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youngbottom -> Longish-distance submission (11/24/2006 10:36:59 PM)

Hello all,
i recently began submitting to a domme i met on Collarme.  She lives about an hour away, and we both are pretty busy, so we can only see each other once a week or so.  We are looking for rituals, tasks, etc. to help enhance the D/s dynamic while we are apart.  i currently keep a daily journal, perform daily posture exercises, and text message once a day.  i'm curious what has worked for other subs and dommes.

Thanks in advance



AquaticSub -> RE: Longish-distance submission (11/24/2006 10:38:15 PM)

I currently just deal with the fact that I don't get any d/s other then the occasional phonesex.

I get my friends beers a lot.

Edited to explain:
He is working a cruddy job all the time. He doesn't have the energy to review anything or give me orders. Though, thinking more about it, I do have a standing order to send him fantasies as they occur to me.



thetammyjo -> RE: Longish-distance submission (11/25/2006 7:21:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: youngbottom

Hello all,
i recently began submitting to a domme i met on Collarme. She lives about an hour away, and we both are pretty busy, so we can only see each other once a week or so. We are looking for rituals, tasks, etc. to help enhance the D/s dynamic while we are apart. i currently keep a daily journal, perform daily posture exercises, and text message once a day. i'm curious what has worked for other subs and dommes.

Thanks in advance


When I've trained people it was never the daily thing, it was always once a week. During the week they had reading and writing assignments and things similar to what you say above. You can use your time apart to improve in areas of service. For example, I've had people when I trained them take massage classes, dance classes, even cooking classes. Even if we didn't end up going beyond the training period together this helped them become better people for themselves and for future partners.

Depending on your relationship you might want to have a symbol or token you carry with you at all times. Fox has had a key ring with my initial on it since his training advanced to the point where he was trusted with a key to my home. He then moved to a necklace and now his ears are pierced but that key ring is still with him. He tells me when he's stressed out in the real world it can help to get that key ring out and just hold it or look at my initial there because it helps ground him.



pixelslave -> RE: Longish-distance submission (11/25/2006 4:19:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: youngbottom

Hello all,
i recently began submitting to a domme i met on Collarme.  She lives about an hour away, and we both are pretty busy, so we can only see each other once a week or so.  We are looking for rituals, tasks, etc. to help enhance the D/s dynamic while we are apart.  i currently keep a daily journal, perform daily posture exercises, and text message once a day.  i'm curious what has worked for other subs and dommes.

Thanks in advance


You might pick out an eCard to send to her each day.  Many of the things you are doing seem to be solo kinds of things that don't involve the two of you, or more particularly, don't do much for her.  If the two of you can set aside a few minutes to chat on the phone, IM, or WebCam, every day or two that might seem like a healthy thing for the relationship if you want to keep things more alive during the week or two while you're apart. [:)]

- pixel



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