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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/20/2006 9:10:11 PM   
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I think it'd be a riot to get the male to orgasm on command :)  You know..while standing in the line at a bank..walking down a mall ...
 
Has anyone ever achieved this?

 
Actually it is achieveable by implanting a post hypnotic suggestion.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/20/2006 9:12:53 PM   
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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/20/2006 9:21:50 PM   
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Why not just implant a microchip into his brain?


LaM

Because then there would be all that icky blood to clean up and that damned recovery time post surgery. Sigh. Hyptonic suggestion is sooo much easier. LOL

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/20/2006 9:35:12 PM   
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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/20/2006 9:56:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BORAT

In my country we has scientist make improves installation microchip in brain surgery.  No longer mess to cleans.


perhaps that's what happened to me.... i went to sleep woke up and have new improved microchip in brain, now i can only cum when el presidente tells me to.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/21/2006 8:38:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am like some of the others here, in that orgasm denial would simply turn off my sex drive completely.
While that may be fun for some (I guess that would make "submission" deeper?), mine likes my sex drive, so it works better for him AND me that I have one, and to keep it active and awake.
Control, in the sense of holding onto it for a little bit, does make it deeper, and reminds me who is really in charge.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/21/2006 6:07:57 PM   
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perhaps that's what happened to me.... i went to sleep woke up and have new improved microchip in brain, now i can only cum when el presidente tells me to.


LaM's peach, given that LaM himself did come up with exactly this ideal perhaps its possible. You haven't woken up with a horrible headache lately have you??? LOL

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/21/2006 6:09:01 PM   
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In my country we has scientist make improves installation microchip in brain surgery.  No longer mess to cleans.


Borat,

Well I'll certainly have to get a few names from you then. LOL

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/22/2006 10:47:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a certified hypnotist I can tell you that orgasm on command is a very real thing. We have this one lady that was a bad girl and to make a long story short got 27 orgasms stacked up and when she cums she is loud and intense. After 4 she was begging for my partner to stop fireing the orgasms. Yes orgasms on command are easy to do with hypnosis.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/28/2006 6:28:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I suspect there is a difference here between male and female orgasm denial. It might be individual, but probably the big difference is male / female. In any event, as a male (and an individual; can't really comment for other males!) I know that when I was under the spell of a domme and she denied orgasm, it was an incredible, frustrating and yet fun and amazing experience.
 
Orgasm control (slightly different than denial) is also amazing. For instance, during intercourse, requiring permission to cum is an amazing rule to be forced to obey.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/9/2008 9:20:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is obvious that noone on site has read the writing of Marquis de Sade or they would recall the story he tells of a man who took his lady flriend to the public executions to waltch persons being executed by the guillotine. As the heads were chopped off he pressed her shoulder in a light but firm way each time the blade came down. He would then whisper into her ear things of a sexual nature that he was going to do to her after they finished watching the public executions. This process was repeated for weeks and weeks. Finally in bed, just by applying the pressure on her shoulder the young lady was made to have an orgasm of a violent nature and totally uncontrollable as to whether or not to have it. She became so upset at this sexual control that she later murdered her Trainer for the strange power he had aquired over her. Does anyone else recall this from the Marqujis;s writings ? Regards, sub brad

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/10/2008 4:53:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Brad, it is obvious that no one told you that the book you refer to is a work of fiction. Look around on the forums and you'll find a more current thread on this topic. No need to resurrect this one.


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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/10/2008 5:35:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm totally against orgasm denial, along with withholding sex as punishment. Anything that can have a direct negative effect upon the sexual aspects of the relationship.  I'm not into Chasity.

Orgasm control is often associated with denial, they are not the same.  Yes, it is about control, and it's also about pleasure and teasing.  Also, I enjoy hearing somebody beg to cum.  I enjoy prolonging orgasms as well at times.  Orgasm control itself even turns me on.  Hell, I admit to it!  It turns me on.

More times then not, I'm known for giving my partner permission to cum, I think it's hot when they are begging for it.  I know they are on the edge of cumming.  I might deny them permission if I want to drag things out with more teasing.  All depends upon the moment, mood and what is going on between us.

Truth be known, I'm such a freak, I practice orgasm control with myself.  I might deny and keep myself from cumming at times.  I even do this so I can hear them beg for my cum, if that makes any sense.  Again, all back to the mood, moment and what is going on.   If I'm saving my cum for certain place I want to cum in or on, I'll use orgasm control on myself.  

What I love are multiple orgasms!  Those simply rock!  All depends upon how many before somebody needs a break.

So orgasm control is not something I do with just my partner, it's something that applies to both me and her.  Yes, it's all about control over what is going on.  :-)

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/10/2008 5:47:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Denial as in no orgasms for weeks or months on end doesn't usually work on women. Women's libidos turn off and we start thinking of our partner as an unpaid roommate instead, and start thinking that a cat would be better. For malesubs, orgasm denial works. The problem here is that male doms assume that since no sex partner makes them horny enough to jump the first watermelon with a hole in it, it will also do that to women. It doesn't and they need to learn how women work, shows severe lack of vision or forethought that they haven't done the slightest research.

