Old Doms.. What is your deal?

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Koukei -> Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:22:22 PM)
I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries? ~Koukei MonStar~

MasterKalif -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:29:31 PM)
koukei.....while I know you adressed your post to older Doms and at 26 I don't qualify as such, the minor mistake you make is when you state "exceptions rarely made" this makes men (referring in general) think they may have a rare chance and may have nothing to lose (again not all men think like this)....it is unfortunate that this stuff happens, but everyone wants a piece of the newbies in my opinion.....[:D]

Koukei -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:33:29 PM)
See... doms make the mistake of thinking im new to this lifestyle. I may have been a virgin up until a year ago... but this lifestyle has been with me since like 15? And I made an exception ONCE. He was 40 and looked 25. And its really not about them being older... its about how they read my profile and completely ignore it and mail me. Currently the profile says "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" which should be clear that IM NOT LOOKING. Why do I get no respect? ~Koukei MonStar~

hisannabelle -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:38:05 PM)
there are plenty of people who, like me, have a boyfriend (who i am also collared to), but live a poly lifestyle and so are still seeking different sorts of relationships. perhaps you should replace "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" with "I'M NOT LOOKING." there are plenty of people who just don't read profiles. you would not believe the number of messages i get from people wanting to collar me or wanting me to relocate to them when i state expressly at the top of my profile my current situation and what i am seeking. people are just stupid. the best thing to do would be to delete and move on. as a sidenote: as someone who is collared to an "old dom" (my dominant is 54, and anything but old), i'd like to point out that you -may- be missing out on interesting relationships or at least friendships by excluding certain age ranges. but, hey, everybody has their preference, even if i think it's crazy ;) and there are plenty like you who only seek within a certain age range.

Zensee -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:38:51 PM)
Your profile makes no mention of age preferences, only that you have a boyfriend (and that's not enough to disqualify you as contactable, in this lifestyle). Your journal entries might discuss age but that's not the place for such stipulations. Put it up front (where it can be ignored more easily - LOL). Z. PS: And please ues a darker font colour for posting on the forums.

MasterKalif -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:43:08 PM)
yes unfortunately I have to agree with the others, people, the masses are stupid and do not read fine print or even semi-large print....or don't read at all. I would say rather than the boyfriend thing "I am not looking - taken" in large bold letters that stand out at the beginning, and no "rare exceptions" you can add that later when they stop. Also unfortunately online many people are disrespectful, including those who call themselves Doms as well as those who call themselves submissives. Its a shame, really.

Koukei -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:49:51 PM)
[:'(] Its just unbelievable. I do agree with you about my profile being more indepth... i just got to lazy to write the whole thing out when I went to update it. Hahaha! I just got sick of having it all there. My likes, my dislikes... and still I will get mails from doms asking if they can cum in my hair. WHEN WILL THEY UNDERSTAND THE HAIR DOESNT GET TOUCHED. It costs more to maintain then any dom is worth. ~Koukei MonStar~

BitaTruble -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:53:48 PM)
You might want to consider taking off the 'actively' seeking from your list. If you put in there 'friends only', you won't come up on the search parameters of all us old foggies. [8D] Celeste

Zensee -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/16/2007 11:57:54 PM)
Who ya' callin' a fogie, ya young whippersnapper! Come here so I can beat ya with my walker!

Koukei -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 12:07:48 AM)
Beating with a walker? That sounds kinda hot. ~Koukei MonStar~

BitaTruble -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 12:20:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Zensee Who ya' callin' a fogie, ya young whippersnapper! Come here so I can beat ya with my walker! Second best offer I had all day. [8D] I'd skip right over there but my orthopedic shoe is untied and I can't chance falling because I forgot to pay my LifeAlert bill due to senility. [:D] Celeste

ShogunSensei -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 12:29:15 AM)
Now see what yer missin' out on? grins

Focus50 -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 12:52:01 AM)
Reeeeally old Dom here.... Your profile says you're female, submissive and young - and that's just asking for trouble.... lol You take this far too personally; all women get geek mail, including Dommes. But I'm curious.... You actually only get it from the oldies or is it that you don't mind it from younger males? Focus.

