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demistress -> "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:31:02 PM)
Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question?

crouchingtigress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:36:32 PM)
nope, this is a kink site, i am a kinkster, and it seems to me par for the course....if it comes up too early i tell them so, but i think there is a tremendous amount of value to know if kinks match up early on, because imo its a pretty important part of compatability. i would however prefer a straighter approach, but sometimes communication skills are a part of what they come to me to learn.

crouchingtigress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:37:55 PM)
i dont understand getting pissed off....can you explain it a little?

canupleaseme -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:38:19 PM)
I find its a hard question to answer and i dread being asked it becasue how the hell do i know what i would do to them if..... was occuring. Unlesss i am right there doing it so now i say well you would have to find out [:)]

demistress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:41:51 PM)
My preferences, kinks, likes, dislikes, are all clearly defined on my profile. Therefore if they have half a brain, they'll KNOW what I would do to them. Those asking are 99.9% of the time asking for a descriptive, personalized answer to wank with. The .1% who are asking for 'pure' reasons get painted with the same brush I suppose.

TxBlkMistress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:45:03 PM)
I totally understand why someone would get pissed off. I haven't had not one person to ask me that question that didn't use it to jerk off. And funny when I refuse to feed them stories, these same "serious" guys disappear. Imagine that. There are ways to find if we are compatible. I don't mind them asking me generic questions....like do you do this or that...but I draw the line at giving scenarios. If they are serious, then they will take the time, and they will learn all they ever wanted to know. Furthermore, if you and this person do get together, well there is a lot of the element of suprise that is pretty much gone. that's the way I do things any way.

TxBlkMistress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:48:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: demistress My preferences, kinks, likes, dislikes, are all clearly defined on my profile. Therefore if they have half a brain, they'll KNOW what I would do to them. Those asking are 99.9% of the time asking for a descriptive, personalized answer to wank with. The .1% who are asking for 'pure' reasons get painted with the same brush I suppose. totally agree...and like the previous poster, I have no idea what I will do to someone until I get to know them. I get to know people, their personalities, and pattern what I do around what I learn...I don't have some cookie cutter plan....one size does not fit all. You do one thing to one person and it's fine, you do the same to another person and it could trigger some bad childhood memory.... just can't get around basic communication

LotusSong -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 5:51:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: demistress Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question? YES!!!!!!

Jeniluscious -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 6:03:31 PM)
It quietly, deeply infuriates me. I do try to weed out those who are not looking for wank fodder by responding "I don't know; I don't know you. What I do is dependent on the person; I'm not working through a laundry list." And like some of you have mentioned, the male questioner will usually depart... rapidly. Another response that works well is this: "I'd like to get to know you as a real person, not a lump of flesh; I hope this would be reciprocal." Makes 'em flee ever'damn time.

crouchingtigress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 6:09:08 PM)
i see what you are talking about, but anger seems like an extreme reponse for a dominant working with a new and or potential sub....mistakes happen, people err because of new newness or hornyness, or both, but as the dom i have the ability to clearly define what is and is not acceptable behavior so i dont need to get angry...i simply correct them, and if they run a way to wank from that...tells me a lot about who they are...you know?

KaramelGoddess -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 6:46:20 PM)
I think some get angry (Myself included) because it's insulting and it's frustrating, especially when the person seemed interesting once upon a time. Kind of makes you feel used or like a prostitute...blech. With kind regard, ~Kara

Smythe -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 7:53:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress i see what you are talking about, but anger seems like an extreme reponse for a dominant working with a new and or potential sub....mistakes happen, people err because of new newness or hornyness, or both, but as the dom i have the ability to clearly define what is and is not acceptable behavior so i dont need to get angry...i simply correct them, and if they run a way to wank from that...tells me a lot about who they are...you know? I think if you hear it enough you lose the patience for even explaining why it's an annoying thing to ask. If have patiently responded to this kind of thing 50 times, on the 51st time I probably said "Oh you are an idiot." Sad but true :) Smythe

MzMia -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 8:06:16 PM)
LOL I have come to accept most of the "submissive" men on here are do me's. Please don't flame me on this. I am entitled to MY opinion and that has been MY experience on collarme and other sites similar to this. I don't get pissed off any more, I just laugh. There is a reason I have not met anyone on here yet. Ma'am? I am here to serve you? What are you going to do to/for me? hahahahahahahahaha

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 8:16:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeniluscious It quietly, deeply infuriates me. (laughing mirthlessly) Yeah ... this is pretty much my response to "What would you do to me?" The first time it annoyed me as an obvious ploy for porn, and since then (the last 50 or so times), it's just gotten more intense. MSS

MistressDolly -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 8:19:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: demistress Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question? Why would someone else's stupidity (or ignorance) affect me - - it's not my fault they don't know any better. It's not "me" they're insulting - - they're insulting themselves. The "do me" question has nothing to do with me personally; this person probably asks these silly questions to every other woman at every given chance. In the grand scheme of things, they and their silly comments just don't matter. Just another fellow human being with a social mentality of a 4 year old. Poor critter. Maybe one day they'll get it and grow up. Or maybe not.

DesireDeeva -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 8:33:50 PM)
The majority of the subs on here don't even "read" the entire profile, they'll look at ur pic or pix & then wanna ask stupid questions like"what would you do to me"? in hopes that you'll answer as they proceed to play w/their weiners, I usually get the same dumbazz question from "novice" subs & they wonder why I don't respond...Hmmmmmm, lol

LadyOunce -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 9:08:44 PM)
I think it's a good way to figure out if kinks line up.

Spankinatrix -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 10:37:02 PM)
I just hung up on someone for that a couple of hours ago. Granted this was after I told him several times that it somewhat depends on who he is (I haven't met him yet) then told him some of my general preferences. It was also after I told him that it sounded like he wanted me to tell him something to masturbate to. He kept asking. I will gladdly share stories of past scenes, invite prospective subs to watch me in scene, and negotiate early scenes before they happen (once we know each other well) but I will not be your free, kinky phone sex girl. There are lots of other people happy to scene on the phone, it shouldn't be hard to 'em on IRC. N

pixelslave -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 10:54:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: demistress Anyone else get totally pissed off when someone (even someone you've liked up to that point) asks this question? Instead of getting mad, you could always reply with something like "It would greatly depend on my mood. I'd have to get to know you a lot better in order to be able to answer that question." If he bolts, then he's obviously not sincerely interested in learning more about you and what you might also want him to do to serve you as well. If he doesn't bolt, then perhaps he's made a genuine error and there's something there to work with. [8\|] As others have mentioned, we're all human and many newbies are anxious to get started and perhaps want to know that their needs are likely to be met. Some are also not mature enough to have the patience it takes to develop a relationship with a woman to learn what's unique about her beyond what they see on the exterior to really yearn to be with her and desire to please her in any way they can in very unselfish ways. Perhaps that's part of what a woman needs to teach a younger sub (or an older one who has never learned)? [&:] - pixel

TxBlkMistress -> RE: "What would you do to me?" (1/27/2007 11:04:10 PM)
I think we are splitting hairs here...I'm sure "totally pissed off" was just a figure of speech. I doubt anyone flies into a rage and trashes the room or anything. It's just frustrating at times..that's all. I don't get upset about hng's one way or the other, they are not in my life so let them stay in mommies basement. Even if they could make me angry I wouldn't give them the satisfaction....

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