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Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 7:05:25 AM   
YourProperty2Use


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i have recently updated my profile with a pic still waiting to be approved as usual.  But anyways i would appreciate any comments of the profile and any suggestions to improve it so my quest for a mistress may be made easier.

Also does anyone out there no any events etc that happen in North East England.  Really want to get more into the scene but it seems impossible to find.

Thanks

xxx
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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 7:28:44 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Change that text. While it's pretty and took some time to do, it's terrible to read.

Take out all or all but one of the quotes.

Speak more about what you have to offer and what 24/7 means to you. Be sure to check what you want against reality. Being bound 24/7 or a sex slave always ready to be used/denied are two popular, yet unrealistic, goals for a full time Ds relationship.

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 7:47:40 AM   
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You just happened to catch me on-line as you posted.  My apologies if what I have to say seems harsh, but I think your approach isn't going to be very well receieved at all. 

First, what you've had to say, is hard to read with alternating the color of text between red and yellow with every letter.  Typographically, this a a big "no-no" as it's very hard on the eyes.   The quotes you've added from others, really tell nothing about YOU, and in my opinion should be removed from the text of your profile.   There are also some glaring spelling errors, particularly in the title line of your profile.  Acceptance is spelled with an "a" (where bolded by me) not with an "e".  That aside,  I suspect the women here would prefer you get real, get off your knees, and tell something about yourself that will be meaningful to them and use an entirely different caption about yourself to get their attention.  They'll have you on your knees whenever they're ready to put you there!

As I said, I know this is probably sounding quite harsh, and my apologies as I know you are young and apparently just getting started.  Its hard to distinguish which parts are on-line and which are real time.  I'd suggest you entirely drop any specifics as to what you've done on-line as most women here do not consider that particularly "real".  More importantly what they will want to know is what you have to offer as a man and a person.  Your journal mentions certain limits that you might have, but you don't mention in your profile what they are.  I think you need to spell them out and state them as they are.  Tell the ladies who you are and generally what you are looking for.  You say you're looking for an online romance, does this mean eventual marriage to you?  24/7 D/s, or what do you have in mind?  Is there an age range you're looking for?

In summary, I'd suggest you add in your non-sexual interests to your profile (no need to state whether you're an expert, beginner, etc, just the level of interest) and add a line or two about those which are most important to you in your written summary.  Tell something about your character and the character or nature of the WOMAN you are looking to meet along with what you think you have to offer her as a man in a romantic relationship and perhaps a service oriented one as well.  The D/s portion will naturally follow if the 1st part catches a spark for her.  But first you need to spark her interest as a woman if you ever want to get to that point.  At the moment, your profile reads as though you're advertising for a something of a pro or another on-line domme.  I strongly suggest you totally re-think your current approach and try to remove or at least restrain your testosterone from the equation and allowing it to control what you put in your profile.

I hope you find my comments helpful as I suspect they'll be echoed more than once.

- pixel. 

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 8:59:08 AM   
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Listen to pixel. He's covered everything, and I'm not going to re-iterate it.  In fact, you may find it helpful to look at pixels profile... it's very good. *aside to pixel - figures you're in Texas *

D.



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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 9:56:19 AM   
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OMG, first of all, get off your knees because you're going to be on them a long time waiting for one who is patient enough to read the alternating colors that hurt the eyes against a black background.
I couldn't get through it for wondering what you were drinking when you took that effort.    M

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 11:16:44 AM   
LaTigresse


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redo!

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 11:56:39 AM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiamondOrchid

*aside to pixel - figures you're in Texas *

D.




The real irony is that until 4 years ago, I lived in the suburbs of Detroit and have passed by your city on the 401 numerous times on the way to Toronto over the years.  The only reason I moved to Texas was to support my former Mistress in an opportuntiy to greatly advance her career, not because it was where I wanted to live. 

I can't tell you how much I miss the change of seasons, real snow in the winters, and the far milder summers.  It was 105 F here nearly every day last August!  There's a lot to say for living in the north.

- pixel

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 5:59:09 PM   
MsCece2u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiamondOrchid

Listen to pixel. He's covered everything, and I'm not going to re-iterate it.  In fact, you may find it helpful to look at pixels profile... it's very good. *aside to pixel - figures you're in Texas *

D.




