank' choice - so that it doesn't throw off the other numbers.

fergus

RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 8:32:10 PM

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Dag nabbit! I was in the middle of answering when this got moved. lol

Anyway, I'm the first, so my choice is obvious.

I picked loyal.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 8:35:53 PM

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BitaTrouble,

Very interesting! I consider "loyal" to be one of the very underrated good traits to look for in a male.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 8:37:08 PM

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I picked intelligent, if he is as dumb as a rock I do not have the patience to deal with him.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 8:40:07 PM

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Hard to choose, since in my mind a lot of these traits go together automatically, especially "intelligent" and "funny/witty" or "loyal" and "emotionally supportive".

I choose intelligent. At present I'd like to meet someone whose company I can enjoy even when he doesn't have a gag in his mouth.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 10:22:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morrigel

Hard to choose, since in my mind a lot of these traits go together automatically, especially "intelligent" and "funny/witty" or "loyal" and "emotionally supportive".

I choose intelligent. At present I'd like to meet someone whose company I can enjoy even when he doesn't have a gag in his mouth.

--M

I think of them as seperate (lol, hence I listed them as such) ... but they are not mutually exclusive either!

Could be a fun time WITH a gag in my mouth too! lol

I am also glad to see some people voting WITHOUT posting! (though I really would love to hear the opinions) Makes me feel like there are some folk who are offering their votes truly anonymously.

fergus

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 10:25:49 PM

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I picked funny/witty... if you can't laugh or hold an interesting conversation with me, it's NOT going to go any further. But, intelligence is a must (goes hand in hand with witty imo) as is emotionally supportive. As for the open mind... if a sub isn't open minded.... why on earth are they involved in BDSM????

Loyalty is required for any type of sexual intercourse. Bring a critter home and I'll do illegal things to you.... *evil eye to all cheaters*

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 10:34:24 PM

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I picked funny/witty over intelligent. Someone with smarts and no personality is about as bad as eye candy with no brain. I was hoping this was going to be a pick all that apply type post. I always thought I was being too picky, when I wanted someone with a sense of humor, smart enough to hold up a conversation, emotinoally available enough to have a real relationship with, affectionate AND preferably physically attractive.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 10:40:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I picked funny/witty over intelligent. Someone with smarts and no personality is about as bad as eye candy with no brain. I was hoping this was going to be a pick all that apply type post. I always thought I was being too picky, when I wanted someone with a sense of humor, smart enough to hold up a conversation, emotinoally available enough to have a real relationship with, affectionate AND preferably physically attractive.

DV

I was tempted to post it as a vote for multiple type thing ...

But I figured I would end up with equal percentages across the board! Of course we want someone with all or most of these qualities ... but I think it will be fun to narrow in on which ones will be most important!

By the way, your reasonng is EXACLY why I listed intelligence and witty as two seperate things! Heck, I reckon we could subdivide the whole post to another 12 -or perhaps 100 criteria.

fergus

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/12/2006 11:13:13 PM

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Since I could only pick one, I chose intelligent because that's probably the most important thing to Me. However, several of the other qualities are also important, namely emotionally supportive, witty, financially stable (not necessarily affluent), open-minded, and loyal. Physically attractive is way down on My list of priorities.

What is extremely important to Me is that the submissive be single and not have a vanilla girlfriend. I also prefer men in the same age range (plus or minus ten years of My age). Being within 2 hours driving distance is a huge advantage, but I would still consider a promising candidate from another state who was relocatable.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/13/2006 8:27:13 AM

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I chose open minded.. because I've noticed that most truly open minded people tend to be intelligent. And even if they are not, at least they are open to learning about new things. There is nothing worse to me than someone who is set in their own little world and absolutely refuses to look outside of it. To me a BDSM relationship is a journey, and I don't want someone who can't even take a first step.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/13/2006 10:14:00 AM

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I chose funny/witty because if he can't laugh at some of the predictments we can get into when doing what it is we do then he won't work with me long term. And, he needs to be able to handle my humor so I am making the presumption that if he is funny he will, of course find my humor delightful...or else!

