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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 4:47:34 AM

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   I think 'fakes' lie in the eyes of the beholder.   I have met Dom's who just didn't work for me and I could have called them 'fake' but the simple thing was they just didn't work for me.   I encountered some Doms/subs through email, chat, or message boards that imo seemed to be 'fakes' even when they stated they were in RT relationships.   In most cases however their dynamics were just different from mine.
I have been called fake, more times than I can count because I didn't 'kneel' or call someone 'Sir'. My relationship have been implied as 'fake' because we met on the net and I didn't get references about him from the online community we belonged to or because it's a LDR.   But for me, we are very real and the dynamics of our relationship works for us.
Perhaps the couple you contacted considered you fake therefore ceased contact.   I am not saying that you are but I really think people tend to use the label fake very loosely.
There is only one person I have met in the lifestyle R/T that I consider a real fake.   Why? Because he was abusive and domineering and tends to use 'contracts' as a safety net to commit abuse.

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 5:21:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: Solinear

Also, you're showing as only having been on the site for 9 days...

The 9 days was actually a mistake on my part when working on my profile or ad or what have you. accidently deleted my account, then re-instated it as fast as i could.

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As for all the other advice i've gotten on here, thank You all so much. i'm beginning to understand a little more about the people that are using this site. i do believe i may have let my gaurd down too soon, but no worries. Next time i will try much harder to get to know the person(s) who is/are talking to me.
Thank You all again so much.

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 5:30:15 AM

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I had spoken to Pup back a while ago (version one of the profile, actually) and I think it was probably someone having fun at the newbie's expense. They bolted when they realized that he was actually taking what they were saying seriously. There are a good number of people on here that like to play with people that way, and unfortunately, they usually look for th less expereinced, since the more experienced ones can sniff them out faster.
No har no foul, though. You never put yourself into harms way face to face, so consider yourself lucky. ITs always better to find out someone isnt what or whom they apear to be, or looking for what they originally said theyd look for, before you invest time and money into meeting in realtime.
Give it a chance, it takes some of us years to find what we want.
When you do find the right one, though, it makes it worth the wait.
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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 7:21:44 AM

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Fakes - 1/28/2007 8:32:48 AM

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One of my acid tests is if they say the are an Expert on everything. Especially if they say they have only been in the lifestyle a couple of years. I see profiles like that and run. Most real people won't claim to be an expert in something without years of experience to back it up.

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 7:34:25 AM

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The most useful way to find out if someone is "fake" is time, time and time. When I'm communicating with someone, I listen for consistency. If someone likes *everything* I like, I find that concerning, because in the past these folks have turned out to be BSing. I try to meet someone within a few weeks of starting to email because the way someone presents online can be radically different than in person. And I listen for the sound of my bullshit detector going off.

There ain't no magic bullet.

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 10:37:10 AM

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The fact that they didn't respond doesn't mean they're fake. It could be that something you wrote caused them to think you weren't compatible. Yes it is rude not to write back and say good bye and good luck but it happens a great deal.

Why it happens it that a great many males, and some females, when rejected start writing very nasty emails in response to being told they aren't compatible. Since it is much rarer to get someone threatening to boil your bunny if you simply don't respond, that's why people don't respond with rejection.

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 11:29:57 AM

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Boil your bunny! I gotta remember that one! mind if I use it ?

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RE: Fakes - 1/29/2007 12:44:13 PM

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Dang... and I thought a synonim of "internet" was "fake"...

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RE: Fakes - 1/30/2007 10:35:11 AM

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I've been called fake too, simply because I wasn't willing to meet someone who had been pushing for a meeting from his first e-mail on - without even knowing me. And because I didn't act like he thought a submissive should act. I think he was a fake ;-)

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RE: Fakes - 1/30/2007 10:36:48 AM

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Hi, very new to the whole collarme.com website and dealing with certain folks. i recently came across a fake couple and was unfortunately led around online. i was wondering if anyone can give me any tips to telling whether a profile (specificaly a dominants) is a fake or not.

they're the ones wearing the masks and the voice-altering devices around their necks...LOL

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RE: Fakes - 1/30/2007 10:48:46 AM

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I am a fake lol. I am not a Master or Traditional 24/7 Dom. I like being with a lady that enjoys S&M play and bondage. I like this site to hear the views from accross the board of the lifestylers here. I do not overpromote myself as something I am not.

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RE: Fakes - 1/30/2007 12:03:15 PM

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