I just had to go read pixel's profile after I saw Diamond's comment.  I have to admit is one of the best written, complete profiles that I have come across on this site.  The OP could easily take notes.

I gave up trying to read his profile because of the lettering and the quotes.  It tells Me nothing about him.

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 7:11:26 PM   
crouchingtigress


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pixel: i read yours too....but the color is very hard to read on my computer...something i thought you might want to know.
 
op:i think there is an echo in here....change  your text colors....change your text colors.....change your text colors...

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 9:55:54 PM   
pixelslave


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Crouchingtigress, thanks for the heads up!  The text color somehow got changed from a blue to black!  That's why it was difficult to read for me as well!   I've now changed it back as it originally was, but as a result of the simple text color change, its now pending review again.   

So I thank you very much for bringing it to my attention.   Needless to say, it's not something I feel a constant need to spend time reviewing these days and who knows how long it otherwise would have stayed that way!

- pixel

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 9:58:02 PM   
crouchingtigress


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lol you are so welcome...ps you have very pretty blue eyes.

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 10:07:11 PM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

lol you are so welcome...ps you have very pretty blue eyes.



Aww shucks!(blush)  You Ladies around this place sure know how to compliment a fellow!

- pixel



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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/19/2006 11:54:27 PM   
SweetDommes


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OMG, talk about headache/migraine inducing (potentially seizure inducing, honestly) ...

I'll just agree with what the others said - look at the profiles of the guys who post on here often (not the ones who post once or twice and vanish) and most of them have decent to good profiles.  As others have said, Pixel has one of the best profiles you could emulate ... and please note that I said emulate, not copy.  That means that you need to write your profile yourself - don't copy and paste someone else's, and don't fill it up with quotes - they may mean something to you but they mean little to nothing to those reading your profile.  Tell potential friends and partners about who you are - what you are interested in ... and no, I do not mean list out all of your fantasies like a 'do me' list, that's irritating and unattractive. 

What are your hobbies, what do you do for fun/in your free time, what is your level of experience in D/s, what are you looking for in a partner, what level of committment are you able and willing to make?  All of these things (and more) should be in your profile.

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 5:15:00 AM   
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I can read the colors but yeah, they suck... get rid of them

What bothered me more & caused me to stop reading the profile all together were the quotes. They scream PLAYER!!!!!

Ha! you'll let "me" whip you? "I" don't recall asking you for permission. (just an example of how a dominant may respond to statements like this)



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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 6:49:19 AM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

Ha! you'll let "me" whip you? "I" don't recall asking you for permission. (just an example of how a dominant may respond to statements like this)



Hey, but he's on his knees in front of his computer before you!  And if you're the "Mistress of Pain", you could be (sic) "Lashing him with your whips"!  

No real offense intended to the OP, but I just couldn't resist!

- pixel 

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 8:10:38 AM   
YourProperty2Use


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Thank you for taking your time to read my profile.  I see from Pixel your profile is a good read and I am very grateful for your comments.  I have changed my profile to include more about me and my life.  As for the lifestyle descriptions etc this is hard for me to comment on too much as my experiences at present have been limited.  Hopefully with time I will be fortunate enough to serve a Domme and then I will truely know how it feels.

Again thanks to all that have commented much appreciated.


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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 8:42:11 AM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: YourProperty2Use

As for the lifestyle descriptions etc this is hard for me to comment on too much as my experiences at present have been limited.  Hopefully with time I will be fortunate enough to serve a Domme and then I will truely know how it feels.



Don't worry too much about the lack of R/T experience.  There are many Dommes who actually prefer to take on subs who have little experience.  That way they can train them to do exactly as they want without having to undo previous training which the sub received from another Domme.

Its showing them that you have the aptitude and proper attitude to want to learn along with the makings of a good sub who has a genuine desire to serve them that will likely count the most.

Best of luck to you!

- pixel

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 10:55:51 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Excellent upgrade!
 
....but isn't it waiting for your acceptance and command?
 
and could you add a little more what you offer....masages pedicures that sort of thing.....

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RE: Updated profile - would appreciate your views - 12/20/2006 2:22:30 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Hey I really like the upgrade much better, and wish you lots of luck.
Again don't worry about experiences, that's what life is for.  
 
I personally still don't like
quote:

On My Knees Waiting For You Acceptance and Command.
because it sounds so phony, but that may be my personal pet peeve since so many men approach with that BS online.    M

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