jblack
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Joined: 10/18/2006 Status: offline
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Because I tend to use IM for work, I thought I'd hate it for personal conversations. But I was surprised to discover that I get a better sense of how a person's mind works once we move from email to IM; for me, it's like a step between email and phones. IM allows for speedier conversations than email, and, because of stealth settings, I still feel like I can maintain some distance if it becomes necessary. In general, my communications goes from email to IM to phones to coffee meetings to . . . well, play, if I'm really lucky. O, to be lucky! Anyway, each step seems increasingly intimate to me. I suppose it might appear like "one more hoop" to people, but I don't mind an extra step in the "getting to know you" process. I should point out, though, that I have email and IM accounts set up specifically for BDSM communication. Partly, that's because I'm reluctant to give out my name and email address to strangers; partly, it's to avoid having to deal with changing spam filters; partly, it's because it helps me keep my professional life from interferring with my personal one. It also ensures that I won't be getting some more, uh, colorful messages while at work, although that could make meetings a lot more interesting. Hmmm, maybe my idea of separate accounts needs rethinking.
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