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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/13/2005 12:56:06 PM   
Jusey


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Status: offline 		May love and light always be with you. You seem very intellegent and I have no doubt that you will make it through this. Pride isn't always a bad thing so don't be so hard on yourself. It is hard to ask for help, but you where strong enough to ask for help here. There are many people who don't ever bother to ask for help anywhere. I am glad you asked and that you got advise from caring and intellegent people. You are a hero. Having been in a situation that required defending my self I know that when you are in that state of mind you are only aware of surviving at any cost. My attacker did not die so obviously I fall short in being able to truely relate. Fortunately for you there are a lot of people that you can get ahold of that truely do relate and can help you get through this. I will light a candle for you. The very best of luck to you. Blessed Be Jusey

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/13/2005 2:53:32 PM   
WulfMan


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Figured I'd give you a quick update. me and my Mistress are still together, vanilla reltionship for now. She's gonna stay with me and help me along with this. I've already checked into some therpy sessions and some group therpy sessions. Even some sleep therpy, I dunno the terms for it, lol never liked docs anyway. My first session is on tuesday, i'm kinda nervous. By the way Amanda wanted to say thanks to all of you for helping me come out with it. LOL gotta love the Air Force though apparently they like me cause they are paying for all the sessions. Off We Go Into The Wild Blue Yonder I guess. Take Care everyone.

Thanks again
Dayton
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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/13/2005 5:03:48 PM   
cuumsluut


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Status: offline 		you might want take some vitamin b1 if you are having nightmares. even if there is an underlying cause other than a b1 deficiency it is still indicative of a b1 deficiency.

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/13/2005 5:38:32 PM   
onceburned


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WulfMan
I've already checked into some therpy sessions and some group therpy sessions. Even some sleep therpy, I dunno the terms for it, lol never liked docs anyway. My first session is on tuesday, i'm kinda nervous.


Congratulations Dayton. Congrats on having the courage to get therapy and congrats on finding such a caring woman as Amanda. Hell yes, let the military pay for the therapy - you've already paid your dues!

Best wishes, and thank you for letting us know that things are starting to sort out.

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/13/2005 11:41:27 PM   
BeachMystress


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*huge hug* You did the right thing! It is nice to actually see something positive come out of these forums. Doctors suck, but sometimes we have to bite the bullet and do it. It took a lot of courage for you to write here, deal with the responses and take action on your own behalf. Congratulations!


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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/16/2005 10:39:20 PM   
WulfMan


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Just figured I'd give you guys an update. So, I went to all those therepy sessions, so far nothing too hasty granted some doc tried hypnotism, that stuff doesn't exactly work on me, I'm a tad stubborn. Amanda decided to join me for support, which helped alot. I'll admit I kinda broke down into tears at one session, I HATE CRYING! I feel like a wimp afterwards, but that's the way I am I guess. I have a feeling that the group sessions will help the most though, I heard a few stories that were so similar to mine. Nice to know that I'm not alone in the world. I'm really glad that Amanda decided to help me out with this, she's my saving grace, so are you guys for telling me to get help, god knows i'm too stuborn to get it on my own. The shrink so far is the one guy I'm having beef with, I hate it how he acts like he knows everything that is going on in my mind, because he doesn't, I suppose I'll give him a chance but not too much of one, udder wise I'll probably find a different shrink.

Thank Ya Much
Dayton
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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/17/2005 1:20:21 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WulfMan
Amanda decided to join me for support, which helped alot. I'll admit I kinda broke down into tears at one session, I HATE CRYING! I feel like a wimp afterwards, but that's the way I am I guess.
Nice to know that I'm not alone in the world. I'm really glad that Amanda decided to help me out with this, she's my saving grace, so are you guys for telling me to get help, god knows i'm too stuborn to get it on my own. The shrink so far is the one guy I'm having beef with, I hate it how he acts like he knows everything that is going on in my mind,
Dayton
The Wolf Man

Hey Dayton,
It's wonderful you're getting help...
You should Never feel ashamed for crying, because we all do it; it's just some people need to punch a wall or drink a lot before they can do it; crying doesn't make you weak, it makes you human.
As for the shrink, open up, and give him a chance... After all, he's only trying to help, so don't hold back and try to top him from the bottom...
Obviously, if you continue not to have a good feeling about him, and don't feel he understands you, you should change doctors.
Lots of hugs to you, and hope things turn out okay for you and Amanda. M

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/17/2005 1:32:09 PM   
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quote:

The shrink so far is the one guy I'm having beef with, I hate it how he acts like he knows everything that is going on in my mind, because he doesn't, I suppose I'll give him a chance but not too much of one, udder wise I'll probably find a different shrink.


