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Does anybody know - 1/3/2007 9:37:33 PM

Presidentialwhor

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how to control cumming. even when i was living the vanilla life style i never learned how to do it. is there some type of trick to doing this. i would really like to know.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/3/2007 9:48:54 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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IMO not everyone can.

If you mean how to not cum- well just don't play with yourself or get excited.

If you mean how to delay orgasm, there are various methods of distraction/focus and training which can help.

For me, I simply never know when I will cum or not. And when I approach the orgasm, I either have to let it happen or shut it down completely- no middle ground.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_588912/mpage_2/key_orgasm%252Ccontrol/tm.htm#592158
orgasm on command?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_412753/mpage_1/key_cum%252Ccommand/tm.htm#412758
cum control

http://www.collarchat.com/m_313958/mpage_4/key_orgasm%252Ccommand/tm.htm#318568
cum on command

http://www.collarchat.com/m_400934/mpage_1/key_cum%252Ccommand/tm.htm#400996
orgasm on demand

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/3/2007 11:53:16 PM

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okay i skimmed through the threads (probably should have read them all and you can let me know if this specific answer is in there), however..i think what i was trying to ask is how do you keep yourself from cumming unitl He tells you too.

Scenario:
it feels good and you are enjoying it and about to cum, how do you tell yourself not to until He tells you too.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 12:12:53 AM

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PW, sometimes it just doesn't work that way. When it does, it is all a headspace you're in, at least in my experience. It is very difficult for me to delay orgasm, if I am about to cum, and then have one when He says to (although it has worked a few times). I usually either have to roll with it and cum or shut it down completely. Maybe you can train your mind and body to work together like He wants it to ... but then again, maybe not. If not, Meg Ryan's famous orgasm scene comes to mind. ~suppressed grin~

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 12:23:51 AM

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Scenario:
it feels good and you are enjoying it and about to cum, how do you tell yourself not to until He tells you too.

Master owns my orgasms. They are for his pleasure, and stealing them for myself would be disobeying. That was established very early on in my slavery to him. Sometimes though, when I am missing him, I will bring myself to the edge of an orgasm and hold it there awhile, just to feel him.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 2:35:44 AM

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It isn't easy and for some, I doubt if it's possible. Even for those that can, I think there's a point of no return.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 4:10:35 AM

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LOL, it may be really gross, but I start running non sexy thoughts through my head.
For example when I was young I saw a whole refrigerator of maggots as the people turned off the fridge but left tons of food in it. It was two months till we got to go in and clean up the apartment.
I think of awful things like that. Believe me it makes the sexy thoughts you have pop right out of your head and you can then wait till you're built up again to cum.

Just FYI, IMO it's rude to ask LA to read all the individual topics she found for you. It's not her job to do your homework for you. You didn't even thank her for what she already did for you by pulling those threads out. It makes you look a little lazy and ungrateful.
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ORIGINAL: Presidentialwhor

okay i skimmed through the threads (probably should have read them all and you can let me know if this specific answer is in there), however..i think what i was trying to ask is how do you keep yourself from cumming unitl He tells you too.

Scenario:
it feels good and you are enjoying it and about to cum, how do you tell yourself not to until He tells you too.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 10:36:29 AM

briska

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I have to ask permission to orgasm, so when I'm denied, I usually do the same thing suzanne does - it goes right to laundry lists and things to do the next day, very unsexy thoughts until He's ready to give me what I wanted. :)

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 10:37:06 AM

Presidentialwhor

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oh no, when i put the ( ) i was saying that i should have read them all through...and if the specific answer i am looking for is in those post (being as though she has probably already read them) she could let me know to go back and read... i was trying to tell her to read all of them and then tell me lol.

Sorry for for my misinterpretation. Now, i must admit i do get lazy sometimes, however this is not one of the occassions lol lol.

So once again, i do apologize.

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RE: Does anybody know - 1/4/2007 4:23:01 PM

classykindasassy

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This is a fun part of our play. I just don't let it go until a)he says i can, or b)i can't hold it anymore. Probably not much help, but I have a choice for some time before I hit critical mass. Sometimes when "my cummer gets stuck " in the on position and I cry mercy, he makes me be still and breathe slow and deep and that helps.

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