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knees2you -> Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/5/2004 8:00:35 PM)

[:)]Here is my take as a sub~ I have refrences form Dommes that I have served, all good ones~ There are 5 types of people here
that I have noticed. {1}[:@] Ones that come to the swimming pool and just sit there and do nothing. I stay way away from them. {2}[:o] These are the ones that come and put there feet into the water, and then pull there feet back out. Uhh It's to cold, maybe later. I stay away from those also. {3} [:-] These are the ones that that put there feet into the water and just leave them there no hurries about getting in, so Your time is still wasted. {4[>:]} These people get into the water and swim and when You initiate contact, they seem really interested, but after long periods of conversation, alot of Dommes hours and planing to meet, They get scared and Now know You are for real, and they realize the water was colder then it was before, out they go!! {5} [X(]This is the 4 percent of people in here. They swim for hours un-noticed waving there hands and trying to get someones attention. But they to get frustrated and leave
this leaves 1 percent~ Not a good percentage I feel~
I have initated a contact with someone looking for 24/7 Husband, vanilla, Bdsm orientated, but later I found She had a Sub~ We are now Great friends~ It's not what I was looking for, but I have a friend and maybe someday She will see the Real me~~ *There is light at the end of the tunnel! For some the tunnel is just longer~~* [:D]

Sincerely, knees2You[;)]

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MistressKiss -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/5/2004 8:45:03 PM)

HHmmm, awfully judgmental post there. I am sure that you are spouting off figures based on your own opinion and not fact or legitimate numbers. Could it possibly be that you have not found the "one" for you, and therefore believe that the collarme site is full of people that are "wasting time" as you phrased it? Were your expectations that you would enter the site and find a line of Dommes that were perfect for you?

This community is similar to a neighborhood community. You are going to like a few of your neighbors, not know most of them, and really despise one or two. This is life! Don't expect to connect on your time criteria. You know, YOU could be part of your problem. Why is it that when people don't find what they are looking for, the community is at fault? This is no different than "finding" a boyfriend or husband. You have to do a hell of a lot of looking before you find fruit, and even that probably has a bruise or two. Wake up...stop pointing your fingers at collarme and do some self-investigation. You need to be working on yourself more than suggesting what is wrong with others.

So what if some that come here dip their toe in the water and back off? So what if they think about meeting and then change their mind? Maybe you were not a match. There are no guarantees on collarme, JUST LIKE LIFE DOES NOT HAVE A RETURN POLICY. You get out of it what you put into it. Don't claim that nothing is on TV if you have not clicked all the channels. And if you find that there is STILL nothing on...for gosh's sake, go read a book.

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knees2you -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/5/2004 9:27:48 PM)

MistressKiss[:)] just going by what I hear and see~
I am happy trust me, and just thought maybe as the posts are coming in that alot of people where feeling like this~ *I do know that there is light at the end of the tunnel*

Sincerely, knees2You[;)]


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Estring -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/5/2004 9:29:18 PM)

I have to say, I am always entertained by knees' postings. Starting in a pool and ending up in a tunnel, you never know where you will end up in any post. I am not sure where you came up with the figures in this post. You seem to have left out about 95% of the people here, yet stated that there are 5 kinds that frequent this site. Huh?
The story had a happy ending. Not sure of the point though. [:D]




knees2you -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/5/2004 10:18:38 PM)

[:)]95% of the people here are just lookers, if that's what your calling them Sir~~[:D]

Always a pleasure to hear from a Gentleman and a Master~

Sincerely, knees2You[;)]


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Shyguy21040 -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/6/2004 2:03:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

95% of the people here are just lookers, if that's what your calling them Sir~~




Perhaps they're looking for different experiences or sensations than you're seeking. I know I've had a few good conversations here, but I'm not likely to find a compatable play partner because most of the profiles describe interests not compatable with mine.




