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TypeAsub1 -> Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 7:39:29 PM)
This past weekend I met someone very compelling. We've actually known each other (online) for years, but were both always occupied in other relationships, so were casual email friends only. We connected quite well and I am feeling quite smitten. After a night out visiting a local Jazz club, we returned to his place and I got him settled in with a drink... and I kneeled and took off his shoes. When I looked up at him, he was positively glowing. I had pushed a button. The interesting thing was that it wasn't remotely contrived. It just happened naturally. His smile was so endearing and my heart melted at the sight. So now I'm planning for my next trip south when I might see him.. and I realize this IS contrived - but I'm looking for some more similar buttons to push. He has a very strong d/s orientation and is always quite a sadistic bastard - ahh.. such a nice combination! What things have you done in the past that you found really pushed dominant buttons? While I welcome any and all suggestions, I suspect more subtle and elegant things appeal to him.. although, perhaps not. I look forward to your responses and thank you for your input!

MBETWO -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 7:52:12 PM)
My love just brought me a cookie, two actually, it was delightful

all4yourplsr -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:09:20 PM)
OK Try this one out. I built a website for a Mistress I know today and her reaction was such that it brought out such a feeling in me knowing that I pleased her.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:14:18 PM)
great post type a, i wish you allthe luck in the world.....i vote for letting him order for you...that one makess me go all gushy.

maitreDuAcier -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:22:43 PM)
I prefer whatever service in which mine find themselves skilled. It might be a painting, it might be a sonnet, it might be a tea service. The important thing is that it took preparation, that it took thought, that it took time, skill and love.

GrizzlyBear -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:29:51 PM)
Next time, when you take off his shoes, press his foot to your cheek. Then give him a footrub. It would definitely push my buttons! If he sighs or moans, try taking off his socks and sucking on his toes...

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:34:52 PM)
I remember jokingly mentioning to a submissive that I would happily drink any wine with a kangaroo on the bottle. On our first date, he brought me a bottle of Austrailian wine. I was tickled that he remembered something I had liked and offered it. It was so thoughtful. It wasn't the buying, but the noticing of a small thing that I would like. MSS

MaryT -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:42:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TypeAsub1 This past weekend I met someone very compelling. We've actually known each other (online) for years, but were both always occupied in other relationships, so were casual email friends only. We connected quite well and I am feeling quite smitten. Bless your heart. Go with it! Eye contact is excellent, especially when your on your knees and he is not (and I don't know about you, but that was a bit of a push). I make a play (kiss if close enough, lick if my tongue can reach ... try to reach if not) for whatever part of him I can reach in that position (usually his hands since he's usually reaching down to me). I don't think it's contrived anymore than language is contrived. We have to communicate and in that, there is nothing new under the sun. Before I change anything or move, I ask. "May I get up now?" "Would you like ..." etc. Enough of that, and he won't need any encouragement ... This might sound like an unsubbie thing to say, but if you give him enough of your leash, he'll just take the rest. Then you simply follow instructions. It's unsettling and groundless and spooky - and oh so good! (or has been for me) [:)] I'm very happy for you! MaryT, a fellow type A

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:53:19 PM)
Just listen and watch for cues. Some doms like the passive thing, some doms like the active thing- and they all have their weird unpredictable quirks. I'd say more just be attentive and go with what sincerely inspires you- just like what you're already going. It's not the ACT that makes it submissive, it's the motivation.

slavemaia -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 8:57:51 PM)
my Master very much enjoys poetry - i am not well versed in this area, but was given a link to some wonderful poems by e e cummings. i selected one and sent it to Master. He was thrilled. i think anything that says "i'm thinking of You and ways to please You" are all good.

mymasterssub69 -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 9:02:13 PM)
sent Daddy a Valentine's card which He received today

LaMspeach -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/16/2007 9:18:56 PM)
I love the simple submissive acts. The ones that come naturally , that you don't have to think about you just do because it feels right. Trying cooking him something he really enjoys.. giving him a bath ... wait for him to take the first bite or drink before you do. But as i said already it is the simple natural things that seem to mean the most ( at least to me).

twicehappy -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 4:21:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaMspeach it is the simple natural things that seem to mean the most ( at least to me). I too think it is those things that your Master, dom, domme sees as coming from someplace inside you, unbidden, as a reaction to themselves, that mean the most. Like that moment when you are undressing them and stop to press yourself against their leg, or kiss the top of their foot. It also works the other way, when Scooter unthinkingly wraps his hand around my collar and holds on, it is a natural reaction to me, i love it.

brightspot -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 5:56:19 AM)
Fast-Reply I found with my Domina that she was most pleased when I would be one step ahead of her needs. I worked hard at learning her timing and expressions conected to her want's, need's and desires and when I was able to sursprise her with just what she needed before she had to ask she would appriciate my devotion to "read"her. She would realize I had all kinds of behind the scenes workings going on, which she so appreciated she would get mushy and loving with me so we both ended up feeling pleased through the dynamic. So try staying two steps ahead and anticipating what would make him pleased and happy and enjoy how fast it comes around back to you. I found this ebb and flow to be quite satisfying for both of us. Missy.

