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Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 8:19:59 PM

Notanaddict

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Hi all,

Its been a while since I posted on here, and I guess things have changed a bit.. I read the forums every second day or so, but rarely reply anymore... anyway, I have a question..

In my previous relationship, the one that opened my eyes to sm (so to speak) my partner was very interested in needleplay/playpiercings.. This was something I had always been interested in and I got really into.. both ways, I wold pierce her and get pleasure from it, and she would pierce me and it would make me whoozy and happy... and it felt good..

In my current relationship, I was lucky to not only find someone I absolutly adore, but also someone with the same interests as me... I still pierce her, and she has on occation pierced me... But I don't like it anymore.,.. to have it done I mean..

I dunno if its because my X was a nurse and I knew that she knew what she was doing and I taught my current girl to do it and I can't fully relax, i still feel I have to supervise.. Or if its the fact that my girl is insecure and if its not done in one fluent motion properly its n good...

anyway, I guess my question is, has anyone had one activity they really enjy with one person not work at all with someone else? I know everyone is different, but things that you crave and that no ne else can do right? Like some people I have been with its been all about oral, or fisting, but then someone else just can't do it, no matter how much u communicate with them?

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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 8:28:21 PM

MagiksSlave

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Its chemestry and comfert. Sounds like neather of you are really comfertable with her doing the pearsing and there is nothing wrong with that. Different people spark different things in us.. Maybe you just have changed your tastes that happens too. Eather way it happens we are always changing and growing. None of us are the same people we where even yesterday!!

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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 9:03:21 PM

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MajiksSlave hit the nail on the head I think.

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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 9:19:28 PM

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Hello,
I have found that there are things I like to do with one play partner I don't like to do with another.

A couple of people it is because I know they are not comfortable doing some things so it tends to translate into the feel that I get when they do something they are not sure of or don't like.

Others it is because I like them for the thing they do best. What am I in the mood for. When I want to be single tailed I go to someone that is very good at it and that is all I require at that time. Trying to do electric play when I am in the mood for a single tail doesn't do it for me.

Guess I have too many specialized play partners lol. I do have to agree that when I have had to teach someone something I tend not to be able to enjoy it as much until my mind can realize that the person has got it down. I don't do needles, however I do fire play - the more intense the play and the more that can go wrong I tend not to relax enough until they have done it enough when I have taught them something. Self preservation is a good thing. Later. Be safe and well, have fun,
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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 9:36:49 PM

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"anyway, I guess my question is, has anyone had one activity they really enjy with one person not work at all with someone else? I know everyone is different, but things that you crave and that no ne else can do right? Like some people I have been with its been all about oral, or fisting, but then someone else just can't do it, no matter how much u communicate with them? "

Oh Big time....the second Dominant I had ever been involved with is what I concider a WHip master....he was able to ring a bell attached to one of my nipples without hitting my breast before i had them enhanced...so basically he was ablet o ring a bell attached to a nipple on my chest! and never once hit my chest he just "rang my bells" and i hated his whip...he knew what he was doing that i knew...that i felt...he is well known in our community for his whip prowess! and then along came Mr Beard...he was a newbie int he whip sense....I actually was his first victim....i watched him each time we were together practicing and practicing his accuracy...It was me infact that volunteered to be kissed by his whip when i felt he was at the level that i felt cmfrtable...I was able to hang there and take strike after strike...and life was GOOD...So there i was less than a year between the 2 people and differences were extreme..as night and day!

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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 9:41:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CandleInTheWind

"anyway, I guess my question is, has anyone had one activity they really enjy with one person not work at all with someone else? I know everyone is different, but things that you crave and that no ne else can do right? Like some people I have been with its been all about oral, or fisting, but then someone else just can't do it, no matter how much u communicate with them? "

Oh Big time....the second Dominant I had ever been involved with is what I concider a WHip master....he was able to ring a bell attached to one of my nipples without hitting my breast before i had them enhanced...so basically he was ablet o ring a bell attached to a nipple on my chest! and never once hit my chest he just "rang my bells" and i hated his whip...he knew what he was doing that i knew...that i felt...he is well known in our community for his whip prowess! and then along came Mr Beard...he was a newbie int he whip sense....I actually was his first victim....i watched him each time we were together practicing and practicing his accuracy...It was me infact that volunteered to be kissed by his whip when i felt he was at the level that i felt cmfrtable...I was able to hang there and take strike after strike...and life was GOOD...So there i was less than a year between the 2 people and differences were extreme..as night and day!

Hmm interesting so you didnt like when the first guy who was a whip expert used the whip on you but you did like it when the secent who was new at it used it one you.... Shows you there it has a lot to do with chemestry and sertain connections and such.. Who knows why we feel as we do!!

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RE: Liking something, and then not - 11/16/2006 9:58:28 PM

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for me, i could have done the same thing with two different women and had two completely different reactions to it. for me, it all goes back to whether SHE is enjoying it or not.

example...before I was owned i played with Dommes. I have done foot worship and sometimes it was not erotic or satisfying. I think those were times when she allowed me to do it as a reward, or because she thought I would enjoy it.But with Mistress, she has me do it because SHE loves it. That makes all the difference.

Over the past nearly 6 years with Mistress I have done things that I never thought I would, or would find enjoyable. But when she's getting off on it, it fuels me and it all seems to work.

make sense?

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