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RE: 24/7, taking it seriously? - 12/30/2006 3:07:51 AM

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RE: 24/7, taking it seriously? - 12/30/2006 4:22:36 AM

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My boyfriend and I are talking about moving from bedroom kink to 24/7, with me as the slave.

To me this sounds as if you are preparing for a game of Tag or Pin the Tail on the Donkey.
Like someone said, I also question is being a slave in your nature or is this something you are just trying to do or be to make your relationship more exciting?

You don't have a profile up so I don't know how old you are or how long you have been exploring the "lifestyle".
Maybe both of you have interests in it, since you like kinky sex but that does not mean you are compatable for a power exchange relationship.

You didn't mention if when having "kinky sex" do you bottom to him all the time or do you switch around when playing?
It could be you haven't realized your core desires concerning WIITWD. Maybe he isn't a "Master" personality, maybe you do find being "the slave" silly. I would think that if Him>Master, you>slave is something you need to work at on the most basic level that those roles are not alive and/or not natural parts of your personalities.

An example of it being a Natural thing would be a vanilla couple I know are clearly D/s, no-one is being abused, everyone is extremely happy in their "Role", totally consensual without ever knowing a dang thing about the lifestyle, they don't even know it is out here.

Maybe exploring with-in yourselves for a while and just having fun having kinky sex will help you seek and find the answers as to what you desire and what part of the lifestyle feels like the right fit for you both. Maybe it feels "silly" because you feel more like a Switch or Dominant yourself and your partner may be stuggling with the same conflicts??? Maybe you're just compatable in a Vanilla/Kinky Sex type relationship and the lifestyle really isn't your or his cup of tea.

Anyway, good luck with figuring it all out.

Missy.

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RE: 24/7, taking it seriously? - 1/12/2007 4:55:17 PM

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Ask him to write down the rules that you are to follow on a daily basis and ask him write down the chores he expects to have done. The two of you need to sit down and he needs to explain exactly what he expects on a day to day basis, he needs to be as specific as possible so there will be less of a chance that what he wants is misunderstood. A 24/7 lifestyle is different for everybody.

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RE: 24/7, taking it seriously? - 1/17/2007 5:41:34 PM

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My sense is if it doesn't develop naturally then maybe it isn't meant to be as TPE is so different from just the kink sex . The times i enjoyed this, it just developed with a flow and power of its own so....

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