Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: acctonthelook i'm asking the question to determine if it's me whose just needy or is it purely normal to expect a new Master/ Dom to take quality time with his sub? sorry to have confused some ppl. i am noticing that many Master/ Dom's don't take the quality time in personal meetings as my mentor took with me years before. so having this happen is making me wonder if i'm just being needy. i think getting together at least twice a week in the beginning is very important to build a bond, but maybe i'm just the type who finds email and phone not something i enjoy. i enjoy the in person contact and conversation much better than email or the phone calls for me it's a beginning of a 'relationship'. i guess not many people are relationship oriented. maybe it's just me. that's why i posted. i'm confused as hell. + when you've had someone as your first take so much time and care it's hard to settle for mediocre (sp?) This sounds more like a case of "welcome to the Net!" Seems like probably 90% of "doms" are here because the Net allows them the anonymity to escape their dreary (or probably married) lives and pursue whatever fantasies they'd never dare in real life! So they contact preferably naive or inexperienced fem/subs and unleash all that pent up spiel.... Indeed, they probably seek out cyber contacts specifically to avoid r/l contact, as it really is just fantasy to them. So you have yourself an excellent indicator for when someone is a time-waster; Net geek etc. For those of us who actually need and desire r/l contact, of course we'll put in the "hard yards" to achieve that - with NO timetable constraints. Unfortunately for you, the Net "doms" have a considerable numerical advantage over the "real-lifers" and you need to set your radar accordingly.... Focus.
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