parfait -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 1:53:49 AM)
I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries? Go to your mail controls and change the "older than" setting to 35, that way all the mail from older men are being routed to the bulk mail folder. Problem solved [8D]

julietsierra -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 2:03:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Reeeeally old Dom here.... Your profile says you're female, submissive and young - and that's just asking for trouble.... lol You take this far too personally; all women get geek mail, including Dommes. But I'm curious.... You actually only get it from the oldies or is it that you don't mind it from younger males? Focus. And beyond all that, I'd have to say just get over yourself. Unless your name is actually Rodney Dangerfield, you're not dealing with less respect than anyone else around here hasn't had to deal with. And here's a REALLY novel idea! You could simply choose to contact those people privately and thank them for their interest while restating that you are not looking. It takes a full 3 seconds maybe - unless you're on dial-up and then, it might take longer. It's been my experience that profile or no profile, picture or no picture, the bottom line is that when people are searching, and your name comes up, they're going to make contact. Get over it. Get over yourself. Move on. You're really not all that. And they're not sitting back contemplating just what they can do to make your day difficult. They're simply sending you an e-mail. Delete it. You'll feel better. Even better, respond to it, politely declining their inquiry and you'll seem a whole lot more mature than coming in here ranting over those "old doms" who have the unmitigated gaul to contact god's gift to the universe (young and nubile you) when afterall, your profile specifically states "exceptions rarely made." (Here's a clue: "rarely" means sometimes, and if nothing else - although many have pointed out that you have a lot more in your profile that actually encourages rather than discourages contact - that alone is enough to give people the impression that perhaps you might be open to them.) And as I'm reading this thread, about the only response I had regarding the depth and level of your experience, even in juxtaposition with newness of your de-virginification was to quote my kids back when they were 9 or so... "Big whoop." A hymen's a hymen honey, and by the way, what does THIS have to do with receiving e-mails? juliet

justheather -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 3:03:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: parfait I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries? Go to your mail controls and change the "older than" setting to 35, that way all the mail from older men are being routed to the bulk mail folder. Problem solved [8D] Oh but that would mean no more starting "What a huge inconvenience it is to be wanted by so many people" threads.

eyesopened -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 3:29:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justheather quote: ORIGINAL: parfait I would just like to know...Why do doms in the 40s plus hit on/mail me after putting in my profile/journal SO MANY TIMES that men over 35 unwelcome and exceptions rarely made? There is nothing wrong with being older... but why totally ignore me? Dont you think I should get some respect for my boundries? Go to your mail controls and change the "older than" setting to 35, that way all the mail from older men are being routed to the bulk mail folder. Problem solved [8D] Oh but that would mean no more starting "What a huge inconvenience it is to be wanted by so many people" threads. Hee hee!! The OP could change her age to 53 and then she would only get hit on by guys under 30 who think us dinosaurs are so unfuckable that we need the services of young studs willing to perform acts of mercy LOL

Aubre -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 8:12:25 AM)
Because they know that they are the "One Dom" who could change your mind.

drawntothedark -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 8:15:44 AM)
It does not matter what you put on your profile. Mine is very to the point and I still get unwanted email everyday. That is why Collar me in their infinate wisdom gave us a block button. Seriously, it's the internet and no matter how annoying some people get there is really not much you can do about it.

SassyMistress3 -> RE: Old Doms.. What is your deal? (1/17/2007 8:45:33 AM)
Ouch ! that really hurt "eyesopened" nah just teasing, I have on my profile" Only in Oregon" I get contacted all the way from my home town to the U.K. I want only 30 to 45year old. I get 19 and 65 year old. Maybe cause I am 4'12 , Sassy, Red haired Dom. It really doesn't bother me for the most part.It is the ones that send me a pick of their stuff and tell me how much I need to "ride this all night" . I just reply back. I have one of those in my closet, it stays harder longer, vibrates and I don't have to listen to it snore. I usually don't hear back from them, wonder why? For the most part I would just take the suggestion of changing you mail status. It won't get rid of all of them just weed out a few? Sassy Mistress 3

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