LadyBeckett -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/6/2004 4:07:26 AM)

quote:

There are 5 types of people here
that I have noticed.


knees, just imagine how many types are still there waiting that you haven't noticed! Wow! The thrill of discovery!

I, like Estring, really do enjoy your posts. [;)]




redwine -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/6/2004 5:38:00 AM)

For me it all comes down to expectations. When i joined here i expected that the majority of people on here would be looking for kinky sex in the main, just like most other BDSM sites on the net.
Experience has shown me that meeting the 'One' doesn't happen overnight either, much the same as in vanilla life..sometimes you're just in the right spot at the right time.
It really doesn't matter to me what motives other people have for being here, i know why i am here and what i seek and it is rather easy to find out if a person is genuine or not. It just takes a little patience.

jim




MistressDREAD -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/7/2004 12:05:50 AM)

[>:]HEYYYYYY
MY TYPE OF PERSON
AINT LISTED AND IM
100% BDSM NOW IM
PISSED!! IN TOTALLY
SERIOUS TOO! THEY
DONT CALL ME DREAD
FOR NOTHING........[>:]




iwillserveu -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/7/2004 2:05:46 AM)

"Everyone dies frustrated and sad./ and that is beautiful." - They Might be Giants

"The Strong man keeps on keeping on" - Maya Angelou

(Both Quotes are from memory and I may have misquoted. BTW, I have no idea what is the correct spelling of Ms. Angelou's name.)




Sinergy -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/7/2004 10:05:29 AM)

Well, the problem with me boils down to several general issues.

1) I work one ridiculous job that requires me to be available 7 days a week to get work.

2) I work a second job that requires me to be certain places at certain times.

3) I am extremely picky about who (I dont sleep or play around) I end up meeting, and the fact that I dont pick person A to go meet simply means I did not find in conversation with them that I wanted to spend what meager time I have outside of Real Life meeting them.

There is another aspect to this, if a submissive really wants to have a relationship with me, she should understand that I personally consider patience and understanding to be important qualities in my submissive. If she doesnt want to chat with me any more after an hour or so on-line or phone and I have not asked her up to my bedroom to view my etchings, that is certainly her choice.

To summarize, I am extremely patient, if the submissive is not patient as well, I suspect it will not work out between us. If you want to take this as implying I am not Serious, that is certainly your choice.

Sinergy




ttlysik -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/15/2004 10:03:25 PM)

Well I certainly hope I make it into the pool and stay there !




MzIcey -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 8:03:37 AM)

well In my opinion
I see that if Dommes and Dom on here treated subs and slaves better,they wouldnt leave.Maybe if they knew what they were talking about they could find the good ones.But thats just me




Lasher -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 11:18:32 AM)

Serious? Hmmmm... I for one do not portray myself as anything other than what I am. I have taken steps to become involved in my local (for me it will involve a drive) community and am looking forward to said involvement. I am learning and growing, and I am sure my profile will change with time. Who knows, perhaps I am a switch or a sub (though I doubt the sub part lol) the point is that I am now making friends and developing contacts in a peer group. I respect the more experienced people both here and in the vanilla world, and realise that learning is a process which continues until death.

Life is full of "players" and "posers" and bigots and liars. I make my own choices and have my own opinions, and can chose who I spend time with.

Live Well
Lasher




baddestca -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 12:54:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD

[>:]HEYYYYYY
MY TYPE OF PERSON
AINT LISTED AND IM
100% BDSM NOW IM
PISSED!! IN TOTALLY
SERIOUS TOO! THEY
DONT CALL ME DREAD
FOR NOTHING........[>:]



WEll life goes on and all types are not ever listed and hay i know as a fgact ia m the onley non wrod processing bad spelling incorrect grammered one here \




baddestca -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 12:59:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzIcey

well In my opinion
I see that if Dommes and Dom on here treated subs and slaves better,they wouldnt leave.Maybe if they knew what they were talking about they could find the good ones.But thats just me


