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3 Cheers - 1/11/2007 7:41:15 AM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		I was just emailing a friend on the other side about lifes problems.  It came to my attention how far i have come in the past 2 years because of my Master.  So i'd like to cheer on the Masters/Mistresses out there that have really made an impact on their submissives lives.  Who have helped them become better people. 

For me, through my Master i have learned :

What respect means.
i've learned to love myself
i've lost my self destructiveness/recklessness
i've learned to stop cutting
i've learned to not drink like a slush
i've learned to keep myself safe
i've learned that yes i can truely be safe
i've lost my fear of the male gender
i've learned that the world isnt out to get me (mostly)
i've lost the fear of talking
i've learned to open up
i've learned to stop bottling things up
i've learned to talk camly and rationally when i am upset
i've learned to talk about my past and i've healed from it
i've learned to let go of the past
i've learned not to judge myself on the past
i've learned to forgive myself
i've learned to love myself
i've learned to be myself and not hide behind a facade
i've learned what its like to truely be accepted as "me"
i've learned i'm not a bad person.
i've learned its okay to be me
i've learned its okay to cry
i've learned to accept love while i cry
i no longer hide when i do cry
i've learned that YES i DO matter
i've learned my feelings matter
i've learned that if i'm not "ok" it does matter
i've learned that yeah - i'm important too
i've learned to manage my anger better
i've learned that my past ways of dealing with it are not acceptable
i've learned new ways to deal my anger
i've learned to enjoy sex
i now know what "horny and turned on" mean
i've learned that sex can be amazing (and what the whole deal with it is)
i've learned what i enjoy sexually and that matters too
i've learned that sex isnt JUST about the other person
i've learned that its okay to be small and weak
i've learned i'm not super woman
i've learned i really am a girl and its okay to be a girl
i've learned i even enjoy girlie things
i've learned the limitations of myself
i've learned that my limitations matter.
i've learned its okay to be small and weak emotionally
i, again, do not have to be superwoman

i have learned so much more then this, but currently i am learning to have a normal sleep schedule and i am not doing well with it.  Exshaustion + headache does not equal the ability for me to keep going.  :::sigh::  but i feel like i am short changing him here.  There is so much more i have learned.  So many small issues i've over come with his help. I of course, have still have much more to learn. 

2 more

i have learned that pissing a man off does not mean i have to panic
i've also learned that not obeying does not mean i need to duck and cover. 

So, i applaud all the Masters/Mistresses out there who really work with their subs/slaves. 

How far have you come?  What have you learned? 



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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/11/2007 7:54:58 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I guess the best way to put it with my partner is that I've learned that I deserve to be fulfilled in every way and simultaneously feel shocked and blessed by all that I have.

*ending sappy transmissions for the rest of the day*

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 1/11/2007 7:55:27 AM >

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/11/2007 8:23:27 AM   
mymasterssub69


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Joined: 7/2/2006
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		How far have you come?  What have you learned?

in 5 short months with Daddy, i've learned:

my hidden talent is writing
i don't have to be a perfectionist
no one is perfect
i need to stop being hard on myself
it's okay to make mistakes as long as i learn from them
i'm beautiful inside and outside
i don't have to please everyone i meet
i'm a strong black woman
what's like to be loved and cared for
i'm a bit obessessive
how to be a lady in public
how to have respect for myself
need to manage my time and responsibilities more
have yet to reach my full potential

i'm sure there is more and i'm learning more about myself each day with Daddy. our year annivesrary will be in 7months on the 13th


< Message edited by mymasterssub69 -- 1/11/2007 8:29:45 AM >

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/11/2007 9:09:33 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

How far have you come?  What have you learned? 



Devil's sis,
 
this slave has gone from someone convinced of the impossibility of a completely fulfilling, intimate, sensual LTR with another human being during this lifetime to living and breathing it, every day.
 
