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RE: Mentoring - 5/7/2004 6:45:08 PM

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Actually Sir, I did catch that. The person in question was a mentor of mine for months, though only online. It was that mental connection we had for all of those months, the way he *helped* me learn about BDSM, myself, accept things etc. that allowed him to take advantage of me. Had he not spent so much time building the trust a mentor has, I would not have allowed the scene without calling my dominant first and talking in depth about my concerns. Instead, because of the relationship I ignorned my warnings and thought it could just be my imagination.

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RE: Mentoring - 5/7/2004 9:24:20 PM

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When I first began learning about the lifestyle I met a wonderfuly kind Dominant online who gave me the benefit of his wisdom. We would talk, discuss my questions, things I had read etc. He gave me ideas on some things to read and just some basic etiquette. I have always been greatful to him because he helped show me the beauty of this lifestyle and always reminded me that a submissive is someone to be respected and cared for and to never feel less than anyone including a Dominant.

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RE: Mentoring - 5/7/2004 10:24:03 PM

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quote:

Actually Sir, I did catch that. The person in question was a mentor of mine for months, though only online. It was that mental connection we had for all of those months, the way he *helped* me learn about BDSM, myself, accept things etc. that allowed him to take advantage of me. Had he not spent so much time building the trust a mentor has, I would not have allowed the scene without calling my dominant first and talking in depth about my concerns. Instead, because of the relationship I ignorned my warnings and thought it could just be my imagination.

That, in a nutshell, is the issue. It is similar to the whole concept of D/s trust. A submissive in flight can and will do anything his/her partner tells them to do, even if it would cause them grievous bodily harm. The relationship is built on trust so the submissive can sink into that place of beauty knowing that they will be cared for and kept safe.

In a mentoring situation the person in the mentored position is not in a position to consent of their own free will.

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