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sapphireC -> How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:28:16 AM)

Is it by luck, by the intimate connection of the heart and soul, is it some magical paradigm?  Is it the wings he creates for you to fly that only he alone could?  Is it the spark of fires in his soul that ignites you to become one with him?



desoutter -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:33:53 AM)

"Youve got brains in your head and feet in your shoes...."

you know what you know....
desoutter



sapphireC -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:36:15 AM)

is it always that simple?



KatyLied -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:39:02 AM)

You forgot the pink unicorn.  Or since you are into flying, the pink pegasus.  Yep, he shows up on a pink pegasus.  That's how you'll know.



sapphireC -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:46:24 AM)

I don't quite understand your reply.  Do you mean by flying - the intensity level I feel?  Is it sarcasm? 



MasterFireMaam -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:46:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sapphireC

is it always that simple?


Sometimes, things really are just that simple.

I'll temper that with these thoughts, however: Looking for the ideal, whatever that ideal is, will always be a path to failure, for the ideal in human terms, will always fall short in reality. If you approach your search with reality in mind, you're much better off than putting "The One" on a pedestal from which they WILL fall. If you approach from love and acceptance, you will be ok with how they fall off that pedestal...or perhaps you won't even put them there to begin with. If you expect them to remain ideal, you will be disappointed at some point. We are human.

Master Fire



toservez -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:50:45 AM)

You don’t. Like any other relationship there are no checklists or rulebook to guide you on the path. It is a journey that we take with our head, heart and instincts and at some point when those things have aligned up then maybe you can walk down that path and see where it goes. There are no guarantees in life and all relationships have an element of luck, good and bad, fate and effort. Like everything else, keep an open mind, communicate and put in the effort.



slavejali -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 12:59:17 PM)

I learnt a lesson about "intensely feeling connnected to someone" a very long time ago. I learnt you can't rely on feelings. I still remember to this day the moment I saw my first husband..from that initial moment he had control over me. The relationship was bad, bad, bad.....He probably killed me 1784 times in previous lives, of course I felt connected to him.

I think more reliable choices for partners comes with logical thinking, a good honest appraisal of where they are at and where you are at in various aspects of living life and consciousness....then you have a good foundation for love and connection to grow and the relationship to be maintained in a way that will be benefical for both people involved.

As far as finding your true Master, add the ability to dominate you to what I said above.



Archer -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 1:05:32 PM)

Personally I think the One true Master/ soulmate stuff is crap.
Now that will upset a few folks, but it's my view.
Personally I think there are several really good matches for each of us out there people who we can form viable loving fulfiling relationships with, rather than a single "soulmate".



classykindasassy -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 5:22:22 PM)

What is a "true master" anyway? If you dig someone go for it and see what happens. At 43, I am well-versed in what it feels like when I know I want to be with someone. It's not all the hearts and unicorns crap. It's a heartfelt knowing that I want this person to put their mojo on me. Like Jali said, you cannot always trust your feelings, but sometimes it goes well. I too thought I had found a "soulmate" in my former husband. But in real life, that connection was in place far too rarely.

I love the one I'm with now. There is great intimacy and the feeling that I can share anything with him. I trust him more than i trust myself!

You might have a few "true masters" in your lifetime, if you stick around long enough. Love can come and go.Take it as it comes.

Hey - i really don't mean to rain on your poetic parade. Sorry. It's just that after some life experience I see all that thinking for what it is - a story i make up in my head. Enjoy it if you can make it live.



Tontita -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 5:38:50 PM)

i agree completely with Archer.  The soulmate crap is crap.



slavegirljoy -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 5:57:48 PM)

Q) How do you know when you find your true Master? 

A) When you find Him, you won't need to ask.  You'll know it.

slave joy
Owned property of Master David



ardelle -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 7:02:20 PM)

Greetings
 
how does one know when they have reached the place that feels most like home? You simply know it; deep down in the heart and in the soul.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 7:11:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

Personally I think the One true Master/ soulmate stuff is crap.
Now that will upset a few folks, but it's my view.
Personally I think there are several really good matches for each of us out there people who we can form viable loving fulfiling relationships with, rather than a single "soulmate".




I agree with you. I don't think the "true" one is something people should get caught up in. It leads to unreal expectations. Find someone that matches your interests and go from there.



sapphireC -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 7:14:22 PM)

Ardelle, thank you for your reply and thanks to all the others.  I find it very interesting to read various view points and the level of maturity and judgement of some.  That question was more meant for him and he knows that.  You are correct though - the answer lies within the soul and we know it when we know it.  [:)]



MasterHXB -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/9/2007 11:21:08 PM)

When you found me. lol wink.

There is no true master in bdsm lifestyle. You just find a person you want to be in a relationship with. Have good communication and just hope for the best to happen.



bandit25 -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/10/2007 3:05:42 AM)

Yeah, although it's nice to think that you've found your "true" anything, it does lead to some very unreal expectations and heartache. 



Demonwolf -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/10/2007 3:27:08 AM)

I don’t believe in the hype of this true Master or this perfect subbie.  For any form of relationship to work you must accept the person for who they are.  Second you have to click with each other character to make a close relationship.  Sometimes I find that people expectations are to in the land of fantasy, than facing reality.  However saying that I do believe that there is a right person who will meet your expectations in a BDSM relationship and you just need to find them.



Padriag -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/10/2007 5:44:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

Personally I think the One true Master/ soulmate stuff is crap.
Now that will upset a few folks, but it's my view.
Personally I think there are several really good matches for each of us out there people who we can form viable loving fulfiling relationships with, rather than a single "soulmate".

A study I read years ago (I forget which one it was) made the claim that statistically for each of us there was an average of 50,000 people with whom we could find romantic bliss.  Course for some of us, that 50,000 happens to all live on another continent.... LOL

I do believe in the concept of "soulmates", even if I don't believe in souls.  There are those special individuals you meet with whom you share a deep connection.  I've experienced it in the past.  I'm also self aware enough to know exactly why it happened, what it was about her that allowed that to happen.  There wasn't anything mystical too it, it was a matter of the kind of person she was and how that meshed with who I was at the time.  I also know it can happen again, provided I find someone with whom who I am now meshes with just as well.

So to answer the OPs question... only you can know when you've met the right person.  And sometimes, you might be wrong.  You're human and we all make mistakes.  Sometimes we get hung up on all the wrong things and miss a real gem.  Sometimes we trust the wrong person and let ourselves be fooled.  It happens to us all.  All we can do is try to learn from each experience, try to get to know ourselves better, know better what is really important to us and keep following our hearts while still listening to our heads.



mymasterssub69 -> RE: How do you know when you find your true Master? (1/10/2007 6:57:08 AM)

i'm sure each experience is different, OP.  with Daddy and me - it was a soul connection.

Daddy found me on another site and from our first messages online to each other, He noticed how lost i was ...like i was looking for a home ... He knew things about me than i knew myself. we instantly connected on many levels during our conversations and i wanted to never leave His side. that's how addicting my Daddy is to me. when He asked, i immediately accepted without giving His question a second thought. in many ways we are twins ...true soulmates for life.





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