EVERYTHING this slave knows about the implements in the toy bag, the etiquette at the dungeons, attendance at munches, demos, Folsom (Mecca!), the huge realm of "BDSM", structured M/s relationships, has all been with Master guiding His slave's exploration and experience every step of the way.
 
this slave is in awe of Him.
 
this slave has learned that places like this message board contain a wealth of information and interesting insights into others who self identify with regards to WIITWD, however, gospel it is NOT.
 
this slave has learned the only absolutes that exist to this slave are Master's.
 
this slave has learned that few words can describe the progress and the learning that has come at Master's side over the years. words like these come close:
 
phenomenal, divine, joyful, challenging, blessed, cherished, grateful
 

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 10:00:28 AM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		Thanks for those who replied.

but i must say, i AM disappointed in the CM crowd at the moment.  There are only 4 of us who think that our Dom's and Dom/Masters/Mistresses should be applauded? 

why oh why do negative threads about how some Dominants arent this and that.. and that and this.. and all sorts of negativity can go on for pages after pages - but bring up a happy, cheerful, appreciative thread and it dies after 3 posts? 
Cmoooooooon..............

Look these Doms/Master/Mistresses serve us in phenomanal ways as we serve them.  I think at times we get so much more in return for what they give.  Even if you think its a balance.. you still have to admit that they deserve applause?

Why do more people not want to applaud their Doms/Masters/Mistresses...........?? 

::sigh:: and if i have too.. i am going to go around singling out the Masters, Mistreseses, and Doms/Domme's on this board.... as i know many of them deserve to be applauded as they are wonderful people... i also know that some havent a sub/slave....

but this thread was for ALL of them.. even those that are not currently owning or in a r/s with another.




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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 10:12:21 AM   
Rule


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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 11:32:18 AM   
lighthearted


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Status: offline 		frankly, there are so many things I have learned from Master in such a short time, I become overwhelmed just thinking about it.  every day I wake up and am excited at what the future holds, for myself, for him and for my relationship with him. 

for starters:
it's ok not to be perfect
loving myself is just as important as loving another person
I am beautiful, inside and out
submission doesn't=perfection
he's not perfect, but I love him no less for it

wow...like I said, just thinking about it I become overwhelmed, at how fortunate we were to find each other and how fortunate I am to have him in my life.  he deserves a lot more than applause, he deserves my complete and total devotion...and that's what he's got!


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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 11:38:08 AM   
Fawne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rule

This tread has been viewed twenty times as many as the number op posts in it. That is a good ratio, as most have a ratio of less than ten.


Well, maybe many are gathering their thoughts and composing a list?
 
Very nice, devilslilsister.
 
Alll the best.... and happiness for all :)

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 4:17:27 PM   
topcat


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From: Tidewater, VA
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quote:

i'm a strong black woman


Dear MMS69-

was all that a learning experiance, or just the 'strong' part?

jeskiddin'<g>

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/12/2007 4:44:33 PM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		Who I was, is not who I am.
Who I am, is not fully who I hope to be.
And while Master played and will play a large role in moving that process along, the greatest thing I can say about him is that he restored my belief in myself and my abilities through his ever abiding love and care.

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/13/2007 7:02:19 AM   
Caitriona


Posts: 327
Joined: 8/28/2006
Status: offline 		Every day I am in awe of the changes that My Lord has brought about in me.

I have learned that I am worth being cherished.
Not every man who is angry is out of control.
I do not have to be perfect to please him.
My problems are now his problems, and I should share them.
It's okay to cry.
I do not have to face anything alone.
I am protected and finally feel safe and secure.
I am more confident in myself with each day that we are together.

I count my blessings daily.  I know how fortunate I am to be owned by such an amazing man.


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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/13/2007 11:05:23 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		In my case, you can blame it on my British *reserve*.

He's fully aware of how much I appreciate him......occasionally I let it slip.......lol

agirl

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/13/2007 4:52:12 PM   
tricia


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Status: offline 		There are some things that just can't be put into words.  I couldn't begin to list everything I've learned about myself through his guidance and patience, but I will say this -
He has touched me in places physically, emotionally and intellectually - that no ones even approached.  I have a  love and physical passion for him I will measure every other person against.  I will forever remember his every word that has touched me and stroked me and moved me beyond where mere words should be allowed to go.
 
I don't believe in forever but I continue to cherish every moment of my world with him in it.

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/13/2007 7:11:50 PM   
Hisamicia


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Status: offline 		This thread is one reason I wanted to join here.  Three million cheers would not be enough to ezpress how I feel about my Master NChaka.  He is quite simply the most amazing Man I have ever met and far surpasses all the dreams I ever had about a life partner and Master.  Understanding myself as a submissive was empowering, but it has been my Master's guidance and support that has enabled me to begin building the life I always dreamed of living.  I have the power to succeed only when His hand guides and controls me. 

