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Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 8:49:47 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Ok I have a new post and I do beleve this may have been done before. I have been talking ot sub on this site and no I will not say who do to if that percon wants to talk about it that person will come here and tak for that persons self.. This person was seeking a Top to this persons Top M to there s The problem the other was sub as well adn whant the first to Top the 2nd from the bottom. Know the other sub is putting demands on the first to top the 2nd, and the 1st having problems. I have been talking to the one however not hte other though I did tell the one to tell the other to come onto this site adn also for the 1st to look here and other sites and toalk with thouse here and look in the forums for information. So Tops Bottoms Masters Mistressess Dommes and Doms Hee is something that all can help with. This is real. And now I have gone to one of the places were I find things out. Shure can't talk to vanila people about this.   
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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:05:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Please spellcheck, this is hard to understand as is.

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:08:00 PM   
allalone47


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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:18:18 PM   
akbarbarian


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quote:

ORIGINAL: allalone47

Spell Check Won't Work, And This Site Doen't Have A Spell Check On It!!!


If you don't have commercial word processing software already, I think there are trial versions of MS word you can download and use for a period of time so you can copy and paste once spell check is done. 

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:27:37 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Please if you have nothing to say about what this posting is about will you please stop hijacking it for your own personal self gradfacation. I put this posting here for a reason and not you B.S.. And As I Said Spell Check Won't Work. You can thank thouse that think with there eagos for that. My Spell Check Was Permantly Destroyed And Can Not Be Fixxed DoTo How And What Was Done 

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:34:07 PM   
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OK, I have a new post and I do believe this may have been done before. I have been talking to a sub, on this site, and no I will not say who, because if that person wants to talk about it, that person will come here and talk for them self.

This person was seeking a Top to this persons Top M to their sub. The problem the other was sub as well and wants the first to Top the 2nd from the bottom.

Now the other sub is putting demands on the first, to top the 2nd, and the 1st is having problems. I have been talking to the one, but not the other,  though I did tell the one to tell the other, to come onto this site and also for the 1st to check this site out as well as other sites, talk with those here and look in the forums for information.

So Tops, Bottoms, Masters, Mistresses, Dommes and Doms: Here is something that you all can help with. This is for real. I'm relying on you for some answers to this dilemma. I can't talk to vanilla people about this.   


(Does this help?)

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:34:24 PM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		As he indicated, your post is difficult to understand. Since your spell check is broken..can you perhaps break this down to make it a bit more clear?

Just an FYI...most people will gladly give advice..but if you start flipping this kind of attitude simply because they are trying to understand what it is you are asking, you are only going to get attitude back.





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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:35:29 PM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		Uh, the best I can make out from your post is there are too many people trying to be involved in a relationship. 

Simplify it.


Then again, it was exceedingly difficult to read, so maybe I missed the mark entirely.

And giving a post a once over with your own eyes does wonders, too.  Don't rely on spell check.


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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:36:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		He was trying to offer advice - the fact is that your situation as explained makes absolutely no sense to me (or him, apparently), partially because of spelling errors (I don't know what word you actually mean in a few places) and partially because of a lack of coherence.  At least he was polite enough to stick to the spelling errors and offer suggestions on how to correct it.  However, you were quite rude in your reply to him. 

If people can't understand what you are asking, how on earth can we offer advice pertanent to the question?

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:37:10 PM   
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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:48:19 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the help. I will try to make it more clear however I have a few restrictions do to I am trying to help an other person on this site with a problem.. It is only two people that are in this problem in that one was seeking a top to be there M. However it turned out this person was not top but sub and didn't realised it.  Then tryed to get the first to Top from the bottom.  This is not what was intended however it happened, and the first moved in with the other before that person realised it.  I am sorry about having to be this vague however I have to be do to I am a 3rd party to this and only in an online setting. And trying to help. Know I need help. Yes I did say to the first to look in  the forums adn ask others as well for help in this adn to try to get the 2nd to ask here or on other sites as well.  

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:51:58 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		As for going to another part of the forum. Well I need help from all. Tops Subs, Switches, Masters, Mistressess , Doms and Dommes. So asking a switch is not the place.

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:55:11 PM   
akbarbarian


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Status: offline 		It sounds like alot of confused people not knowing who they are to begin with.  I don't know, I feel uneasy about playing around with D/s when you don't have a really clear understanding of yourself and what you want because it tends to be riskier than a vanilla relationship emotionally, physically, financially, and in any way I can think of.

And yes, as another poster pointed out I really did mean "What the hell does that say?!" but decided to be helpful and suggest a free program to check with so we can all talk and understand each other.  I know it sucks to be corrected, or to have an error pointed out, but flames and rants tend to be alot more inflamitory than what I said.

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:57:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Generic All Purpose Advice:  The people involved need to sit down, talk about what they really want for the future, what will really make them happy, and then decide if what they have to offer eachother is what will fulfill them or not

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 9:59:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		My first advice is that you need to let them take care of it themselves.  Not only is it confusing as hell to have you explaining it to them, but honestly, what are you going to do with the advice that you get?  Be aware of how they may react to you seeking advice for them (especially if they did not ask you for your own advice) - even if they asked for your advice, they may not take well to you asking for advice from other people, no matter if their names are mentioned in this thread or not.

My second bit of advice is that they need to step back and figure out what they are doing.  Obviously, they started out moving way too fast before they both knew what they wanted, now they need to move back a few steps and figure out if they can make it work.  Most likely, they won't be able to (opinion only, but based on the apparent short relationship and the fact that now one is apparently trying to manipulate the other) but they will have to come to that decision on their own.

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 10:02:21 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Yes Lotus song that is exactly what I was striving for. in my posting. You got it right. As for the righting of the checks part. One though they had a Top when that one was sub and didn't even know it them self.    Know the 2nd is wanting the 1st to be the top only. As for saying much I am between a rock and a hard place on that so It may sount like I bit off more than I can chew. In the begining it wasn't however it has gotten a little more than I barganded for.                                              However I am not going to abandon this person. Something I learned a long time ago. never leave any or your people behind. They did in Nam never again. Wasn't there choise.   

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 10:16:56 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Sweet Dommes. A good idea I did say in my last PM  that I was putting posting up and to ask help from others.                       . It comes to a point that sometime one needs to get differant ideas on something , do to one my not be the right one and an othere may be it                                                           If the one hadn't already moved in with the other, ( and this happend before I got involved) then I would say step back, but know they are living together.                       That is my hard point as well.                                                                                 Can't say move out and can't say stay.  

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 10:27:55 PM   
allalone47


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Status: offline 		Thank you to all that did try to help but it is over, and I can't go anymore in it than that. This Thred is closed.  Thank you all again. 

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 10:34:57 PM   
SweetDommes


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Methinks that we got played ...

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RE: Sub seeking Top but got sub. - 12/31/2006 10:38:07 PM   
tieyouupandplay


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