Please realise for me what i have seen knowlage is the last thing any one here wishes for the greater part people leave cause like most other places they get tired of finding the 80 odd percent of the people on the net are fake full of crap no trut telling story tellers and iguess that is why i get jacked so much for grammer bad composition and the rest but hay i liket he lifesyle so i stay if any one got anythingto say to me im at [email protected] and messinger there as baddestca or icq 344403023 and hay the ygot spell checkers ok




AkaMistress4you -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 6:46:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzIcey

well In my opinion
I see that if Dommes and Dom on here treated subs and slaves better,they wouldnt leave.Maybe if they knew what they were talking about they could find the good ones.But thats just me




Pray tell how do YOU know how I treat my sub? "If I knew what I was talking about maybe I could find a good one?" What subjects would qualify me as "knowing what I am talking about?" Should I know the different types, styles and weights of canes and how to use each one according to what you want to get out of it? Should I know the different ways to swing a flogger and what a braided cat feels like vs a soft tailed flogger? Should I know how to handle a sub that has had an unexpected reaction due to hitting a hot buton that he didn't even know he had so he could not tell me about it? OR maybe I should be able to talk about the chemical make up of the hydrogen atom? Who are YOU to judge on what people know and say. Just because they don't spend their time and knowledge on you dose not mean they "don''t know what they are talking about" BTW I could tell you all about all these subjects and more but why would I want to unless I had a very good reason.

Stepping down off my box. Ok, that is one of MY hot buttons [:@]




MistressKiss -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 7:03:59 PM)

MzIcey, it's my humble opinion, and I say this in the most constructive way, that your comments are causing people to perceive you as the type of person that you are ranting against. Perhaps it is time to read a while and get to know the people on collarme before making rash, judgmental statements and alienating yourself from the people here who really wish to learn and share ideas.

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inyouagain -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 7:23:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MzIcey
well In my opinion
I see that if Dommes and Dom on here treated subs and slaves better,they wouldnt leave.Maybe if they knew what they were talking about they could find the good ones.But thats just me

You are a tad judgemental it appears, and I've responded to several other threads you have cast your judgements in... last one calling everyone a pervy.

Here you state if the Dom/mes treated subs/slaves better, they wouldn't leave. And in the same breath you expell a comment about if we knew what we were talking about in the first place we could find the good ones...

Haven't you realized in your vast judgemental experiences that there are no good ones, that they are made and molded to be what the dominant desires?

This certainly isn't a cash & carry Wal*Mart, or a plug & play concept of any kind. Part of the work is in locating a sincere sub/slave, and then the real work begins... teaching and training the sub/slave to be your's... they don't usually come preconfigured as "good ones" like you advocate they do on your planet.

Perhaps it would help you to learn more about this earth based BDSM lifestyle before passing judgements on others so freely? But then again... that could very well be your tactics, blow your horn and slamdunk others in attempts to make yourself appear to be more than a judgemental flame artist. Your apparent tactics of "if you can't impress them with facts, dazzle them with bullshit" won't work here, sorry. You are way behind the power curve, and getting further behind with each subsequent slam dunk post you make here.

It's become obvious that you have a bad habit of stepping on your dick... and you seem to insist on doing it over and over and over again.

Inyouagain




MistressKiss -> RE: Just my take on who's really here Serious or not?? (5/16/2004 8:28:49 PM)

Here is another thought to consider...I think that the people who frequent and post to the message boards are widely a different set of people that are looking for partners on the profile pages. I believe we are dealing with two sets of individuals and I would venture to guess that those who are involved with the message boards are probably the more mature and more experienced than those who just slap up a profile and expect it to find their "one and only One". It's still reality...BDSM or vanilla...it takes a little magic to find that special person. However, in the meantime, you can still meet some really interesting and fun people along the way, who have like thoughts and interests. Take advantage of that...be open to learning something new. You'll certainly enjoy the lifestyle much more when you are open to new things.




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