Orgasm control, as in tie me up and tease me for an hour or so until giving me one so intense I pass out? Yes please. And talk about squirting at that time. Forced orgasms as in tie me up and keeping your hand there even when I can't breathe, demanding another when I'm begging to stop, trying to squirm away, leaving me unable to walk and talk or do anything for the next couple of days but cling to him? Those I'll take any time.

However there are some men without vision who assume that dominant means giving the sub nothing they like. It's a stupid viewpoint and one that winds up losing them the sub. Because nobody wants for a partner someone who takes away anything pleasurable. Control is one thing but denial is just removing everything of value to a person and then wondering why they refer to you as an abusive creep.

I can cum during play on command, and I cum once if he slides a finger up me even if I'm not aroused. He's taught that simply by teasing me and then always pushing his fingers in at the moment of orgasm. Pavlovian so now I orgasm when he inserts his finger even without the teasing. Same way as I flinch when he puts his hand over my knee because most of the time he then squeezes right above the knee knowing I hate it.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 10:19:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		having orgasms denied is a great way to make it that much more enjoyable when you are finally allowed to release. i have been teased for a few days with actually having some penetration but told to stop when i got the urge. when i was finally allowed to cum it was the most intense sensation that one can experiance.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 12:24:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

OOPs.. LOL.. I posted this to the wrong forum.  This looks like the right place.
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Ok, I have got to admit I just don't get it.  I LOVE orgasms!  They are relaxing, they make me content, give me a sense of well being, and when provided by someone close, I feel I could walk to the ends of the earth for them if they asked.
Having that body to body contact, exchange of fluids, hot breath and sweat is like a drug that keeps me in willing to do almost anything to please him for a long time.
Lack of that pulsing, throbbing relief, for me, makes me irritable and unhappy. 

Last night the topic of orgasm control came up in one of my chat rooms.  I said.. I just don't understand that.  And lol.. about half the doms immediately said; "It is about control!  How is it submission if we are giving you orgasms for YOUR pleasure?  If you enjoy it, it isn't submission."

Well.. I have done plenty I didn't particularly enjoy because I was with someone who made me mindnumbingly happy in other areas.  And.. actually, doing those things, even though they were not enjoyable.. became enjoyable because I really needed to please that guy who brought me such physical relief. 

I have to wonder if there is a need to control orgasms because they have so much fear of unabandoned sexuality.

What are your thoughts?  Do you enjoy orgasm control and if so, why?  Have you been denied orgasms?  What does it bring you?
Kyst



i love orgasm control because even though im disappointed about not getting the release at the time i know that it is for Masters pleasure and that it will mean all the diffrence in the pleasure of the next orgasm because it will be double or even triple the enjoyment of just having one.

it pleases me and my master when we do orgasm control so dont be disappointed by it just look at it as a way of pleasing your master and know that eventually you will recieve the reward of one huge climax that will please you both.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 3:18:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

i can orgasm on command marie.....there is a secret word that will do it for me....but i dont tell no one...


Quick! Somebody read her the dictionary!

Umm... but seriously.  I agree that orgasm denial in the sense of "not allowing an orgasm" is ... well, mean and possibly sociopathic.  However, orgasm control is another issue.  There is definitely something appealing to "don't cum until I tell you" and then watching a sub struggle NOT to cum while you stimulate her.  Likewise, it's very satisfying (for all parties) to order a sub to "cum now for me." 

For the sub, I believe this is an enjoyable practice because once that orgasm arrives, it is much stronger and more enjoyable.  I also believe that the waiting itself can be pleasurable.  Have you ever been so aroused that your body is litterally shaking?  The orgasm that comes after is amazing.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 4:04:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		In response to Rover's post way back when, I get great amounts of pleasure and personal fulfillment from my submission.  As for the orgasm denial in general, not my thing.  Not daddy's thing either.  Control?  Where he is doing everything he can to make me explode, but tells me I can't and so I have to do everything in my control not to until he says so?  Hot.  Crazy hot.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 4:21:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have played with all aspects of My little girl's orgasms. When/if/where/how/how many. We enjoy this. Though I would say I enjoy it more than she does. I get off on the control. From telling her that she may not come until x time on x date, to as I did just recently, laying back and telling her to fuck My cock and not to stop until I say so. Usually I will allow her to come at will when I have her do this. It's lovely watching her fuck My cock. Watching the energy slowly drain from her as she comes over and over. Then when she thinks she can't go any further, I demand it from her. Then I watch her as she reaches down inside herself to summon up the energy to give Me that one more that I want from her. Then to gaze upon her splayed out exhausted once I've let her off My cock. Lovely.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 11/14/2008 4:52:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Denial as in no orgasms for weeks or months on end doesn't usually work on women. Women's libidos turn off and we start thinking of our partner as an unpaid roommate instead, and start thinking that a cat would be better.

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