MasterHyde
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Joined: 4/10/2004 From: Philadelphia, PA Status: offline
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I've read the other responses here, and I agree with most of them. If this is his style, you probably can't expect him to change. However, you did say that you've been silent and letting this fester for two years. Maybe he doesn't know what you really need. I think you've done the right thing in bringing it up now. Hopefully, you can have a serious discussion and come to some kind of understanding so your next visit with him will be more satisfying all around. As far as his actions being "common" I don't know. I can tell you that I'm a moderate to heavy player myself, and I still involve a lot of cuddling, talking, and other types of aftercare. As much as I love pushing someone's limits during the scene, it's still important to me afterwards to know that she's OK and that she understands what I just did to her was a pleasure for me, and not some cruel joke or punishment. I can be a cold, merciless bastard at times. Afterwards, though, I need to reconnect with the person I just abused. I need to let her know I appreciate her suffering. At the same time, I like to know that she appreciates me as well. For me, the ideal scene has her begging for mercy, not getting any, and afterwards being grateful that she didn't. I know myself, I'm always grateful when this happens.
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Master Hyde A self-righteous, poly, dominant, possessive control freak with strong paternal tendencies and a sadistic inner child
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