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medievalwench -> Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 2:21:28 PM)
My Master has told me that because He is less interested in the pain side of my submission than i am He is looking for a Mistress to use me in that way, has anyone else had experience with this? He says because He trusts me fully He is prepared to allow me to be with a Domme sometimes also to experience my bi side as i never have done. I have given myself fully to Him, and was not seeking another although i do often wish He would be more sadistic with me. i was not thinking of looking for another but i am cautiously curious, He has been my only Dom and my only love, and He will be the only onei will truly answer to, but I accept His reasoning, and have discussed the reasons and what He expects. We have been together for enough years that W/we are both secure in our relationship, Thanks, wench

Denny17 -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 2:22:14 PM)
Two at once Fuck yeah. More da better.

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 3:02:59 PM)
<Lol>, i don't think He was intending to sit in from what He said, i think i might ask Him to at least at first though, as i've never been with anyone but Him. Cheers, wench

Rayne58 -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 3:17:24 PM)
We are currently seeking a Domme/switch/sub for me to have some play with. I have had two or three experiences of both Master and a female switch friend of ours topping me, and Master would like to see me try topping someone (which I'm not too sure about, as He says I am all sub [;)] ) I am permitted to have sex with other women without Him, though all of those times have been vanilla. I began exploring my bi side in my early 40s. We would like to blend BDSM with the bi exploration now[:)]

AquaticSub -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 3:38:42 PM)
While it's not a formal thing, my dominant allows me to play with others at play parties and while long-distence he did give me permission to have a specified friend provide me with release.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 4:15:35 PM)
I share my girl with a husband, and two other Dominants. And, this doesn't mean that I've got 3 sets of threesomes going on. Quite the contrary. she simply has four relationships in her life. Master Fire

nikaa -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 6:23:59 PM)
medievalwench, There are things that I enjoy having done to me that my Master is simply not comfortable doing at this point. He has allowed me to scene with other Doms that he felt comfortable with. He is always there as a silent observer. This allowed several things. It gave him an opportunity to observe play that is new to him and it also allowed him to give me something that I enjoyed, wanted, perhaps even need on some level. It is always something we discuss alone as an M/s couple prior before. There are boundaries of play and expectations of play set up prior and he is ALWAYS present. Those expectations and boundaries are ALWAYS discussed with the other Dom before hand. I was a bit nervous about it because I didn't want to make him feel like I was turning to someone else for those things. Though it ultimately has been a postive choice.

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 7:20:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nikaa medievalwench, There are things that I enjoy having done to me that my Master is simply not comfortable doing at this point. that is the case with my Master, He just either does not enjoy or does not see the way to go about certain things. He has allowed me to scene with other Doms that he felt comfortable with. He is always there as a silent observer. This allowed several things. It gave him an opportunity to observe play that is new to him and it also allowed him to give me something that I enjoyed, wanted, perhaps even need on some level. That makes sense, it was not initially His intention to be there but has now decided that it would be a good thing, if W/we find the right person. i feel that i need more sadistic treatment than He wishes to give except as punishment, and discussing this was what brought Him to decide to seek another Dominant who enjoys it more and who could show U/us both the intricacies of sadism and corporal Domming. It is always something we discuss alone as an M/s couple prior before. There are boundaries of play and expectations of play set up prior and he is ALWAYS present. Those expectations and boundaries are ALWAYS discussed with the other Dom before hand. Master has put a basic outline of what He is seeking on His journal, and will talk thoroughly with the Domme He finds acceptable before anything is arranged, He has also found a useful online checklist or agreement of what will and will not happen during a session which may be used. I was a bit nervous about it because I didn't want to make him feel like I was turning to someone else for those things. Though it ultimately has been a postive choice. i feel the similarly, i have offered myself to Him and He has accepted me, and in a way i felt that i am in some way being almost disloyal to Him; but it was His decision to seek another person for my experience, He decided it Himself after a lot of discussion about what each of O/our needs are in this relationship. Thankyou for replying to me, i really appreciate it :0)

akisha -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 7:49:00 PM)
There is nothing wrong with a Dominant seeking advice or an apprenticeship per se, from another Dominant that has more experience in the areas that the less experienced one would like to learn. I'd personally encourage it. If you have someone or a group of people that you can learn from, especially on the edgier side of play, that would be great. Reading is a good form of background information, but seeing and doing with someone that already knows is much wiser. As for being given to someone else.... umm i would personally hope that i was happy enough with the One i was with that i wouldn't really be seeking someone else. If He or She was not into something i was, and the kink was not overly important then i'd be happy with what i had. Playing with others occasionally might be ok, but i certainly wouldn't want to have to serve two Dominants on a full time or semi full time basis. I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that didn't come close to meeting the needs i really needed met, and hopefully i would fulfil the majority of his as well. If there was something i really wanted to try, I'd talk to my Dominant and see if He or She was willing to try it as well, or if they would be willing to go to workshops or contact a local Dominant that has experience in that area to learn from.

