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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 4:56:54 AM

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CC,
Emperor, celeste and Aileen pretty much expressed my sentiments exactly . It's not so much a question of being "normal" but more one of "does this feel right?" . Instincts are a good thing.

good luck

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 4:57:24 AM

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Is it normal to have someone drill you on the very first phone call? To force you to "know your place?"

I'll be honest, if Master had tried that with me on the first phone call, he would have found out exactly how much steel is really in my backbone

No one should expect you to act as anything other than YOURSELF. If he made you uncomfortable, you should have spoken up right away and let him know.

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Is this normal of all masters who want slaves?

There is no clearly defined answer for this question. Since everyone has different relationships and defines them differently. Since I personally believe that there is a difference between submissive and slave, my answer is going to differ from that of one who does not support the same opinion.

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No of course it isn't, C. And you KNOW this. You participate around here, you read the boards, you have a sense of what its all about even if you are a novice.

You ran into a jerk. They are innumerable. The one thing to take away from the experience is to look back and figure out clues that this guy was a tosser (as our Brit friends say.) You have a great deal to offer a Master. Don't let it bother you, learn, and move on, miss.

I, too, would agree with what Emperor has said here.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 5:48:31 AM

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As a Dom, I wouldn't treat a sub/slave like that but that is how I am. Different things get different people off, that just isn't MY style. I am more inclinded with Aileen that I want a "human" on the other end to ask questions. If one doesn't ask things of ME how will they learn. Again, this works for ME and may not work for others. I expect someone the learn on their own by MY actions also but if I never tell them what MY favorite drink is how can I expect them to bring it to ME? Just MY thoughts on the topic. I am sorry that you had a bad experience CC.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 6:14:48 AM

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I just had to let you all have a good laugh, since it is the one funny thing out of it all.

There is a way most Doms talk that just makes me weak in the knees. Well there came a point, he asked if i was wet from talking to him, and i said, "No, Sir." He said this isn't good. I again said," No, Sir." He then asked if it at least turned me on, and i said, "No, Sir."

Proof he didn't care is even after all that...he still tried to talk to me about sex.

but yea, that is all going in my journal for a good laugh on bad days.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 6:23:03 AM

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CC, I know that it wasn't <smiling> but that almost sounded like a challange

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 6:35:50 AM

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hmmm. Never thought of it that way. He asked...i said the truth. I can't lie to save my life. lol

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 6:39:16 AM

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That is a very admirable quality. People just need to learn not to ask questions that they don't want the answer to.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 8:03:24 AM

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so i have no experience, and i am trying to cool off from this last conversation. If i come off as disrespectful to some Dom/ Master, i am sorry. I need to know a proto-call for a slave. Is it normal to have someone drill you on the very first phone call? To force you to "know your place

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ORIGINAL: CrazyC

Leave it to Emperor to kick me in the ass, and remind me what i know. LOL

And yes...(to the other Celeste...hehehe) i agree that this is way and i have mine. i had just never came across someone who wanted me as a slave instead of just a sub, is wanted to make sure i wasn't missing something.

This might be futile and will probably just have to work itself out of your system- but stop letting your romantic fuzzy yearning feelings get in the way of your good sense.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 8:53:06 AM

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The first time I tried looking for a dominant via the internet was when my first dominant and I parted ways for a couple of months, while we were not seeing each other I put up an ad on alt, and I talked to this one dominant that seemed intent on verbally shitting on all my beliefs. He was very disrespectful to me on the phone, denigration, rude, and basically I felt devalued. I got very angry and interupted him and told him that the conversation was ending and I abruptly said goodbye and hung up.

I never looked back.

I have to say if the way someone comes across is too brash for you, too bossy for you, too arrogant for you... then they are probably not the right one for you, and it is very ok to say "Goodbye" and hang up. Just write them off as not right for you, someone more appropriate will come along, good luck.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 9:08:57 AM

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A good Master will want to know what makes his girl tick. He will take her desires and wants and needs and fears into consideration so as to properly guide her. It is not the mark of a good Master to treat someone who is not yet His (or even one who is) in such an ill and negative manner.

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 9:18:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: CrazyC

Ok so i have no experience, and i am trying to cool off from this last conversation. If i come off as disrespectful to some Dom/ Master, i am sorry. I need to know a proto-call for a slave. Is it normal to have someone drill you on the very first phone call? To force you to "know your place?"

you know your place already I'm betting...and it will come as instinct when you meet the right person or people, most likely, so you shouldn't have to be forced to do much of anything. you'll do it out of joy in service.

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...he told me he doesn't believe in limits because that mean i am limiting his controle over me. That he will train me to give that up.

In my opinion, this is a red flag. He shouldn't have to do this. When each of you find the right person, it will seem as if you have no limits after a time, because the limits you DO have will match and you no longer worry about them.

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Is this normal of all masters who want slaves?

It's not normal for me, so that makes the answer, "No."

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RE: Yes, Sirring too much.... - 11/22/2006 10:33:38 AM

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i couldnt have said it better BitaTruble :)

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