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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/21/2007 12:26:35 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

LA must be sleeping late, but she'll be along soon with the links to previous discussions on the subject. But in the meantime, if you click on search up there in the right hand corner and put in sub drop, you'll get some info.

Heh even later than usual :) Thanks.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/21/2007 1:03:48 PM

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Thank you all for your wonderful replies! i was out and about when someone asked the question "what is sub drop?' i apologize for this!

i've learned quite a few things from these posts. i'm thrilled, because i don't have the best means of coping with sub drop sometimes!

i thank you all, again.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/21/2007 1:10:21 PM

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Well it's always useful to remember that even if subdrop is dreadful and you have no way of coping- it is NOT a permanent state, it is NOT deadly, and as long as you don't go and make any serious decisions while you're dealing with it, it should all smooth itself out in time.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/23/2007 6:08:49 PM

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Subdrop is actually several different things that happen at the same time - Knights of Mists and His kyra have presented it beautifully. It's important to take care of yourself especially if you have pre-diabeties/diabeties and any medical issue. For me before the scene is set up i have water ready for immediately after not only for myself but my Owner. i also make sure i bring something sweet to eat for the B/both of U/us. i also will have prepared a towel and cold wash cloth for Master for after the scene. For some slaves/submissives after a scene they are unable to physically funtion. Some, however, like myself are able to function and my Master will always give me direct orders to follow to keep my mind on service. S/some have reacted to this as they think He is not providing after care but for me that is needed.

i always discuss with Master what went well during the scene or what could have been done better to make the scene better for E/either of U/us usually within 24 hours - this helps B/both of U/us to reconnect with each other and improve O/our scenes. Eating well balanced meals is very important in the following days. In addition in the next day or so following the scene, i reclean the toys and make sure anything that needs replenishing is done so (i.e. cotton pads, needles, scaples). i also typically have brusies and or cuts after a scene that will be tended to and Master requires daily discussion/report and sometimes inspection on their healing. Depending on what is done to my body i have a different regiment. In addition i have a "scene" journal that i put down my feelings which helps very much.

If i play with someone other than my Master within 24 hours i send a thank you by mail or phone. For Master i present myself to Him and thank Him for allowing me the scene. It's important to discuss your feelings with the Top/Master/Mistress/Owner etc about the scene and realize They may be having Dom/me Drop. Reconnection and communication once again are important and can help B/both.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/23/2007 8:14:25 PM

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not everyone feels a "drop", "withdrawal" or "allergic reaction" or interprets the sensations they are feeling in the same way with the same chemicals as everybody else has imbibed or created from within.

some folks want/need extra attention, affection, cuddling to feel good about themselves regardless of their admitted chemical (im)balances and the term "sub-drop", like "sub-frenzy" sounds so psychobabbologically cool, they run with it.

personally, this slave doesn't feel a "drop" or a "withdrawal" from the high that comes from within, after intensity with Master--the only long-term residual this slave feels after surfing that endorphin wave is a boost in her overall calm, an intense feeling of peace and occsionally tears of joy.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/24/2007 7:53:10 AM

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I think the most important part for me is to remember that this too shall pass. Like LA said, when i start to feel really droppy, i try..though not always succeed, to remind myself that the next day i will feel better. For me its almost like clockwork. If we play on fri, my worst drop day will be Mon. If we play on Sat, my worst drop day will be Tues. So knowing this we can both prepare for it. My Master has been teaching me how to meditate, which does help a great deal. Because of his work schedule, he cannot always drop everything and be there for me, so its a way of teaching me how to take care of myself.
One very important thing i have learned is that excercise helps with drop immensely. Since excercise releases endorphines, it can help with subdrop. So especially on Mon or Tues mornings i make sure i make it to the gym, no matter how much i don't want to.

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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/24/2007 10:51:29 AM

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Hi There,
Maybe I'm not the norm, but even with something sweet to eat before bed the day I play I still drop hard mentally and physically after a heavy scene.
The physical is a fullness or pressure I get just above my kindey area. People have said it must have something to do with the tension I hold in my muscles during the scene.
Emotionally I'm not so much teary eyed as all the little issues I've been dealing with magnify ten fold for again about two days behind a heavy scene.
I also end up needing way more sleep a couple of nights and feel absolutely wiped out and drained.

Over all knowing, and expecting this is how I feel makes me OK with it.
If I had no idea why I was like this I'd be concerned.
What I try to do is still do my essential tasks, but back off a little on the optional activities I've not committed to prior and rest more if possible.
Being I'm one who hardly ever sits still this is way different than my normal energy and habits.
If I have lots of activities or chores I've already committed to I keep up with them and I just soldier on and keep going.

As far as the emotional things that feel more magnified in sub drop. What I do my very best not to bring up new issues I think about for at least 42hrs behind the play. I also ask people to please hold off on seriously emmotional conversations they bring up for 2 days too.
With my Dom I make him aware I'm very emotional and prefer not to discuss heavy issues for 2 days as well.
If he chooses to proceed into a conversation I just temper everything I think with care and try not to have sub drop make things come out of my mouth I don't mean.
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RE: Good ol' sub drop - 1/24/2007 1:13:05 PM

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I find all I need is extra hugs and extra pats on the head .. I need to be reassured, in other words, that I *am* a good girl.
My Owner is VERY good to me though and reads me VERY well. I've never had a problem after play.
My worst "drop" is in the couple of days BEFORE an intended visit. I am too anxious, I suppose.

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