ChaOz -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 9:31:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: medievalwench My Master has told me that because He is less interested in the pain side of my submission than i am He is looking for a Mistress to use me in that way, has anyone else had experience with this? He says because He trusts me fully He is prepared to allow me to be with a Domme sometimes also to experience my bi side as i never have done. I have given myself fully to Him, and was not seeking another although i do often wish He would be more sadistic with me. i was not thinking of looking for another but i am cautiously curious, He has been my only Dom and my only love, and He will be the only onei will truly answer to, but I accept His reasoning, and have discussed the reasons and what He expects. We have been together for enough years that W/we are both secure in our relationship, Thanks, wench Hello wench, I personally wouldnt take a relationship altering action such as this unless you have totally talked it out and your Master understands exactly how you feel. This will alter the dynamic of your relationship so need total honesty and communication, just remember that he cant make responsible decisions unless he knows exactly how you feel. Try looking at different methods of giving pain and find one that he may want to explore and another thing, dont call it being sadistic. The mentality of that may put him off, it isnt sadistic in my mind its just offering a different type of stimulant. Talking about it in a different way may help him integrate the idea into himself, and overall, with a painslut like yourself I'd just see it a 'medicine,' all good girls take their medicine right? The better you behave, the more regular it may become. Just another way to control and deepen your interaction which would IMHO be better for you both to learn how to bring it into the relationship then simply to give you to another. If its still no good try to integrate it into other play, like limit it to play scenes in public if he is an exhibitionist or like add it into normal sessions, so if u were made to lie still and not say anything and he stimulated you with his hand and u moved or made a sound, u get caned etc. There's a lot of ways to add it that might appeal to him.

smilezz -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/16/2006 10:14:21 PM)
Thorns would allow me to have girly snaks......especially if i brought them home to play. LOL! As far as female dominants go........not a chance in hell. (That's for their protection) As far as male dominants go......there is one particular Man that He and i both know well, He "may" allow me to feel a few of His toys that i have been curious about....other than this particular Man.............not a chance in hell. He does not share me with others, He's greedy, and He likes it just that way. chucklez Happy Thursday......soon to be Friday! ~smilezz~

Caitriona -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 5:20:06 AM)
My Lord and I are being mentored by an experienced Dominant in our local community and I am allowed to "play" with him more as a teaching tool. He's showing My Lord how to use all the toys that I like - floggers, ect. However, My Lord is always present, comforting me and supervising if he's not weilding the toys. There might come a time when I "play" with others whom we trust, but it will be a bit yet, I think.

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 5:24:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha There is nothing wrong with a Dominant seeking advice or an apprenticeship per se, from another Dominant that has more experience in the areas that the less experienced one would like to learn. that is definitely part of this for Master, as W/we have been self contained in our lifestyle and maybe need freshening up and to try new things. I'd personally encourage it. If you have someone or a group of people that you can learn from, especially on the edgier side of play, that would be great. Reading is a good form of background information, but seeing and doing with someone that already knows is much wiser. As for being given to someone else.... umm i would personally hope that i was happy enough with the One i was with that i wouldn't really be seeking someone else. He is enough for me 99.9% of the time - but there is no getting over the fact that He is a man and to only ever be with Him i would never get to experience my bisexuality. i could go on without being with a woman, but i would be denying part of my makeup. If He or She was not into something i was, and the kink was not overly important then i'd be happy with what i had. Playing with others occasionally might be ok, but i certainly wouldn't want to have to serve two Dominants on a full time or semi full time basis. It is not intended that i fully serve the Mistress, only occasional sessions whilst totally under His collar. I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that didn't come close to meeting the needs i really needed met, and hopefully i would fulfil the majority of his as well. If there was something i really wanted to try, I'd talk to my Dominant and see if He or She was willing to try it as well, or if they would be willing to go to workshops or contact a local Dominant that has experience in that area to learn from. He does meet my needs and i his, or things would not have lasted for the years that they have; but as i say, he is a guy and i would like to try being with a woman to see what it is like. Also, He does use corporal and sadistic play, but wants to learn to get more into it, or find someone who is more into it for me to play with as the rest of our relationship is really good.

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 5:32:01 AM)
Thanks ChaOz, i have passed on Your message to Master so that He can see if the ideas work for Him, He isn't expecting to find anyone suitable easily anyway so W/we have plenty of time to experiment and He may change His mind in that time, i don't know for sure but if i was getting more pain slut treatment from Him maybe i wouldn't be so bothered about trying being with a woman, i do know that W/we have a strong relationship though - i have had vanilla experiences with women while being His and it has not been a problem.

