mp072004 -> RE: Doing mundane tasks... (11/26/2006 4:13:36 PM)
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When trying to surprise someone, please determine that the person you intend to surprise likes to be surprised. I do not like to be surprised, even when the surprising behavior is something I would ordinarily like. This has resulted in unhappiness for me and for the person delivering the "pleasant surprise" more than once. I found Littlesarbonn's story a delight to read, but I know that I would not have reacted with happiness like the woman in his story did. Robby, I thoroughly applaud your intent, but you know what they say about roads to Hell. Then again, perhaps this caution is unnecessary because you have already learned that your owner enjoys being surprised. If you don't know, however, you might move gently toward surprises. You could effectively ask permission to do something extra, "Wow, the oven is grungy. Would you mind if I cleaned it tomorrow?" If you have been asked to do something relatively small and not permanent previously, like warming her boots in the morning, and you do it again unasked, that's a gentler sort of surprise. Then, too, you can apply birthday gift logic; you can observe her carefully and note when she remarks on a task in need of attention, and attend to it. You might take note of things she does for herself, and note carefully exactly how she does them, and then do them for her, or make it easier for her to do them. For example, if she fixes herself a cup of tea on arriving home, you could set a kettle to boiling. Good luck! Monica
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