You don't always mesh with the first person you speak to. I've known some who have gone through 6 doctor's before finding one they could open up to.
Nobody knows anything that is going on in your mind until you choose to share it.
Share...and if he makes you that uncomfortable find a new doctor to share with.

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/17/2005 6:22:26 PM   
BeachMystress


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If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Finding a therapist who fits you can be as hard as finding a girlfriend. :-) There has to be some sort of rapport for you to function with them. If this one rubs you the wrong way, look for another. You might even want to think about choosing a female.. think about that. Would you feel easier about opening up to a man or a woman. This is a total you need. Neither is better than the other, just a comfort issue.

Crying is good. It shows that you do have something there to fix and that you'll probably make progress in a short time! (Let me make sure we're on the same page.. short time is a year. Progress in therapy terms can be counted in many many years.) Also, crying doesn't make you a wuss. I'd not make a habit of it in front of your guy friends, but women actually value a man who can show emotions at times.

Remember, stuborn often comes from being scared of something. Scared of letting someone else tell us what to do or scared of what might happen if we let go of control. You're going to need someone you trust before you do hypnosis. It also may turn out that hypnosis is not a proper treatment for you since it makes you feel a loss of control.

You're doing great! Keep up the good work!

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/20/2005 11:51:23 AM   
WulfMan


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Figured I'd give y'all another update. Well, I ditched the shrink, he pushed a button that made me feel and act really hostile and I don't need that right now. Amanda got a suggestion from one of her friends to try this one Gal. Maybe a Woman would be better. I tend to feel alil more comfortable around women, guess it comes from my protective nature haha. The group sessions are still going, I got to tell my story to the group on wednesday, it wasn't exactly easy. I had to stop in midsentence to take a breather everynow and again. I'm supposed to go in and have studies done on me when I sleep too next saturday, kinda werid if you ask me, but what the hey. Well, I can't thank you guys enough for all the support.

"A patriot would die for his country, a soilder makes the other sorry SOB die for his."

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/20/2005 4:50:11 PM   
GentleLady


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Status: offline 		It is important Wulfman that you be comfortable enough with the shrink to be able to tell them what is going on inside your head. And sometimes you need to change shrinks a few times until you find the right match.

That is great news that you able to tell the group what happened to you. You must be feeling very secure and non-threatened there to be able to do that. The sleep studies may be able to find a way to decrease the nightmares or may be able to spot a possible trigger for them. You are fortunate to get the chance to do that. I am glad things are moving along for you and wish you all the best of luck.

Gentle Lady

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/20/2005 8:59:05 PM   
BeachMystress


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You're doing great! If it were easy, it wouldn't be helping you. You've been through some painful, traumatic events. I wish that working through them wasn't part of the pain, but it is. It is going to be worth it down the line! Keep plugging. You've passed the first hurdle, getting into treatment. You've the heart of a lion. Be proud of yourself!

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/21/2005 4:09:34 PM   
lacyann


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You definately need to get into therapy. To help you deal with the trauma you have lived through. I also agree with others in that you need to tell your special lady the truth and let her make the decision.
The reality of relationships is that we have to love and accept the person for who they are in the begining, then grow either together or apart.

Good luck, and blessings Lacyann

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/21/2005 6:53:32 PM   
WulfMan


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First off lacyann, I'm not a Sir, not in D/s terms, unless you're in the military yet or not lol. Second, thanks for caring but the wheels of progress have already started to turn, just give an update everynow and again to the people that were so kind to help me in the past.
P.S. Hope is something that has always inspired me; I lost it before this. I have found hope again; there is no reason to be afriad anymore. It is my time now to stand up and fight. Thank you much for giving me the strength to stand.

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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/21/2005 7:36:44 PM   
MsSilvie


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Status: offline 		hi Wulf,

Sounds like you are on the right track. Sometimes, you do need to try a couple therapists before you find one that is a good match with you. Not always because you have a bad therapist. It can be a good therapist, and still be a bad match.

Not sure how much you talk with folks from your group, but maybe someone from there coule make recommedations for a therapist in your area that specializes in post traumatic stress disorders.

All the best to you. Things won't get better over night, but they will get better. And they will get better because of you doing the right thing.


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RE: Need Ugrent Help - 2/21/2005 7:46:39 PM   
WulfMan


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Status: offline 		Hey! Thank You Ma'am, That's a pretty damned good idea.

Hooooyaahhh!

I'll check into it right away.

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