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xxstephbxx -> Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/18/2006 4:25:50 PM)

Hi all, well, a friend recently introduced me and my partner to this site purely by chance.
Anyway, like i said, we are totally fasinated by it all and are total beginners..or so we thought.
We have since we began watching this site etc chatted in the early hours about it all and we confessed to each that the whole thing is a massive turn on.

We are avid swingers, but have done nothing close to this subject and once again after many chats etc i love the thoughts of him dominating, humiliating and generally using me any way he wish's.

Are we typical sub and dom and, how do we go about learning the next level ( they dont teach this at night class !! :)

We have experimented at home with erotic stories and fantasis etc... And i would dearly love to meet up another girl and for her also to be used this way.....

Is this the norm and are we going down the right road ????

MY FIST POST SO GO EASY !!.... :)  :)  :)



BDSM05478 -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/18/2006 4:33:10 PM)

welcome to the wonderful world of what it is that we do! There will never be a time when you will know it all or have done it all cause as soon as you think that something comes along to prove you wrong and thank god. just some general sites to help you out..
http://bestslavetraining.com/Welcome.htm
http://www.bdsmcafe.com/contents.html
http://www.castlerealm.com/tours.shtml

there are more but these ones are some of my favorites. and about the wanting another girl to serve and be used it is a very common fantasy over all and for some they are lucky enough for it to be a reality but that takes time. baby steps, baby steps lol



backseatbebe -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/18/2006 4:33:45 PM)

personally i think reading erotica is a great way to find out more about what you both want
because
a. you find out what fetishes and situtaions turn you on
b. stories are stories so they dont hold back, so you can find out what extremes might or might not interest you (rape, k9, breeding, gangbangs, knife play, watersports, etc)
c. alot of the time its about training, so etiquette and rules are often clearly outlined

enjoy testing out the waters
and remember communication is key!!

but before brining in another girl i suggest you both work out your goals and limits first



yourMissTress -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/18/2006 4:40:06 PM)

Hello and welcome to Collar Me.

My suggestion is to read a few books by a few different authors and find the style of BDSM that feels the best for you.  There are more than a few books on the subject of Dominance and submission, check Amazon.com for these titles and more...

"The Loving Dominant", by John Warren
"Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns", by  Phillip Miller and Molly Devon
"The Compleat Slave", by Jack Rinella

These are just a few, but when you get to Amazon there will be a few more that may catch your eye.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/18/2006 5:10:19 PM)

As long as you guys are having fun, feeling good and communicating well so that it won't blow up in your face in six months, then you're doing exactly what you should be with eachother.



xxstephbxx -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 6:48:00 AM)

Dont think any of this will blow out of proportion etc, i also work as an escort by day etc but dont advertise this 'side' of me. Its much more intimate at the moment and like i said, we are at the moment just feeling our way around the whole scene etc.

Had loads of advice since posting this and cant thank you all enough. !!!
Had a few 3 somes, 4 somes etc but it was always normal sex so to speak.
Cant wait to take the plunge and delve a little deeper !!!

My fav site for stories etc by the way is :-
www.literotica.com Think there is something for everyone there and best of all, its all free !!!!



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 7:49:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: xxstephbxx
Dont think any of this will blow out of proportion etc, i also work as an escort by day etc but dont advertise this 'side' of me. Its much more intimate at the moment and like i said, we are at the moment just feeling our way around the whole scene etc.

I wouldn't advertise it either.  Kinky people in general are as, if not more so, against prostitution than vanillas.



Voltare -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 8:33:28 AM)

I thought they were just against Pro Dommes/Subs working as prostitutes. 

Seriously, whatever line of work makes folks happy and doesn't land lots of folks hurt or in prison is fine by me.

Welcome to the site, steph.  You might want to take a look at http://www.asstr.org - biggest online erotica site on the net.

Also, I wouldn't stress out too much about getting to the next level (that's what playstation is for.)  Just focus on what you and your guy like, in your own time and speed.  Use the same common sense rules here that you do in your swinging - don't get involved with people you can't trust, take things safe, make sure everyone knows the score, etc etc and you should be fine.

Stephan



Shalyn -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 9:17:17 PM)

Welcome to CM

i say just take your time, no need to rush to the next level. you will get there when you are ready..do the reading but they are right, you can never know everything. i am still learning every day. most importantly, just have and enjoy it all.



LRODANDMASTER -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 9:28:00 PM)

NICE ASS!

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ORIGINAL: xxstephbxx

MY FIST POST SO GO EASY !!.... :)  :)  :)



BDSM05478 -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 10:04:02 PM)

how good of you to notice L-Rod.


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ORIGINAL: LRODANDMASTER

NICE ASS!

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ORIGINAL: xxstephbxx

MY FIST POST SO GO EASY !!.... :)  :)  :)




MistressSassy66 -> RE: Totally fascinated by all this..... (12/19/2006 10:18:18 PM)

My favorite site for new people as well as O/ones that have been around is
www.frugaldomme.com  it has links to a lot of stuff.Some links have bee discontinued but there is a lot about humiliation things,most are geared towards males,but you can make it work for women also.

Have Fun



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