My Master NChaka:
  • put His collar around my neck before W/we learned that I did not inherit a form of muscular dystrophy.
  • guided me through a divorce I filed just before meeting Him that began with me being timid and afraid with no concrete plans, and ended with me being confident and rebuilding my life which was rewarded with me being granted more in the divorce settlement more than I had asked for and wasoriginally denied.
  • has shown me how to turn abandoned dreams into reality and held me accountable for following through each step of the way.
  • encourages me when I feel discouraged
  • pushes me when I am procrastinating (a rather chronic problem of mine)
  • comforts me when I am sick
  • cheers me up when I am sad
  • reassures me when I am frightened
  • teaches me how to succeed and shows His pride in me when I do
  • picks me up me and does not abandon me when I fail
  • makes me feel beautiful
  • makes me proud be His amicia
  • shows me every day that I am loved and cherished beyond my wildest dreams
  • has my complete devotion for as long as He will grant me the privilege of serving Him
Je t'aime mon Maître.  Je t'adore.

NChaka's amicia

I have never been lifted so high as when I kneel at His feet.

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/14/2007 7:57:44 AM   
mymasterssub69


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From: Chicago, IL
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quote:

ORIGINAL: topcat

quote:

i'm a strong black woman


Dear MMS69-

was all that a learning experiance, or just the 'strong' part?

jeskiddin'<g>

Stay warm,
Lawrence


didn't find it funny

not everyone has the inner strength of handling what i've through in the last 6 yrs.

being strong wasn't a learning experience. Daddy knew i needed someone like Him to continue nuturing it.

besides, is it wrong to proud of the fact that i'm a strong black woman?


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about a Daddy Dom
...something only a little girl
can understand.

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/14/2007 9:47:19 AM   
topcat


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From: Tidewater, VA
Status: offline 		Dear MMS-
 
quote:

 didn't find it funny

not everyone has the inner strength of handling what i've through in the last 6 yrs.

being strong wasn't a learning experience. Daddy knew i needed someone like Him to continue nuturing it.

besides, is it wrong to proud of the fact that i'm a strong black woman? 

I am sorry the humor escaped you- I intended no offense.
 
I was remarking that in contex, one might take:
 
quote:

  in 5 short months with Daddy, i've learned:
<snip>
i'm a strong black woman
<snip>


To mean that proir to the five months ago, you were unaware that you were black or a woman.
 
please pardon my factiousness
 
Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/14/2007 10:15:19 AM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		This is a beautiful thread. 

With my Master, I've learned:

to trust
That I can be fully known, and still cherished
how to communicate my feelings in a respectful way
to see value in my nature
to take care of myself
to love unconditionally
to integrate love and sex
to feel good, to be proud of my sexuality
to not take myself too seriously
to feel safe in the presence of another
that my feelings matter
the ecstasy of letting go and of surrender
the joy of having the freedom to love him in the way that is natural for me
the pleasure of pleasing him
passion

The list could go on and on.  In the years to come, I'm sure the list will be longer, because the learning keeps going and going.  All I can say is that my life is richer and more meaningful, that I am more alive, more true to myself than I've ever been.

One more thing;  my Master is quick to point out that the growth and progress is a team effort.  We did it together.  He created the environment for that growth, but still, I'm the one who had to take the risks, face my deepest fears, resolve past hurts and beliefs about the world.

So, yes...three cheers to the Ones who own us, but three cheers to ourselves as well.  Here, here.     

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/14/2007 10:17:58 AM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I've learned from Master:

1. There is life after death (of a loved one)
2. That some people smile in their sleep (he does)
3.That I don't have to live at work.
4. That 70's music is cool.
5. To focus more (still working on that)
6. Martial Arts
7. That Masters can sing love songs to you.
8. That he is insightful and I can respect his insight.
9. That its ok to be a bit hedonistic.
10. That he really loves me.

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RE: 3 Cheers - 1/14/2007 1:13:13 PM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		Awwwwwwwwwww............ Thanks everyone for participating! 

Topcat - i got your joke.  3 cheers to you as well as i know you are an wonderful man as well = )

3 Cheers to loads of other Dom/Domme's -Masters/Mistresses on this site that i am suddenly too shy to mention.  All of you know you are wonderful people - so 3 cheers to you!


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