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Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 10:10:13 AM

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I've mentioned i have wierd complex's. I would greatly appreciate if i could get some input on a small matter.

Make a long story short, my Dom in law (Dom's father) doesnt like me/ didnt like me. He ended up seeing my electricity play porn that was on the net and has deemed me a terrible person. I know excatly what he thinks, not pretty. Seems, though that since i own my Dom's DNA now - he has welcomed me back to the "family" Open arms and all. Which i completely expected him to burn me as a witch when he found out. Now i think the man is has a good heart and i've always liked him. Still do. Havent seen him since May, but tomorrow i am going to see him.

Now here's my wierd complex. Last Xmas he gave me some really nice gifts. A jacket and a sweater and although i have quite a few - i like them and i wear them when its cold. They are quite nice.

i cant decide if i should wear the sweater or jacket tomorrow or not. While i want him to know that although i may do dumb shit - i am a good person. Obviously that only comes through with actions, but impressions are important too. I'm worried that if i wear the sweater or jacket (as i normally would cos chilly) it might come off as sucking up? Trying to show him up? Trying to make a good impression? Some sort of statement? While i want to make a good impression, i dont want to be seen as "trying" to nor do i want to go around making non verbal statements i am unaware of.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 10:14:57 AM

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Wear the jacket.

Once you are inside, he will have seen that you are wearing it, but you will then take it off and not appear as if you are sucking up all day.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 10:27:45 AM

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I think that if you are so caring a person ,that you came to this forum for help in this matter,
that there is no way that your Dom's Dad will not see how wrong he was about you.
I would wear what you want to..but either way ,confess that what he thinks about you
is very important and that you actually worried about it.
Sure you could be giving him "power"..but it's a responsibility he should be taking on
anyway if he's to be a "grandpa"..
just sayin'

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 10:30:32 AM

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hmmm.. i dont want to seem to be sucking up at all! LOL though it'll look like that no matter what huh? Its also going to be an "outside day" Its a family day at my Dom's work. My Dom in law does know - no worries there.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 10:35:39 AM

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Outside day? wear the sweater with a light (but different) jacket over it. it will show you like the sweater, but are not trying to be 'in your face' about it.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 11:50:42 AM

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fergus - you are good at this sort of thing ain't ya?

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 4:54:11 PM

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lol fergus. Thanks. I hate to complicate things... but its an either or. The sweater is a BIG turtle neck sweater and i cant really wear anything over it.

How about i TAKE the jacket and "hide" it?? lmao. Or take it and dress warm enough where i dont "have" to wear it all the time?

btw - i really appreciate it.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/17/2006 4:58:09 PM

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I think you are over thinking this...wear the jacket.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/18/2006 3:30:34 PM

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Hello A/all,

I remember watching a comedian once who was talking about being afflicted with AAADD, or Age Associated Attention Deficit Disorder. This ailment is conflicted by doing things like.

1) Trying to remember if you went to the bathroom yet today, while you are eating lunch.

2) Wondering why you wandered into the kitchen.

3) Wondering why you are holding the garden hose as you walk into your bedroom.

4) Having to check your driver's license to see when you were born, and then trying to figure out what a driver's license is for.

5) etc.

I would be inclined to think the Dom's father will not even remember what he gave you for Christmas. Might compliment you on whatever you wear and ask where you got it, though.

I agree with the poster who said that commenting to the person that you care about their opinion of you is probably the best move.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/18/2006 5:45:01 PM

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Wear it if the weather warrants it, have it slung over your bag if it doesnt

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/19/2006 4:28:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

fergus - you are good at this sort of thing ain't ya?

Yes, because he's a geek

As for the OP....i'd wear the jacket. If he does notice, he'll probably be impressed. And what can that hurt? Sounds like he's trying.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/19/2006 6:10:11 AM

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I would be inclined to think the Dom's father will not even remember what he gave you for Christmas. Might compliment you on whatever you wear and ask where you got it, though.

I agree with the poster who said that commenting to the person that you care about their opinion of you is probably the best move.

Sinergy

you forgot your saying!

Actually i wore the sweater. We woke up late and my Dom said "something comfie" we'll be doing alot of walking. And my pants and jeans are like abit too tight now, so i wore my green sweats and then the white sweater just went well. Though i think i had minor stresses i wasnt dressed appropriately.

The day went splendid = ) All that was said about the sweater was "you wouldnt of by chance come into that last Xmas??" lol It was a good day - i shouldnt worry so much.

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RE: Wierd Complex - 11/19/2006 6:22:09 AM

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I am so happy the day went well. Apparently you were the only one under stress about it. I just recommend you don't stress the little things.

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