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/13/2006 8:30:50 PM

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With the exception of "intelligent" it seems as if several other choices are fairly even money.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/13/2006 10:56:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

\I choose intelligent. At present I'd like to meet someone whose company I can enjoy even when he doesn't have a gag in his mouth.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/14/2006 4:43:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mikal
As for the open mind... if a sub isn't open minded.... why on earth are they involved in BDSM????

I can think of a number of "subs" who aren't particularly open minded right on these boards. Just look for the ones on the threads where we start talking about some of the stuff we do - they'll be the ones chiming in that we're cruel or they don't get it or the like.

I chose intelligent because I get very irritated with folks that aren't when in a dating situation. But some other things I'd add to that being deal breakers are whether or not they're married, if they have some real time experience (as opposed to being online for years with no real life contact). Funny/witty is important (especially if they have a dry/slightly sarcastic sense of humor and know how to appropriately use it).

I'd actually say that "immediately available" is also fairly important, if it's translated how I see it. I translate that as the sub is local enough to reasonably pursue a relationship (that varies for different folks but for me I put that at no more than 50 miles from where I live) as well as "immediately available" in that they have the balls to get out and meet within a month of first contact without needing to talk for ages or get their life in order so they can pursue a relationship (i.e. if they're in the middle of a divorce, not out of jail yet, etc). That's actually the primary reason I am not pursuing a relationship at this time, because I personally don't fall into the "immediately available" category given that the end of the semester crunch is upon me.

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/14/2006 4:07:32 PM

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Hey Fergus! Nice to see ya around again!
I chose loyal, although there are several I would choose, and I don't mean "generous". I have that being thrown in My face, even as I write, as if I should choose new living room furniture in exchange for an uncooperative boy. See ya when hell freezes over! *Smile*
However, I would say that financial stability is not a bad thing. It shows self-discipline with money and time as well as an ability to hold a job or consistently earn. Which, in turn, means that the person has reasonable business and social skills.
Along with the traits you list that I would look for most, i.e. loyalty, intelligence, emotionally supportive and and witty, did you forget to include self-awareness (knowing they are truly ready for this type of power exchange relationship), honesty and obedience?

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/14/2006 4:16:07 PM

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You forgot "I'm a smart male sub who knows how to see the results without voting."

Although, somehow, I don't see that one getting a lot of votes.

Yours,

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/14/2006 4:18:48 PM

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I guess if I was gonna head that way, and it would have to be a girl slave that wanted a male body servant, so by fiat once removed, I would look for extra money about his person.

Just me, I guess............

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/14/2006 5:38:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

I'd actually say that "immediately available" is also fairly important, if it's translated how I see it. I translate that as the sub is local enough to reasonably pursue a relationship (that varies for different folks but for me I put that at no more than 50 miles from where I live) as well as "immediately available" in that they have the balls to get out and meet within a month of first contact without needing to talk for ages or get their life in order so they can pursue a relationship (i.e. if they're in the middle of a divorce, not out of jail yet, etc). That's actually the primary reason I am not pursuing a relationship at this time, because I personally don't fall into the "immediately available" category given that the end of the semester crunch is upon me.

When I first typed it, I was thinking along the lines of "first sub to come along" but your reading of it is very interesting! And an interesting dimension.

Dusty, thanks for the welcome back :)

Benji - you'd be surprised who can and can not figure things like that out. Anyway, somehow - when it is a poll ... people want to vote whether they want to or not. This is way were the menfolk can feel like they are particiating without queering the results.

Ron, interesting perspective - the shopper looking for a male sub for another etc.

fergus

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RE: Top things you look for in male subs - 11/23/2006 6:18:55 PM

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Which, of course, Ma'am, You had. You just ignored it.

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