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to be a switch is... - 2/20/2005 1:44:31 PM

webeeknky

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to be a switch is...to love being in charge...and knowing when to submit...it seems some dont understand this way of thinking,but to me its a treat..you may experience what you wish...if you are dominated,you asked for it and ya better be ready to take it!!(wink)

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RE: to be a switch is... - 2/24/2005 9:28:51 PM

pixieunleashed

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What happens if they are not?

Just wondering, as sometimes Shadow allows me to switch with him, but if he says stop, I go right back to being his slave. I think that must be just how I switch though, can be all in one scene, or never with some people, or only as allowed.

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RE: to be a switch is... - 2/25/2005 5:57:16 AM

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Greetings webeeknky, pixieunleashed and anyone else browsing this thread.

I do not wish to offend anyone, so I will apologize up front if what I have to say offends.

I did not give myself the label switch. It was something that my exgf labeled me after we had a lengthy discussion about the "scene". And, truth to tell, I believe she was right. Depending on how YOU approach me, depends on which side (D/s) I show you.
For example:(and this may not be the best analogy but it makes sense to me)

My work. My manager is much, much younger than me. I play submissive to him. Anything he asks me to do, I do without question or second thought. You may say to yourself - that's what you're supposed to do at work - but it goes deeper than that. The other assistant managers are roughly my age and they will rag and criticize him over things, but I do not. I will not tell him if he's wrong even if I know it to be true. He has a very beautiful wife and the other assistants always kid him about sleeping with her when he's gone. When she's there I acknowledge her presence, then pretend she's invisible. I've found that because I play submissive to my manager, he trusts me more. I am the one he will come to if he needs something done and done right.
Now, to anyone else there, including the other assistants - I am the alpha male and they ALL know it. I do not take any crap from them and I have no problem letting them know when I am displeased. I do not ask for things to be done - I TELL you they are to be done and how you are to do it. And if you don't care for it, I have no problems letting you know that you can turn it sideways, pour barbecue sauce on it, and cram it up your candy ass. I'm sure I get talked about behind my back, but they do not have the balls to do it to my face like they do the manager.

So, in short, I agree with you webeeknky. The point is choice, though AT a point may be truth to tell.

Again, I do not wish to offend anyone with my ignorance - just my 2 cents =)

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RE: to be a switch is... - 2/26/2005 7:31:05 PM

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No offense tken...your analagy of your switch tenancy was something I am sure folks can relate to...and there is a mindset to have to serve others,even IF sometimes you have an opinion you choose not to share...you sound like a wise person...Spanks! Neesa-jo

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RE: to be a switch is... - 3/2/2005 2:24:14 AM

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I learned alot being collared to a
Switch~
It was Very nice, again Wishes He was a switch~
I would love to be able to give and Recieve~~
MMMMMM

Sincerely, ant

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RE: to be a switch is... - 3/2/2005 6:54:41 PM

lordhedon

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If you are in fact a switch you yourself know ALLLL about it. Theres no am I or maybe ?

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RE: to be a switch is... - 4/11/2005 4:00:03 AM

MistressTrin

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quote:

Theres no am I or maybe ?

I think for some there is a questioning time. Do I fit there, am I doing this right, is it ok for me to feel that way?...etc..etc...
I was a submissive woman for 10 years before I knew there was a word for it. I enjoy being submissive for someone that brings that out in me. I didn't realize (being perfectly content as a submissive) that being Dominant brought me pleasure as well. When I stopped and thought about it, I realized that while I was being tied up and flogged, I wanted to do that to him! It was at that point that I considered being dominant. I didn't want to give up the part of me that was submissive, either. So, I wear the label switch. I didn't know I could do both because I never tried or considered it. It is quite easy to not know if you don't at least allow for the possibility.

~just a thought ~

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