LaTigresse -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 7:49:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: brightspot Fast-Reply I found with my Domina that she was most pleased when I would be one step ahead of her needs. I worked hard at learning her timing and expressions conected to her want's, need's and desires and when I was able to sursprise her with just what she needed before she had to ask she would appriciate my devotion to "read"her. She would realize I had all kinds of behind the scenes workings going on, which she so appreciated she would get mushy and loving with me so we both ended up feeling pleased through the dynamic. So try staying two steps ahead and anticipating what would make him pleased and happy and enjoy how fast it comes around back to you. I found this ebb and flow to be quite satisfying for both of us. Missy. I know I just love this. That someone actually pays attention to my life and does the little things that will make it that much more pleasant. Noticing how I make my favourite coffee and when my cup is getting low refilling it. Cleaning up after I have cooked (I love to cook but hate to clean) Helping me to stay more organized ( hopeless task but the effort is delightful) Recognizing when I am stressed about something and knowing me well enough to know how to help rather than make things more stressful. A simple heartfelt "is there anything I can do for you?" or asking to do a task I normally do like feeding horses etc.

Kondolinni -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 8:05:35 AM)
Beautiful. The lovliness of the moment, for me, and it sounds like for you, lay in the truth of it. The naturalness of you gesture, the easy acceptance from him. Had you kneeled at my feet, most especially after my having known you so long without such an exchange occurrring, I would have left from the event consumed by the chance to bring about a repeat performance. I'd be caught up in daydreams of what might be coming next. Whatever you do, the charm of your kneeling had to do with it's easy grace. Given as thoughtlessly as might have been you offering to get him a drink. Maintain that aspect of it as you explore. I'd also want the nuance of that moment to continue for a while, before we actually broached the subject of having it be a formal aspect of your sharing with him. Put off discussing D/s openly with him for as long as this innocent discovery can be prolonged. Absolutely delightful.

WorldofSilence -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 10:40:12 AM)
I have to concur with alot of people here. It's the natural things, one thing I enjoyed was have a loose strand of hair tucked away because the person knew just how much it annoyed Me to be walking around all day unaware of this silly strand of hair near poking Me in the eye, and My eyes are important cos if I can't see I can't communicate. It's the little gestures that take no effort that brings big smiles to My face. On that note I also like planned things, because of the time and effort it took for that person to do it. So far I hope for the day someone would within there own time learn a little sign language and sign to Me, trying to be apart of My world and seeing that effort would make Me very happy. Hope that helps? WoS

GentlehandSTL -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/17/2007 11:59:02 AM)
It is the little things...very much

bipolarber -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/20/2007 2:09:01 PM)
There was an episode of "West Wing" that summed up my whole approach: in it, President Bartlett (who was always quoting scriptures he was fond of) brought up an almost forgotten Bible passage where we were told what the meaning of life on Earth really was all about" to make it easier for others. Now, I'm not what you would call a "christian" guy in any way... but the idea is correct. I try to make the life of my Dom/me easier. Simply asking "How can I make today easier for you?" And being willing to work at that need, has amazing results. I've made coffee, cleaned up the house before company arrived, ran out and got them breakfast from Denny's, repainted the main hallway, helped take a load of old junk to the dump, negotiated late check out times with hotel managers at BDSM events... just whatever was needed.

Miraculix -> RE: Simple Submissive Acts (1/20/2007 5:09:54 PM)
You can try these, but then again, the result may vary if your guy is consciouly or subconciously driven to be a dominant: Casually when behind his shoulders, and if he is sitting, give him a quick massage. Personally I melt on it, when she decides to do it without Me asking for it or even suggesting it. Try to imagine you are finding muscles that are "knotted" by the things he is going thru in life, and your fingers are tying those knots lose. Does he/the two of you smoke? Light it for him... If he wears a tie, casually play with its end while you are talking to him, or listening to him. We love our ties to be fiddled with. Make it look like you weren't even thinking of it; it just came naturally for your fingertips to reach out for his tie. This is a question that always brings me joy, when I get it from my lil girl: "What are you wearing tomorrow, so I can press it...?" (assuming you have an iron at hand... LOL) While listening to him, look at a specific place on his face or neck, like you just discovered a spot, a crumble or any other thing that needs to go. Then remove it, and direct your eyes to His, showing that the act of "grooming Him" did NOT make you lose concentration on what he was saying. As time progresses, you will learn his mannerisms in talk. All of us have it. Some poeple add "and then some" at the end of their sentences, others add "now". Some people starts their sentences with a "well..." or a "...you see" Send him a card for Valentine's, with his mannerism inbued in a phrase that expresses your feelings for Him.

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