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 5:37:41 AM)
Master would definitely not share me with a man, or with a woman who did not accept that He is the only one i am totally answerable to. To be honest i think i will put this to the side in my mind and see what the future brings, i'm not going to run around looking for someone, i am not desparate to change things or feeling that i'm missing anything fundamental in O/our relationship. and He is trying to include more of the things i like as a pain slut to try to make things more balanced, i'm looking forward to the new flogger He got in the mail today - He have me a playful swat with it as i left His room this morning and commented on its weight, mmmmmm ;0)

mstrjx -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 6:09:14 AM)
I've been the 'third' with any number of couples. It was never something I sought out myself; I was always approached to participate. I think part of the time it was to introduce the submissive to the fact that the dominant 'could' bring in another. In other cases I believe that my home was 'not' a motel that would be an extra expense played a part. Pre-negotiations of some sort (with myself and the dominant) always occurred, and I suppose some sort of information was shared between the two of them before I was introduced into the mix. Some of the times I was alone with the sub, others the dom was also present. Sex (at least for me) was never part of the agenda, nor did I expect anything. My motivation was the 'being chosen', the 'reputation', and I took my responsibilities in the matter quite seriously. The scenes were always quite good, some awesome. Jeff

MsOpal -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 6:13:24 AM)
We do not share ourselvers sexually with others (yet) although we do hope to ahve a poly relationship at some point with another female living in our home. But, yes, I am allowed to play / scene with others as a bottom. I love love love singletails and Argent does not do singletails, so I have been played by others in order to have some of that, and it was lovely! The thing that surprised me was that as I was tied and whipped, it really got me going and it was hot and sexy but the man who was doing it (both hot and sexy guys in theor own right) was not the person "in my head". As the man was hitting me with his whip, Argent was the one in my head, as i was getting hot and excited, it was Argent I was thinking about. Later, when I discussed this with one of the whip-guys, he laughed and siad it was totally normal and he understood that right then he was "only a dildoe" and that was fine with him. I thought that was a good way to put it. He was wielding the whip, but Argent was controlling the scene, and therefore, me. Worked for me! (worked for Argent later too!) MsOpal

akisha -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 3:07:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: medievalwench quote: ORIGINAL: akisha There is nothing wrong with a Dominant seeking advice or an apprenticeship per se, from another Dominant that has more experience in the areas that the less experienced one would like to learn. that is definitely part of this for Master, as W/we have been self contained in our lifestyle and maybe need freshening up and to try new things. I'd personally encourage it. If you have someone or a group of people that you can learn from, especially on the edgier side of play, that would be great. Reading is a good form of background information, but seeing and doing with someone that already knows is much wiser. As for being given to someone else.... umm i would personally hope that i was happy enough with the One i was with that i wouldn't really be seeking someone else. He is enough for me 99.9% of the time - but there is no getting over the fact that He is a man and to only ever be with Him i would never get to experience my bisexuality. i could go on without being with a woman, but i would be denying part of my makeup. If He or She was not into something i was, and the kink was not overly important then i'd be happy with what i had. Playing with others occasionally might be ok, but i certainly wouldn't want to have to serve two Dominants on a full time or semi full time basis. It is not intended that i fully serve the Mistress, only occasional sessions whilst totally under His collar. I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that didn't come close to meeting the needs i really needed met, and hopefully i would fulfil the majority of his as well. If there was something i really wanted to try, I'd talk to my Dominant and see if He or She was willing to try it as well, or if they would be willing to go to workshops or contact a local Dominant that has experience in that area to learn from. He does meet my needs and i his, or things would not have lasted for the years that they have; but as i say, he is a guy and i would like to try being with a woman to see what it is like. Also, He does use corporal and sadistic play, but wants to learn to get more into it, or find someone who is more into it for me to play with as the rest of our relationship is really good. Please don't think i was saying anything negative about you and your Master S i was just putting in my feelings on the idea of playing with another Dominant. I can see as Caitriona said that she is used as a training tool. That would work for me, I just really have no desire to be with a different Dominant. Though i think brining in another on rare occasions for fun would be cool grins

medievalwench -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/17/2006 5:48:39 PM)
replying to akisha - i didn't read your post in a negative way, constructive advice is always a good thing and if i didn't want to hear other people's opinions i wouldn't ask. Master has now taken down the information about seeking a Domme anyway, we want to see what the local scene is like before moving on with that now, He was feeling that He wasn't fulfilling me but we have talked more now that He felt up to a really deep discussion and He now knows how i feel about it and that i don't need to rush into anything, i can wait for Him to get well enough to explore. Thankyou, wench

SirGordonslil -> RE: Has anyone had their Master seek another Dominant for them to work with? (11/19/2006 4:03:05 PM)
[:D] Master allows me to scene with other prospective Dom/mme's but only with Him present and only if they can bring something new to the table. in doing so, for me, i don't find it too dificult as i see it as serving my Master by proxy, and in this frame of mind i am able to submitt to a level Master is accustomed to have me submitt. there are always certain limits that W/we have when it comes to serving other Dom/mmes as W/we have special things W/we like to keep to O/ourselves. personally i found it to be a good test and also a place to shine for my Master, in serving O/others i am able to show Master and myself just how far i have come on my journey with Him, and its also a way to push me a little, take me out of the box so to speak and away from the familiar that is with my Master. [:D]

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