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RE: is someone real - 12/8/2006 9:41:04 AM

LordODiscipline

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Interesting you should mention that -

As a duly authorized representative of a company like Insurance Casualty and Trust (note the world "trust:" there!) - I am selling insuance to guarantee your happiness should someone NOT show up...

For 45$ a month, you will get a 10$ check for each time you are stood up (and, it is verifiable and proven through our actuarial department).

Please, do contact us if you decide that "enough is enough" and want to feel 'happy again' in all of your real life meetings from the internet.

Sincerely:
~J (salesman of the month two week running)

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm
...thats what I hate about this online thing, there are no gaurentees.

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RE: is someone real - 12/8/2006 9:47:13 AM

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And make sure that "she" doesn't have a lump in the levis when and if you meet!

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RE: is someone real - 12/8/2006 9:54:58 AM

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Mysitquenz how can you choose more wisely when you think that you have already done so? You can only hope that you made a good choice to begin with.

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RE: is someone real - 12/8/2006 10:19:48 AM

juliaoceania

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Here is a concept:

Howabout not sending a negative vibe out into the universe, in other words what we dwell upon is what we tend to create in our lives. If what you really want is a submissive that will show up, visualize her showing up. Maybe it will not be this submissive, but another submissive. In my experience I have found it is best to not worry about what one particular person does and know that sooner or later the right person will show up. It takes a lot of pressure off meeting one individual. That way you are more relaxed and able to enjoy those who actually DO show up..smiles

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RE: is someone real - 12/8/2006 8:13:30 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: drawntothedark

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

The only thing you can do is wait. :) If it were me, I would have chosen to meet at a restaraunt I particularly enjoyed. That way it isn't a total loss if she decides not to show I still get a good lunch out of it.
Kyst

That is why when it is up to me I like meeting in like a coffee shop/bookstore. That way if he doesn't show then I can still get some good reading time in undisturbed.

I have to agree with drawntodark here..I always come prepared with a good book in hand, or work that needs to be addressed..and of course fav restaurant..so thus never a total loss..and if they do not show ,use your cell phone ,call a friend and have them come out and meet you so you can have dinner together then...R/L..cyber life,vanilla life..whatever the case these things do happen...again not much to get panties into a wad about..

...Tempting

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 3:30:21 AM

ScooterTrash

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline

Interesting you should mention that -

As a duly authorized representative of a company like Insurance Casualty and Trust (note the world "trust:" there!) - I am selling insuance to guarantee your happiness should someone NOT show up...

For 45$ a month, you will get a 10$ check for each time you are stood up (and, it is verifiable and proven through our actuarial department).

Please, do contact us if you decide that "enough is enough" and want to feel 'happy again' in all of your real life meetings from the internet.

Sincerely:
~J (salesman of the month two week running)

Careful LOD, from what I've seen, you might be paying out more than you take in. Of course being a reputable insurance company, I'm certain your actuarial staff is well trained to be looking the other way...lol.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 3:43:52 AM

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Yup...that's always the best way. Pick a place you enjoy so if the other person doesn't show, you can still enjoy yourself.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 5:08:50 AM

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Here's a little exercise.... drop an object onto the floor....now try to pick it up. No, i said "try" not "pick it up" See? A person can only act and fail or act and succeed but "try" is not a verb. So go... get out into real life, meet as many as possible. You may fail but You will never succeed without being willing to act.

PS - i have been stood up at least as many times as i have actually met Someone and yet meeting is still no guarantee of success. i may not have met my One but i've certainly had some fun and made wonderful friends.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 6:42:49 AM

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Good luck, let us know if she shows up.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 7:41:41 AM

diamonddreamlove

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Made arrangements to meet a few from here at one time or another. Some kept their committment to meeting some did not. Sir kept our meeting committment and as of this week became Master. I would have regretted forever letting myself be paralized after being stood up and not continuing to seek. I consider myself fortunate but i made the fortune by not giving up. Good luck.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 8:19:47 AM

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You'll know for sure when the time comes

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 8:57:52 AM

MistressYlwa

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Try this. Take for granted the first ten won't show up. That is giving yourself better odds than you actually have online, but a good way to start. Go somewhere you are comfortable and content alone. If they don't show, and your odds are they won't, you are somewhere you are happy. If they do defy the odds and appear, congratulate yourself on beating the odds.

However there is that "other" thing. They might turn out to be nothing like they told you and would be the worst partner in the world. So the odds, again, are against you. For now you must allow yourself the odds that the first twenty you meet will not be the one for you.

Now you know that you must arrange 200 meetings, in order to find the one that you want.

Bottom line, be patient. D/s or vanilla, you have to kiss a lot of frogs. Enjoy yourself and know that eventurally you will find the one for you.

Mistress Ylwa

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 10:30:16 AM

CandleInTheWind

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Yup...that's always the best way. Pick a place you enjoy so if the other person doesn't show, you can still enjoy yourself.

that is precisely what i do...i do my blind dates vanilla and otherwise at a local bar restaurant that i have friends at...I like the place and the company....and honestly should the person show up...well then i have a few extra people aroudn to help me get to know him...i like getting other people's opinions soometimes...and well nothing is as good as having a Domly friend ask a question or two whilest i am in the ladies room...

He is my friend and quite frankly I think he knows me better than i know myself sometimes...

just my 2cents worth

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 1:49:24 PM

freakgoddess

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for what it's worth, i've never had any sub i met online stand me up. didn't meet one who was right for me that way, but they did show up at the appointed time and place.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 2:16:40 PM

krikket

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In my experience there aren't too many things off line that have any guarantees, either..patience and hope are all we really have in the beginning..imho

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ORIGINAL: mercmjm

thats what I hate about this online thing, there are no gaurentees.

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RE: is someone real - 12/9/2006 3:12:36 PM

cjklyn

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Sadly, it's impossible to be 100% sure if someone is for real. There are some things I've done in the past that have helped. I've asked for photos. NOT naughty photos. But normal snapshots. If someone is using pics that arent of them its unlikely they'll have clothed everday snapshot type pics. (similarly I use those sort of pics myself). I talk about things not related to the scene. their tastes in music, arts, what they thought of last nights tv fave films. Again, the fakes/frauds usualy arent interested in that sort of chat. and I also tend ot trust to instinct. sometimes people just feel right. But while I can usually spot the fakes, I can't admit to 100% success.
Having said that if I arrange to meet someone and she doesnt turn up, I don't assume she's not for real. It's much more likely she has cold feet, isn't really sure she's doing the right thing, has doubts. After all, until you've actually met people from the online world in the real world, its a big step to take. I do though try and make that first step easire. I insist a first meeting be on neutral, public territory of their choosing. I always go to them, don't insisit they come to me. So they can choose a pub, cafe they feel comfortable with. I always make clear the first meeting is purely social. to see if we click. If/when someone is considering submitting to me, I let them choose when/if they do this. I keep the meeting social, friendly, and off topic until/unless they ask to submit. their choice. I have met novice subs 5 or 6 times socially while they pluck up the courage, and choose to make that decision.
I remember back to the first time I ever met anyone online. I'm a very confident person in real life. I've no problems with nerves or condifence, but that first time, it was like my very first date. I was SO nervous, so I do appreciate its difficult from the other side to.

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